umirano Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 (edited) Hey guys, I'm a number's person. I'm interested in hard facts about this mystery love, especially if LD. Take my post as a template and insert the values applying to your situation. I think this thread will help some people to put their own situation in perspective. I use F and M to mark female partner and male partner respectively. If you are in a same sex relationship, replace F and M by M1 and M2 or F1 and F2 respectively. If you don't want to specify genders, use P1 and P2. RS stands for RelationShip, ETA stands for Expected Time of Arrival. Met how: Online Met when: June 2011 Official since: September 2012 Exclusive since: September 2012 Apart since: June 2011 Distance: 2750 km Time difference: 1 hour First Visit: September 2012 Visits total: 2 Visits M->F: 2 Visits F->M: 0 Common trips: 0 Total time spent locally: 3 weeks Approximate travel costs per trip: EUR 800 Age F: 20 Age M: 27 Number of kids F from other RS: 0 Number of kids M from other RS: 0 Number of kids from this RS: 0 Continent | Country | Province/State | City F: Near East | - | - | - Continent | Country | Province/State | City M: Europe | - | - | - Cultural Background F: Western, liberal Cultural Background M: Western, liberal Mother tongue F: - Mother tongue M: German Main language used for communication: English RS status: Ongoing (If your RS ended, which year and month?) Number of breaks / break ups: 0 Total break time: - Civil status: _ Engaged | _ Married ETA Going local: 2 years Poster's perceived probability of RS being intact in 0.5 | 1 | 2 | 5 years: 0.6 | 0.6 | 0.4 | 0.3 (1 being guaranteed, 0 being impossible) Feel free to expand my template by qualities / quantities you deem interesting or noteworthy. Repost with updates, especially when changes in status happen. It should be interesting for everyone in an LDR. Happy posting and happy holidays! Edited December 18, 2012 by umirano 8 Link to post Share on other sites
PepperPotts Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 Not entirely sure I did this right, but hopefully... Met how: At school Met when: October 2010 Official since: October 2011 Exclusive since: October 2011 Apart since: May 2012 Distance: 1200 mi Time difference: 2 hours First Visit: July 2012 Visits total: 2 Visits M->F: 0 Visits F->M: 2 Common trips: 0 Total time spent locally: about 7 months Approximate travel costs per trip: US 400 Age F: 24 Age M: 25 Number of kids F from other RS: 0 Number of kids M from other RS: 0 Number of kids from this RS: 0 Continent | Country | Province/State | City F: Midwest, USA Continent | Country | Province/State | City M: West, USA Cultural Background F: Western, moderate Cultural Background M: Western, moderate Mother tongue F: English Mother tongue M: English Main language used for communication: English RS status: Ongoing Number of breaks / break ups: 0 Total break time: - Civil status: in a relationship ETA Going local: five months Poster's perceived probability of RS being intact in 0.5 | 1 | 2 | 5 years: 0.99| 0.99| 0.99| 0.99 (1 being guaranteed, 0 being impossible) 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author umirano Posted January 7, 2013 Author Share Posted January 7, 2013 Update: Met how: Online Met when: June 2011 Official since: September 2012 Exclusive since: September 2012 Apart since: June 2011 Distance: 2750 km Time difference: 1 hour First Visit: September 2012 Visits total: 3 Visits M->F: 3 Visits F->M: 0 Common trips: 0 Total time spent locally: 4 weeks Approximate travel costs per trip: EUR 800 Age F: 20 Age M: 27 Number of kids F from other RS: 0 Number of kids M from other RS: 0 Number of kids from this RS: 0 Continent | Country | Province/State | City F: Near East | - | - | - Continent | Country | Province/State | City M: Europe | - | - | - Cultural Background F: Western, liberal Cultural Background M: Western, liberal Mother tongue F: - Mother tongue M: German Main language used for communication: English RS status: Ongoing Number of breaks / break ups: 0 Total break time: - Civil status: _ Engaged | _ Married ETA Going local: <2 years Poster's perceived probability of RS being intact in 0.5 | 1 | 2 | 5 years: 0.8 | 0.8 | 0.6 | 0.4 Link to post Share on other sites
latte10 Posted January 7, 2013 Share Posted January 7, 2013 More stats! Met how: Through Friends Met when: March 2010 Official since: August 2010 Exclusive since: August 2010 Apart since: To be apart June 2013 Distance: 7782km (just looked it up.. think im now in shock!) Time difference: 1 hour First Visit: Yet to visit Visits total: - Visits M->F: He's currently in my country Visits F->M: - Common trips: - Total time spent locally: - Approximate travel costs per trip: 900 - 1.2k AUD Age F: 22 Age M: 25 Number of kids F from other RS: 0 Number of kids M from other RS: 0 Number of kids from this RS: 0 Continent | Country | Province/State | City F: Australia Continent | Country | Province/State | City M: South Korea Cultural Background F: Jap, liberal Cultural Background M: Korean, liberal Mother tongue F: Japanese Mother tongue M: Korean Main language used for communication: English RS status: Ongoing Number of breaks / break ups: 2 Total break time: 2 days Civil status: Never Engaged | Never Married ETA Going local: 2 years Poster's perceived probability of RS being intact in 0.5 | 1 | 2 | 5 years: 1 | 0.8 | 0.49 | 1 if we get past the 2 year mark, 0 if we don't (1 being guaranteed, 0 being impossible) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
amayana Posted January 10, 2013 Share Posted January 10, 2013 (edited) What a cool idea! Very interesting to look at the different stats, hopefully more people will post. Met how: At university Met when: February 2012 Official since: March 2012 Exclusive since: March 2012 Apart since: May 2012 Distance: 4072 miles (6554 km) Time difference: 6 hours First Visit: July 2012 Visits total: 4 Visits M->F: 1 Visits F->M: 3 Common trips: 0 Total time spent locally: 3 months Approximate travel costs per trip: GBP 400 Age F: 22 Age M: 20 Number of kids F from other RS: 0 Number of kids M from other RS: 0 Number of kids from this RS: 0 Continent | Country | Province/State | City F: Europe | United Kingdom | London Continent | Country | Province/State | City M: America | USA (Midwest) Cultural Background F: Western, liberal Cultural Background M: Western, liberal Mother tongue F: Spanish, German Mother tongue M: English Main language used for communication: English RS status: Ongoing Number of breaks / break ups: 0 Total break time: - Civil status: Unmarried Partners ETA Going local: 1 1/2 years Poster's perceived probability of RS being intact in 0.5 | 1 | 2 | 5 years: 0.9 | 0.7 | 0.7 | 0.5 (1 being guaranteed, 0 being impossible) Edited January 10, 2013 by amayana 3 Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted January 10, 2013 Share Posted January 10, 2013 Skipped some questions for anonymity's sake: Met how: Love Shack Met when: September, 2010 Official since: May 2012 Exclusive since: May 2012 Apart since: January 2013--last visit Distance: 5456 miles Time difference: 8 hours First Visit: May 2012 Visits M->F: 1 Visits F->M: 3 Common trips: 3 Approximate travel costs per trip: $1200US Number of kids F from other RS: 0 Number of kids M from other RS: 0 Number of kids from this RS: 0 State (F): California Country (M): England Cultural Background F: American, Western European, moderate Cultural Background M: Western European, liberal Mother tongue F: English Mother tongue M: English Main language used for communication: English RS status: Ongoing Civil status: Single ETA Going local: 1 year, 3 months Poster's perceived probability of RS being intact in 0.5 | 1 | 2 | 5 years: 0.9 | 0.9 | 0.7 | 0 (1 being guaranteed, 0 being impossible) 6 Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted January 10, 2013 Share Posted January 10, 2013 Met how: Online Met when: December 2009 Official since: April 2010 Exclusive since: April 2010 Apart since: December 2012 Distance: 800 miles Time difference: 1 hour First Visit: April 2010 Visits total: 20+ Visits M->F: About 10 Visits F->M: About 6 Common trips: About 6 Total time spent locally: About 8 weeks Approximate travel costs per trip: Between 100-300 Euros Age F: 46 Age M: 39 Number of kids F from other RS: 0 Number of kids M from other RS: 0 Number of kids from this RS: 0 Mother tongue F: - English Mother tongue M: Dutch Main language used for communication: English RS status: Ongoing (If your RS ended, which year and month?) Number of breaks / break ups: 1 Total break time: - 4 days Civil status: single but unavailable ETA Going local: Never Poster's perceived probability of RS being intact in 0.5 | 1 | 2 | 5 years:0.6 | (1 being guaranteed, 0 being impossible); No idea, could be 2 days, could be 20 years. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author umirano Posted January 10, 2013 Author Share Posted January 10, 2013 To clarify: Apart since: -> since when do the partners live in separate locations Maybe it would be good to include Last visit: <Month> YYYY Thanks everyone for posting! Link to post Share on other sites
spareohs Posted January 10, 2013 Share Posted January 10, 2013 This was fun! Met how: Online Met when: December 2011 Official since: January 2012 Exclusive since: January 2012 Apart since: December 2011 Distance: 1500 miles Time difference: 1 hour First Visit: July 2012 Visits total: 2 Visits M->F: 1 Visits F->M: 1 Common trips: 0 Total time spent locally: 3 weeks Approximate travel costs per trip: $1000 Age F: 23 Age M: 30 Number of kids F from other RS: 0 Number of kids M from other RS: 0 Number of kids from this RS: 0 Continent | Country | Province/State | City F: United States - Southern Continent | Country | Province/State | City M: Canada - Southern Cultural Background F: Western, liberal Cultural Background M: Western, liberal Mother tongue F: English Mother tongue M: English Main language used for communication: English RS status: Ongoing Number of breaks / break ups: 0 Total break time: - Civil status: Engaged ETA Going local: 1 Year Poster's perceived probability of RS being intact in 0.5 | 1 | 2 | 5 years: 0.9 | 0.8 | 0.8 | 0.5 (1 being guaranteed, 0 being impossible) 2 Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted January 10, 2013 Share Posted January 10, 2013 Oops, sorry...apart since April 2010. Last visit November/December 2012. To clarify: Apart since: -> since when do the partners live in separate locations Maybe it would be good to include Last visit: <Month> YYYY Thanks everyone for posting! Link to post Share on other sites
amayana Posted January 11, 2013 Share Posted January 11, 2013 What a cool idea! Very interesting to look at the different stats, hopefully more people will post. Met how: At university Met when: February 2012 Official since: March 2012 Exclusive since: March 2012 Apart since: May 2012 Distance: 4072 miles (6554 km) Time difference: 6 hours First Visit: July 2012 Visits total: 4 Visits M->F: 1 Visits F->M: 3 Common trips: 0 Total time spent locally: 3 months Approximate travel costs per trip: GBP 400 Age F: 22 Age M: 20 Number of kids F from other RS: 0 Number of kids M from other RS: 0 Number of kids from this RS: 0 Continent | Country | Province/State | City F: Europe | United Kingdom | London Continent | Country | Province/State | City M: America | USA (Midwest) Cultural Background F: Western, liberal Cultural Background M: Western, liberal Mother tongue F: Spanish, German Mother tongue M: English Main language used for communication: English RS status: Ongoing Number of breaks / break ups: 0 Total break time: - Civil status: Unmarried Partners ETA Going local: 1 1/2 years Poster's perceived probability of RS being intact in 0.5 | 1 | 2 | 5 years: 0.9 | 0.7 | 0.7 | 0.5 (1 being guaranteed, 0 being impossible) Actually, we had 3 trips together so I have no idea why I put 0 there! But it doesn't matter anyways! Link to post Share on other sites
notaneatfreak Posted January 11, 2013 Share Posted January 11, 2013 Met how: In person through best friend in his country Met when: December 2011 Official since: December 2011 Exclusive since: March 2012 Apart since: December 2011 Distance: 13,000 + KM Time difference: 1 day First Visit: was supposed to be June 2012 got cancelled Visits total: 0 Visits M->F: 0 Visits F->M: 0 Common trips: 0 Total time spent locally: 6 weeks Approximate travel costs per trip: $5000 CDN Age F: 28 Age M: 36 Number of kids F from other RS: 0 Number of kids M from other RS: many Number of kids from this RS: 0 Continent | Country | Province/State | City F: Canada Continent | Country | Province/State | City M: South Pacific Cultural Background F: Western, Conservative Cultural Background M: Rotuman islander, neutral Mother tongue F: English Mother tongue M: Rotuman & Fijian Main language used for communication: English RS status: Ongoing Number of breaks / break ups: 1 Total break time: 5 months Civil status: _ Engaged | _ Married - neither ETA Going local: 1.5 years? Poster's perceived probability of RS being intact in 0.5 | 1 | 2 | 5 years: 0.6 | 0.6 | 0.4 | 0.3 (1 being guaranteed, 0 being impossible) Link to post Share on other sites
Wonderlandless Posted January 11, 2013 Share Posted January 11, 2013 Met how: In person through a mutual friend Met when: August 2012 Official since: September 2012 Exclusive since: October 2012 Apart since: December 2012 Distance: 1000 mi Time difference: None First Visit: October 2012 Visits total: 3 Visits M->F: 2 Visits F->M: 5 Common trips: 0 Total time spent locally: 5 weeks Approximate travel costs per trip: $500 Age F: 26 Age M: 29 Number of kids F from other RS: 0 Number of kids M from other RS: 0 Number of kids from this RS: 0 Continent | Country | Province/State | City F: US, Kentucky Continent | Country | Province/State | City M: US, Massachusets Cultural Background F: Western, Moderate Cultural Background M: Western, Moderate Mother tongue F: English Mother tongue M: English Main language used for communication: English RS status: Ongoing Number of breaks / break ups: 0 Total break time: 0 Civil status: _ Engaged | _ Married - neither ETA Going local: 5 months Poster's perceived probability of RS being intact in 0.5 | 1 | 2 | 5 years: 0.8 | 0.5 | 0.5 | 0.5 (1 being guaranteed, 0 being impossible) Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted January 11, 2013 Share Posted January 11, 2013 Met how: Online Met when: September 2009 Official since: November 2009 Exclusive since: November 2009 Apart since: September 2009 Distance: 12,000 miles (almost 20,000 km!!!) Time difference: 11, 12 or 13 hours depending on the time of year First Visit: November 2009 Visits total: 8 Visits M->F: 4 Visits F->M: 4 Common trips: 7 (trips taken whilst together as our visits are generally a month long) Total time spent locally (if this means time actually spent together): approx 8 months Approximate travel costs per trip: ££££££$$$$$$$ Excessive!!!!! Age F: 47 Age M: 47 Number of kids F from other RS: 0 Number of kids M from other RS: 1 Number of kids from this RS: 0 Continent | Country | F: UK Continent | Country | M: NZ Cultural Background F: Western Cultural Background M: Western Mother tongue F: - English Mother tongue M: English Main language used for communication: English RS status: Ongoing Number of breaks / break ups: 2? (sort of) Total break time: About 5 minutes!!! Civil status: Engaged ETA Going local: ??? 2 years maybe Poster's perceived probability of RS being intact in 0.5 | 1 | 2 | 5 years: 0.99999 | 0.999 | 0.9 | if we're not married and living together by then - who knows? (1 being guaranteed, 0 being impossible) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stevie_23 Posted January 12, 2013 Share Posted January 12, 2013 I'm gonna do this twice. Once for my real life long term relationship (which started as long distance) and the second one for my recent ex, who was also long distance only. 1 (real life relationship) Met how: Online Met when: April 2001 Official since: June 2001 Exclusive since: June 2001 Apart since: N/A (still together) Distance: Originally one state apart (1 hour flight). Now, living together Time difference: Nil First Visit: November 2001 Visits total: 6 (before she moved to my state to be with me) Visits each: Equal number per person Common trips: 0 Total time spent locally: In total, I'm not sure, but each visit was around 3-4 days Approximate travel costs per trip: If I went to visit her, it was just my flight (around AUD200), if she came to visit me, it was her flight and a hotel room (I lived with my parents still), so around AUD800. Age F: 22 (me) Age partner: 38 (her) Number of kids F from other RS: 0 Number of kids M from other RS: 0 Number of kids from this RS: 0 Continent | Country | Province/State | City F: Australia, Victoria, Melbourne (me) Continent | Country | Province/State | City partner: Australia, New South Wales, Sydney (her) Cultural Background F: Western, fairly liberal but apathetic Cultural Background partner: As above Mother tongue F: -English Mother tongue partner: English Main language used for communication: English RS status: Ongoing Number of breaks / break ups: 0 Total break time: - Civil status: De facto long term couple (11.5 years) gay couple ETA Going local: Went local back in 2002 Poster's perceived probability of RS being intact in 0.5 | 1 | 2 | 5 years: 1 | 1 | 0.6 | 0.5 Ok, so this one's about my recent ex... Met how: Online Met when: November 2009 Official since: April 2011 Exclusive since: April 2011 Apart since: December 2012 Distance: I don't know, but he is in the US and I'm in Australia Time difference: 15 hours First Visit: Never got to that stage, sadly Visits total: 0 Visits M->F: 2 Visits F->M: 0 Common trips: 0 Total time spent locally: N/A Approximate travel costs per trip: N/A Age F: 34 Age M: 61 Number of kids F from other RS: 0 Number of kids M from other RS: 4 Number of kids from this RS: 0 Continent | Country | Province/State | City F: Australia, Queensland, Gold Coast Continent | Country | Province/State | City M: United States, New Jersey Cultural Background F: Western, liberal but not much interest Cultural Background M: Western, no interest but is liberal Mother tongue F: -English Mother tongue M: English Main language used for communication: English RS status: He left me 6 weeks ago (December 2012) Number of breaks / break ups: 3 (back in June 2011 for a month due to major health problems for him, and when his wife found out in September 2012, for 2 weeks) Total break time: Not including this recent permanent break, 6 weeks Civil status: He is married, I am in a long term de facto gay relationship ETA Going local: Never now (when we were together a year ago, it was hoping to be within 6-12 months) Poster's perceived probability of RS being intact in 0.5 | 1 | 2 | 5 years: 0000000 1 Link to post Share on other sites
notaneatfreak Posted January 15, 2013 Share Posted January 15, 2013 just so you know. we broke up. now we're a statistic. he tried to put us on hold saying i needed to sort myself out. i called three days later and then he said he just wants to go do other stuff - meaning - sleep with other women. i told him to FEAFEWRAR himself. Long distance relationships. THEY DO NOT WORK. I have been in two and they have both failed and now I swear I will never do another one. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
stevie_23 Posted January 15, 2013 Share Posted January 15, 2013 I believe, based on experience, that they CAN work. My first long distance relationship worked. We met when we each lived in different states (though by LDR standards, a 1 hour flight is not very much), 9 months later we met for the first time, then flew back and forth every 3-4 weeks for 3-5 days at a time, then she moved to my state (but not in with me. Neither of us expected to live together yet) 4 months after we first met in person, and then 18 months later we moved to yet another state and have been living here together for 9 years. My recent-ex and I were long distance also, but that wasn’t what broke us up. It was the fact both of us have other partners and other factors. Not the distance. Distance CAN work, depending on the people involved and other circumstances that impact the relationship. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted January 15, 2013 Share Posted January 15, 2013 I guess his wife finding out screwed things up. I believe, based on experience, that they CAN work. My first long distance relationship worked. We met when we each lived in different states (though by LDR standards, a 1 hour flight is not very much), 9 months later we met for the first time, then flew back and forth every 3-4 weeks for 3-5 days at a time, then she moved to my state (but not in with me. Neither of us expected to live together yet) 4 months after we first met in person, and then 18 months later we moved to yet another state and have been living here together for 9 years. My recent-ex and I were long distance also, but that wasn’t what broke us up. It was the fact both of us have other partners and other factors. Not the distance. Distance CAN work, depending on the people involved and other circumstances that impact the relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
stevie_23 Posted January 16, 2013 Share Posted January 16, 2013 Well, in a way, yeah. I think it was the last straw. And a big straw, at that. She’d already found out 3 previous times and he’d always stayed with me, though the last time before this one, he laid low for 2 weeks with NC at all (after initially telling me what had happened with his wife finding out), and then slowly came back over the next month but was very, very careful. Scared to do anything. Link to post Share on other sites
Iowalove Posted January 21, 2013 Share Posted January 21, 2013 Met how: Through friends and family Met when: January 2012 Official since: March 2012 Exclusive since: March 2012 Apart since: September 2012 Distance: 300 miles Time difference: 0 First Visit: October 2012 Visits total: 8 Visits M->F: 4 Visits F->M: 4 Common trips: 2 Total time spent locally: 6 months Approximate travel costs per trip: $100-$400 Age F: 31 Age M: 28 Number of kids F from other RS: 3 Number of kids M from other RS: 2 Number of kids from this RS: 0 Continent | Country | Province/State | City F: Western Iowa, USA Continent | Country | Province/State | City M: Eastern Iowa, USA Cultural Background F: Western, liberal Cultural Background M: Western, liberal Mother tongue F: English Mother tongue M: English Main language used for communication: English RS status: Ongoing Number of breaks / break ups: 1 Total break time: 5 days Civil status: Dating ETA Going local: 2 years Poster's perceived probability of RS being intact in 0.5 | 1 | 2 | 5 years: 1| .9 | .7 | .6(1 being guaranteed, 0 being impossible) Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted January 22, 2013 Share Posted January 22, 2013 I believe, based on experience, that they CAN work. My first long distance relationship worked. We met when we each lived in different states (though by LDR standards, a 1 hour flight is not very much), 9 months later we met for the first time, then flew back and forth every 3-4 weeks for 3-5 days at a time, then she moved to my state (but not in with me. Neither of us expected to live together yet) 4 months after we first met in person, and then 18 months later we moved to yet another state and have been living here together for 9 years. My recent-ex and I were long distance also, but that wasn’t what broke us up. It was the fact both of us have other partners and other factors. Not the distance. Distance CAN work, depending on the people involved and other circumstances that impact the relationship. Most definitely can work. It's harder than most people who haven't been in LDRs (or have been in 'soft' LDRs - the sort where you see each other every month or so and lasts for a year or less - not that there's anything wrong with that, the lucky people ) could ever imagine, but they can work. Kudos to all you guys here working on it. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Irial Posted January 22, 2013 Share Posted January 22, 2013 Met how: Online Met when: ~August 2010 Official since: February 2011 Exclusive since: February 2011 Apart since: we've always lived in different locations Distance: ~8000km Time difference: 7 hours First Visit: May 2011 Visits total: 4 Last visit: 24 December 2012 - 13 January 2013 Visits M->F: 2 Visits F->M: 2 Common trips: 1 Total time spent locally: not sure what this means. I've spent over a month where he is/was and he's spent about a month here. Approximate travel costs per trip: EUR 1300 Age F: 22 Age M: 25 Number of kids F from other RS: 0 Number of kids M from other RS: 0 Number of kids from this RS: 0 Continent | Country | Province/State | City F: Europe | Italy | Rome | Anzio Continent | Country | Province/State | City M: America | USA | Minnesota | Saint Cloud Cultural Background F: Western, liberal Cultural Background M: Western, liberal Mother tongue F: Italian Mother tongue M: English Main language used for communication: English RS status: Ongoing Number of breaks / break ups: 0 Total break time: - Civil status: in a relationship ETA Going local: no idea Poster's perceived probability of RS being intact in 0.5 | 1 | 2 | 5 years: 1 | 0.8 | 0.5 | 0.5 (1 being guaranteed, 0 being impossible) Link to post Share on other sites
Paranoia1989 Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 (edited) Met how: Online Met when: October 2010 Official since: September 2011 Exclusive since: September 2011 Apart since: January 2013 Distance: 7463 km Time difference: 1 hour First Visit: September 2011 Visits total: 5 Visits M->F: 2 Visits F->M: 3 Common trips: 0 Total time spent locally: 59 Days Approximate travel costs per trip: EUR 120-190 Age F: 23 Age M: 23 Number of kids F from other RS: 0 Number of kids M from other RS: 0 Number of kids from this RS: 0 Continent | Country | Province/State | City F: Europe | Germany | M: Europe | Europe | Scotland | Cultural Background F: Western, liberal Cultural Background M: Western, liberal Mother tongue F: German Mother tongue M: English Main language used for communication: English RS status: Ongoing Number of breaks / break ups: 0 Total break time: - Edited January 23, 2013 by Paranoia1989 Link to post Share on other sites
MyPoutine Posted January 24, 2013 Share Posted January 24, 2013 Met how: Online Met when: January 2010 Official since: February 2010 Exclusive since: February 2010 Apart since: October 2010 Distance: sometimes 7337 miles and sometimes 9078 miles (right now it's the latter) Time difference: 13 hours at the moment First Visit: - Visits total: - Last visit: - Visits M->F: - Visits F->M: - Common trips: - Total time spent locally: We dated for 8 months before I moved Approximate travel costs per trip: Very, very, very expensive Age F: 27 Age M: 30 Number of kids F from other RS: 0 Number of kids M from other RS: 0 Number of kids from this RS: 0 Continent | Country | Province/State | City F: Right now Asia Continent | Country | Province/State | City M: North America Cultural Background F: African Cultural Background M: Western, liberal Mother tongue F: English Mother tongue M: French Main language used for communication: English or French RS status: Ongoing Number of breaks / break ups: 2 Total break time: 4 months Civil status: In a relationship - pending engagement ETA Going local: I'm going this summer for a few months Poster's perceived probability of RS being intact in 0.5 | 1 | 2 | 5 years: 1 | 1 | 0.8 | 0.0 (1 being guaranteed, 0 being impossible) For us one of us has to move and we have decided it'll be me once (if) we get married next year. Long distance has been a very bumpy ride for us and I honestly would't want it to go on for much longer for better or worse. Link to post Share on other sites
JBanks Posted January 29, 2013 Share Posted January 29, 2013 Met how: Stayed with me through couchsurfing Met when: November 2012 Official since: January 2012 Exclusive since: Will be in April 2013 Apart since: November 2012 Distance: 9,500 miles Time difference: M is 16 hrs ahead First Visit: Will be April 2013 Visits total: 1 Visits M->F: 1 Visits F->M: 0 Common trips: 0 Total time spent locally: 2 Weeks Approximate travel costs per trip: US $1,500 Age F: 22 Age M: 25 Number of kids F from other RS: 0 Number of kids M from other RS: 0 Number of kids from this RS: 0 Continent | Country | Province/State | City F: USA - CA Continent | Country | Province/State | City M: Australia - Perth Cultural Background F: Western, liberal Cultural Background M: Western, liberal Mother tongue F: English Mother tongue M: German Main language used for communication: English RS status: Ongoing (If your RS ended, which year and month?) Number of breaks / break ups: 0 Total break time: - Civil status: _ Engaged | _ Married ETA Going local: 3 years Poster's perceived probability of RS being intact in 0.5 | 1 | 2 | 5 years: 0.8 | 0.6 | 0.5 | 0.3 (1 being guaranteed, 0 being impossible) Link to post Share on other sites
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