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Old 5th November 2017, 9:20 AM   #16
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To paint all women or men in any bar, anywhere is incredibly simple and thoughtless.
And similarly not all bars are created equal, and will attract different crowds for different purposes at different times of the day. My neighborhood wine bar is just a place to meet neighbors, really nothing much more. I know a bunch of dive bars that are very similar in that regard.

Now the bar of a hotel attached to a convention center late at night is a different question.
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I think most women see the practical side of it....Bars can be frequented by undesirables, drunks, losers, whatever...A woman alone could be an easy target late at night if she's all alone....I'd certainly hope any woman I know would have more sense in her head...

I do know that maybe some women would go to a bar alone because they know someone in a band playing there, a bartender, a bouncer, whatever...That's different..She has people there who would be concerned with her welfare..

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.Bars can be frequented by undesirables, drunks, losers, whatever
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Old 5th November 2017, 3:44 PM   #20
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I met a woman at a bar who was by herself. Pumped a couple of drinks in her then we went to her car and had sex. And she was pretty good looking. Fun time for me.
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It varies by man.

See this thread. The subject has been hashed out here: Going to a bar alone to meet guys

My opinion is that it depends on a lot of factors: the woman, the man, the bar, & everyone's attitude.

If you are a woman & want to go to a bar alone, go. Be safe & smart but go. If you are man & think that's a terrible thing, don't talk to the woman. Live & let live.
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Old 6th November 2017, 12:33 PM   #22
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I don't have a tv at home, so I'll go to a bar to watch the game(s) and enjoy a drink and apps. I talk to everyone at the bar, and we all have a fun time, but that's it. F*** what anyone else thinks.
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Old 6th November 2017, 12:52 PM   #23
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I am married... (So not single) and I will occasionally go to bars alone.

Either an upscale cocktail lounge, or a craft beer bar.

Usually I am waiting on someone, or killing some time before meeting people somewhere else, now and then an after work drink.

I enjoy conversation and meeting strangers (so I rather go out than drink at home alone as suggested).

I would say I get approached in some manner the vast majority of the time. Usually a man will ask to sit next to me and attempt to start a conversation. Sometimes it will be more direct, and they will offer to buy me a drink or try to exchange numbers.

I am an approachable person, I am far from shy. I make eye contact. I smile freely, I am open to conversation.

As for what do men think about a woman out alone? I don't know, and lucky for me don't care
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I am married... (So not single) and I will occasionally go to bars alone.

Either an upscale cocktail lounge, or a craft beer bar.

Usually I am waiting on someone, or killing some time before meeting people somewhere else, now and then an after work drink.

I enjoy conversation and meeting strangers (so I rather go out than drink at home alone as suggested).

I would say I get approached in some manner the vast majority of the time. Usually a man will ask to sit next to me and attempt to start a conversation. Sometimes it will be more direct, and they will offer to buy me a drink or try to exchange numbers.

I am an approachable person, I am far from shy. I make eye contact. I smile freely, I am open to conversation.

As for what do men think about a woman out alone? I don't know, and lucky for me don't care
so basically you just tease them?
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so basically you just tease them?
I wear a wedding ring and mention my husband repeatedly. If they want to keep chatting that's up to them. I like conversation - not my fault that many men seem to think conversation = interest.
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I'll mention that I've noticed a difference between the 5-8 and the after 8 pm crowd, with the earlier crowd being more likely being working people who seem genuine and the ladder a little more shady.
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I like conversation - not my fault that many men seem to think conversation = interest.
but conversation does equal interest
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but conversation does equal interest
I agree.... But in my experience many men do not! We will go from talking about business, or something else mundane to "let me buy you a drink" and "let me get your number".
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I personally see it as unsafe for anyone man or woman, to go to a bar alone.
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Old 8th November 2017, 12:31 AM   #30
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but conversation does equal interest
Depends on the definition of "interest"! Technically you're right, but interest in a good conversation is different to interest in hooking up with someone. RecentChange I assume you meant the latter when most of your experience is the former. I'm glad people go out with that intention only and that's the way it works out!
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