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Old 27th July 2006, 10:06 AM   #1
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Clinical traits of a sociopath.

1. SUPERFICIAL CHARM -- the tendency to be smooth, engaging, charming, and slick. Not in the least shy, self-conscious, or afraid to say anything. He never gets tongue-tied and has freed himself from the social conventions about taking turns in talking, for example.

2. GRANDIOSE SELF-WORTH -- a grossly inflated view of one's abilities and self-worth, self-assured, opinionated, cocky, a braggart. An arrogant guy who believes he is a superior human being.

3. NEED FOR STIMULATION (PRONENESS TO BOREDOM) -- an excessive need for novel, thrilling, and exciting stimulation; taking chances and doing things that are risky. Often has low self-discipline in carrying tasks through to completion because he gets bored easily.

4. PATHOLOGICAL LYING -- can be moderate or high; in moderate form, and will be shrewd, crafty, cunning, sly, and clever (in extreme form, he will be deceptive, deceitful, underhanded, unscrupulous, manipulative, and dishonest).

5. CONNING AND MANIPULATIVENESS -- the use of deceit and deception to cheat, con, or defraud others for personal gain; distinguished from Item #4 in the degree to which exploitation and callous ruthlessness is present, as reflected in a lack of concern for the feelings and suffering of one's victims.

6. LACK OF REMORSE OR GUILT -- a lack of feelings or concern for the losses, pain, and suffering of victims; a tendency to be unconcerned, dispassionate, coldhearted, and unempathic. This item is usually demonstrated by a disdain for one's victims.

7. SHALLOW AFFECT -- emotional poverty or a limited range or depth of feelings; interpersonal coldness in spite of signs of open gregariousness.

8. CALLOUSNESS and LACK OF EMPATHY -- a lack of feelings toward people in general; cold, contemptuous, inconsiderate, and tactless.

9. PARASITIC LIFESTYLE -- an intentional, manipulative, selfish, and exploitative financial dependence on others as reflected in a lack of motivation, low self-discipline, and inability to begin or complete responsibilities.

10. POOR BEHAVIORAL CONTROLS -- expressions of irritability, annoyance, impatience, threats, aggression, and verbal abuse; inadequate control of anger and temper; acting hastily.

11. PROMISCUOUS SEXUAL BEHAVIOR -- a variety of brief, superficial relations, numerous affairs, and an indiscriminate selection of sexual partners; the maintenance of several relationships at the same time; a history of attempts to sexually coerce others into sexual activity or taking great pride at discussing sexual exploits or conquests.

12. LACK OF REALISTIC, LONG-TERM GOALS -- an inability or persistent failure to develop and execute long-term plans and goals; a nomadic existence, aimless, lacking direction in life.

13. IMPULSIVITY -- the occurrence of behaviors that are unpremeditated and lack reflection or planning; inability to resist temptation, frustrations, and urges; a lack of deliberation without considering the consequences; foolhardy, rash, unpredictable, erratic, and reckless.

14. IRRESPONSIBILITY -- repeated failure to fulfill or honor obligations and commitments; such as not paying bills, defaulting on loans, performing sloppy work, being absent or late to work, failing to honor contractual agreements.

15. FAILURE TO ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR OWN ACTIONS -- a failure to accept responsibility for one's actions reflected in low conscientiousness, an absence of dutifulness, antagonistic manipulation, denial of responsibility, and an effort to manipulate others through this denial.

16. MANY SHORT-TERM RELATIONSHIPS -- a lack of commitment to a long-term relationship reflected in inconsistent, undependable, and unreliable commitments in life, including marital.

17. JUVENILE DELINQUENCY -- behavior problems between the ages of 13-18; mostly behaviors that are crimes or clearly involve aspects of antagonism, exploitation, aggression, manipulation, or a callous, ruthless tough-mindedness.

18. CRIMINAL VERSATILITY -- A diversity of types of criminal offenses (regardless if the person has been arrested or convicted for them); taking great pride at getting away with crimes.
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Old 27th July 2006, 10:11 AM   #2
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Pada why are you posting about me again?

Hope you are doing better. But no matter how much you reflect on your past you cannot change it.

Now dig into one of those candy bowls on your desk and eat some chocolate. Then reflect on that.
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Old 27th July 2006, 10:14 AM   #3
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most of us already know this stuff PADA
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Old 27th July 2006, 10:16 AM   #4
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I don't know why anyone would want someone with those traits at all - irrespective of whether the person has a diagnosable disorder.
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Old 27th July 2006, 10:17 AM   #5
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most of us already know this stuff PADA
True Alpha. It is good to know yourself.
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Old 27th July 2006, 10:18 AM   #6
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lol I can own up to 7 of those 18 traits... Was there any information on how many of those traits someone has to have to be considered a sociopath? (or more clinically, to have anti-social personality disorder)

Sometimes these lists can be a bit dangerous as most people show at least one of the mentioned traits some of the time or in some situations.

Interestingly, anti-social personality disorder is usually applied to men, whereas similar traits in women tend to lead to a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder - a label which has received bad press in the past, but still hardly indicates a person who is a menance to society.
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Old 27th July 2006, 10:18 AM   #7
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I'm confused today and reading up on stuff. I ran across this and found it very interesting.

a4a-I don't need candy. ugh my behind is spreading and I don't want to contribute to much to it..
I can't change the past but I can learn so I don't repeat it!!

Alpha--you may know all this but others don't.... If it didn't have some value in it I didn't know before I wouldn't have found the need to share it ... right???

The rollercoaster is moving on me and I'm not comfortable with where its going to take me. I'm uneasy...
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Old 27th July 2006, 10:25 AM   #8
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Reasons your finding NC difficult.

If you've been snared by a sociopath, you may find that you have difficulty maintaining No Contact. You may find yourself thinking about him and wanting to talk to him. Here are some of the reasons—and why they are not good reasons.

1. You're still in love with him
The person you loved never existed. It was an illusion created by the sociopath to manipulate you. If you still have feelings for him, they are feelings for what you wanted him to be, not for what he is.

2. You feel sorry for him
The sociopath may cry, plead and grovel, insisting that he will change. You want to believe him. Unfortunately, this is not the case with sociopaths—they do not change. He is using the pity play trying to take advantage of your good nature and suck you in again. Don't fall for it.

3. You don't want to admit you were wrong
You may have a lot invested in the relationship—especially if he's been taking money from you—and you don't want to lose everything. You think you can force him to make you whole. Yes, you may negotiate, and he may agree to repay you. But don't expect him to actually do it.

4. You want to have the last word
You want him to understand how he hurt you. You want him to apologize. Here's what you need to know: He will never understand your feelings, because sociopaths have no empathy. If he apologizes, it will only be a tactic to bleed you some more.

5. Better the devil you know
Some people would rather put up with emotional, psychological and even physical abuse than face the unknown. If this is you, understand that it is unlikely he will treat you any better in the future, and it is very likely that he will treat you worse. The unknown may be scary, but it also offers a chance for a new life.
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Old 27th July 2006, 10:25 AM   #9
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Sometimes these lists can be a bit dangerous as most people show at least one of the mentioned traits some of the time or in some situations.

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very true from time to time I could fit a number of those traits... minus the criminal parts....

I have done #5 quite often. I often have to do #1 at the same time as #5. It is my job at times to shmooze and get what is needed.

(#1 not being = going pee pee.....)
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Alpha--you may know all this but others don't.... If it didn't have some value in it I didn't know before I wouldn't have found the need to share it ... right???..
the only ones that don't apply to me are 4, 9, 12 and 15....
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excellent bit of information, pada – I've got a relative who fits about 4/5 of all these traits, and I've always wondered how to describe him. Now I know. ewwwwwww ....
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1. You're still in love with him
The person you loved never existed. It was an illusion created by the sociopath to manipulate you. If you still have feelings for him, they are feelings for what you wanted him to be, not for what he is.

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I think you had a bit of creating the illusion as much as, if not more than he did.

I think you were hoping to fit a square peg into a round hole.... (gutter minded people this is not a pun)
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Change the dynamics

Why is No Contact important?
Sociopaths are experts at breaking down their victims, piece by piece. If you have contact with him, you will be back in his game and he will continue to manipulate you.
To begin your recovery, you must put him out of your life.

"No Contact changes the dynamics of the situation. The victim is now in control." .
With No Contact, you are saying "no more."
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I think you had a bit of creating the illusion as much as, if not more than he did.

I think you were hoping to fit a square peg into a round hole.... (gutter minded people this is not a pun)

True--He gave me lots of illusions.. Big grandois ones I had a hard time swallowing. The last one was he wanted to give me his new harley so he could go out and buy a bigger one. He claimed the one he has is the perfect size for me and he needed a bigger one...

as I was/am reading about all this stuff. Co-dependants are the ones who are attracted to sociopaths...

I have a history of co-dependency.. This is where the illusions came in.
As I am reading it states if you find yourself in relationships with these type of persons carrying some of these traits you can be sure you are co-dependent.

All this information is from a few Psychology websites on relationships.
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Why is No Contact important?
Sociopaths are experts at breaking down their victims, piece by piece. If you have contact with him, you will be back in his game and he will continue to manipulate you.
To begin your recovery, you must put him out of your life.

"No Contact changes the dynamics of the situation. The victim is now in control." .
With No Contact, you are saying "no more."

Whoa........ are you a victim now?
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