How can you tell [you're attractive]

[Leigh 87]

How can you tell whether you're attractive?

 

We all know hot men sleep with average women since many men will shag anything on offer. Vomit.

 

Men probably know more readily whether or not they are considered attractive. Since the hottest women and women in general are more relationship orientated and don't shag average dudes if they are smoking hot women...

 

Thoughts?

 

My friends a model and she doesn't have totally hot dudes inundating her.

[Clarence_Boddicker]

Too much generalizations. Not all guys will bang anything that walks. Recently a long time ex practically threw herself at me. She would have been an easy long time lay, but I was utterly repulsed by her. Not the fact that she put some pounds on over the years, but how ugly she had become inside. Full of bitterness & hate. Huge turn off. I wouldn't touch her no matter what.

 

 

For me it's a case by case deal. Every girl is different. No idea about myself. I don't go up & randomly ask girls I notice that look at me if I'm attractive. I'd say I'm probably a 6, but who knows. Don't really care either. I'm not into superficiality so my lack of; party drugs/molly, gauges, flat brims, designer clothes, swagginess, newish cars, juiced gym muscles, energy drinks, etc etc keeps me off the radar.

[kenmore]

Leigh, I think most people have a pretty good idea, but what's difficult is the day-to-day things like hairstyles (yeah, some men deal with that crap too), if you wake up with pillow lines on your face and that's the last thing you see before you leave in the morning...if you are wearing nice clothes that day, etc. I feel I'm good looking, but know if I'm having an off day, I'll wait until at least noon before hitting on a woman lol.

 

I guess what I'm wondering is what you mean from your question. In other words, while I understand the words, what you feel about yourself is in your own mind. Everyone else will have a different opinion of how you look.

 

All that said, I guess to answer your question as it was asked and without bias, you can tell by how many men (since you're a woman) look at you secretly (you have seen them!) How many talk to you (but this is a danger zone, most guys won't talk to a beautiful woman because they are intimidated.) How you see yourself and if other people treat you like sh*t. For three and four, there are no good answers but as a guy, I wonder if any women who pay attention to me are just looking for a nice guy...because I want them to see more than that. It is dumb though because my own wife couldn't, so why would I think any other lady would?

 

Ugghhhh sorry, bad night. I have no idea what you look like but I like you. That must count for something.

 

Ken

[MuddyFootprints]

True attractiveness radiates from the inside, Leigh.

 

Don't let anyone tell you differently.

[amaysngrace]

Did you get your nose job yet?

 

Once you do you'll have your answer.

[Leigh 87]

Did you get your nose job yet?

 

Once you do you'll have your answer.

 

Getting it soon.

 

I already think I'm attractive, a 7/10 on a good day.

[elaine567]

My friends a model and she doesn't have totally hot dudes inundating her.

 

That is because attractiveness is not just about a face or a body. It is not about perfect measurements or the in "look" of the day.

It is about the whole package and sometimes very trivial things can turn a person off completely or turn a person on.

People also like different things, some love dark, brooding men, some hate them, some love bubbly, life and soul of the party women some hate them, some love intelligent, decisive people, some would rather date an dithering idiot every time.

Few people can have widespread appeal.

 

Many media "sex symbols" are not that fantastic if you were to be critical, but they often have some sort of "star" quality about them.

They have the ability to attract.

Men and/or women become totally besotted by them. Sometimes the ability to attract is innate, sometimes it is carefully crafted.

People IRL can have the same ability or not, as the case may be.

[amaysngrace]

I already think I'm attractive, a 7/10 on a good day.

 

Cool. Rock your attractiveness then!

[Radu]

How can you tell whether you're attractive?

 

We all know hot men sleep with average women since many men will shag anything on offer. Vomit.

 

Men probably know more readily whether or not they are considered attractive. Since the hottest women and women in general are more relationship orientated and don't shag average dudes if they are smoking hot women...

 

Thoughts?

 

My friends a model and she doesn't have totally hot dudes inundating her.

 

The top women in terms of looks tend to intimidate most men ... they do not approach because they think they are not worthy.

 

And in general, what defines a man is not mostly based on looks but on accomplishments.

 

So i'm guessing she is getting the accomplished ones and the jerks with massive ego's .... but not the ones she 'thinks' she should be getting, her equal in looks.

On a sidenote, a guy who is both accomplished and a great looker is a huge catch ... though most women have the common sense to not go for one.

[Robert Z]

How can you tell whether you're attractive?

 

We all know hot men sleep with average women since many men will shag anything on offer. Vomit.

 

Men probably know more readily whether or not they are considered attractive. Since the hottest women and women in general are more relationship orientated and don't shag average dudes if they are smoking hot women...

 

Thoughts?

 

My friends a model and she doesn't have totally hot dudes inundating her.

 

Some women are attracted to me and some aren't. So does that make me attractive or not? I don't think there is such as thing as one look that appeals to everyone. And we all know that confidence plays huge role in how a man is perceived by women.

 

 

Also, being a model doesn't automatically mean a woman is attractive. Women are hired as models for all sorts of things and not all require them to be beautiful. Not long ago I met a model who is significantly overweight and not particularly attractive. But she does modeling for something like children's toys... something to do with kids. When she told me that she works for a modeling agency, I assumed at first that she was doing photography.

Edited July 1, 2015 by Robert Z

[autumnnight]

I am not sure I would use the word attractive on myself because it seems weird, but I am happy with my appearance and confident about myself. Some men would find me attractive, some wouldn't.

 

There was a time I measured myself by what a particular set of people thought about me appearance-wise. But now I figure if I am happy and confident, I will attract a person who actually wants ME, and someone who looks be up and down and does an inward thumbs down probably wasn't my type anyway.

[compulsivedancer]

Are people attracted to you? If yes, you're attractive. This is not necessarily equivalent to being beautiful. Some people are very beautiful but not attractive, or rather plain, but have attractive qualities. Like that "star quality" that someone else mentioned.

 

And of course, you're attractive to some and not to others.

[regine_phalange]

If some people look at you, or flirt with you or ask you out, or romance you, then you are attractive. No one is universally attractive!

 

I do believe that the whole attractiveness thing is more about the air and style of a person. Men and women included. I noticed at last when I get more looks by men. Are you hanging on tightly on your seat? --> When I'm wearing light pastel girly colours (doesn't matter if it's a dress or sweatpants with tee) and my hair looks kind of okay. Nothing else.

[Ninjainpajamas]

How can you tell whether you're attractive?

 

Well, I think everyone deep down knows on the scale where they stand if they're being honest with themselves.

 

If you ask people to rate themselves...truly, honestly and not using the "everyone is beautiful" motivational jargon of the day, then I think most people will understand in reality, objectively where they stand on the scale.

 

Some people will overrate themselves a point or two, but I'm willing to bet most people recognize and understand their flaws and are able to compare themselves to people that are more attractive/beautiful and just take into account life experience...which is not just the media or society, it actually just is, it's a science not an opinion.

 

Men would all generally agree on which women were beautiful and which ones are not, it doesn't take any assistance from anyone else like media, magazines or whatever..collectively we can tell and are capable of it with our own puny minds.

 

I think if you're asking how can you tell if you're attractive to someone in particular, then that's a different question...but it's still, within reason to gauge your own attractiveness...to have an idea.

 

Unfortunately people are spending a lot more time and effort these days trying to change the definition of beautiful and attractive, rather than just accept themselves for who they are as they are and simply find someone who is attracted to them.

 

But just because your BF/GF thinks you're a 10...doesn't actually make you a 10, but good for you for having someone who feels that way about you...I mean, that's the whole goal...right?

 

We all know hot men sleep with average women since many men will shag anything on offer. Vomit.

 

Yes, but this probably also works in favor for women as they don't know which guys those were because those guys would never actually say that to her face and tell her that. Additionally she may not even be aware of that existing, which many women tend to not understand about men...so she can just deny it all together and in turn feel beautiful or on his level.

 

Therefore, as I've seen a lot of women do, it gives them a nice little ego-boost and validation. Unfortunately if taken too seriously, that can cause a negative affect and provide them with a lot of confusion and unrealistic expectations when said guys don't actually want to date them seriously...then that incorporates this whole thought of "why aren't I good enough?", which is confusing for women, but even if women were told the truth they'd still have a hard time accepting it, they will always ask "why", and still not get it no matter what answer they get is.

 

In the end as usual, they will draw their own conclusions based on what feels best for them and move on. Women always get over it one way or another.

 

Men probably know more readily whether or not they are considered attractive. Since the hottest women and women in general are more relationship orientated and don't shag average dudes if they are smoking hot women...

 

I think it's much more difficult as a guy to tell but still, like I said earlier, people have a good gauge of where they stand.

 

I think as a guy however, it's just so much more dependent on your success, than just your looks...you have to be charming, witty, confident, and have the right "stats" women are looking for..like height for example is a definite boost for a guy in attractiveness for most women.

 

Women however, can be every shape and size, be average or quite attractive and still get a similar amount of attention.

 

So yeah, in that way you can tell easier with guys, as the same guys tend to get the most attention...however,

 

It doesn't necessarily mean that the best looking man is going to perform the best with women, because women desire an array of skills/talents. So even if he's good-looking, he may still feel rather...unattractive.

 

For example, if a group of guys go out to a bar/club/social event...you all collectively can notice the most attractive women after scanning the area. It's not rocket-science who's attractive, it's not like you're getting all kinds of mixed opinions on it, it's simple and straight-forward, guys might have their preferences of what they like, but It's only going to be a clash between two similarly attractive women...so it's either blonde or brunette or something like that, the more attractive woman is going to be the more attractive woman if she's just more decidedly more attractive though regardless of preferences in most cases.

 

The guys are not thinking about what qualities or talents she has or what not, she's already attractive, that's enough reason for most guys to take her on a date and even home. So you already know by the women getting the most attention by men, and you can tell as a man easily, that's the more attractive woman..because even women can notice who gets the most attention from men.

 

For women however, they can turn an attractive guy on his head...he can be attractive but have a weak "game" and not know how to handle himself...therefore he'll be rejected and the less good-looking but more witty, funny and entertaining guy gets the girl.

 

An attractive guy can still strike out with women, but attractive women are pursued for being attractive, therefore that's reason enough for most men to date them...therefore for women, it's easier to tell your attractiveness because you know why men are giving you attention first.

 

This might not be the best example, but the point is women can tell more easily from the reactions of men because men gain more interest for just being attractive alone.

 

My friends a model and she doesn't have totally hot dudes inundating her.

 

Where it can really get confusing is with very beautiful/attractive women...those women to men are like "goddess" status...please ladies, try to hold yourself together but there is a level that transcends "normal" expectations for men.

 

You have your regular 1-10, scale, which 9 to 10 is still pretty remarkable but there's a special members only 11-12 scale. This is a woman so good looking, she intimidates 90 percent of the men she crosses.

 

This is a woman who is just physically overwhelmingly intimidating to most men...she is "out of their league", therefore without a guy feeling like he's got some kind of "in"...like friendship, social circle, etc...or like he has the right money, and job and the right kind of looks, then he wouldn't even dream of pursuing a woman like that. He's already taken himself out of the race, she's just too damn fine. Nice to admire and drool over from afar, but he checks his wallet, he looks at his car and house, takes a look in the mirror and thinks "Nope..I don't got what it takes, not even going to embarrass myself in trying".

 

It's no wonder the cocky and arrogant guys often end up with these women, not because they are on her level but because they've guys figured out a way to be so full of themselves that they simply don't care and she doesn't even gauge her own desirability, he uses her situation that scares off most men to his advantage...he exploits an opportunity like a shady loan shark and negotiates the better deal.

 

If the guy is good looking and is on her level, then he's really got no reason to treat someone like her special..as he's got other options as well as variety and numbers of holes he can stick himself into, which is always a temptation for men.

 

In conclusion:

 

A 7 is a solid number for women..it means you can attract better looking men as well as men around your range as well as, and even less good-looking. You have plenty more options than a man ever will unless he's exceptionally talented or better looking than you.

 

Cherish the fact that you are born with a vagina and therefore you will always have options and never be alone if you do not desire to be, it may not be the absolute dream guy ever but you won't be alone or settling for overweight/less attractive like a lot of guys that are 7's will do in the end.

 

If you can attract them and get into relationships, then that seems to be the whole goal for women. If you want a guy to think you're a 10 however, probably not the best idea to go after really good-looking men with options.

 

Get a nice guy, who loves you for who you are and is about your level in looks, and you'll be fine...the good thing about being a woman is you have what is a luxury for many men of equal attractiveness, you don't have to shoot down the ladder too much in attractiveness.

 

Average men are practically invisible to women outside of being half-drunk in a club.

[deadelvis]

My girlfriend is gorgeous and all the guys she has dated and finds attractive are not attractive at all. It makes me wonder if I'm actually attractive or just another in a long string of ugly dudes.

[carhill]

How can you tell? From my rock heyday:

 

 

It's really that simple. However, the reflection on the process can be more complex, as Billy's lyrics underscore.

[No Limit]

I can't tell, but except for one single flaw - broken nose - I'm still content with myself. Sure there will be some people who think me ugly, but why would I care? I have my own standards and goals set for myself. If I would let my happiness depend on others, I might as well jump off a bridge.

 

Getting it soon.

 

Lucky. I need to wait a few months.

[carhill]

How to tell you're attractive:

 

"I was spending my layover in Dubai lying by the pool at a five-star hotel when a server came over with a bottle of Dom Pérignon.

 

Then, a dark-haired hunk in a crisp white shirt approached me. “You look beautiful,” he said, as he extended his hand. “I’m Mahir Asker*, and I’d love to take you out tonight.”

 

Hours later, a Bentley arrived at the hotel to pick me up and a white-gloved driver helped me into the car, which escorted us to our date aboard Asker’s million-dollar yacht. We spent the night sailing around the Persian Gulf, holding hands, and munching on salmon tartare, lobster, and caviar."

 

https://www.yahoo.com/travel/parties-and-the-mile-high-club-a-flight-122958915792.html

[spiderowl]

I think it can be really hard to tell sometimes as attractiveness is not always the same as beauty. I think of myself as something like a 5, I guess, and then sometimes find I'll get several guys coming over to speak to me at a social gathering. Often I don't know them at all so it surprises me. I assume they are just being friendly but I do also get the feeling if I was at all flirtatious, this would be reciprocated too. Last week, a guy I vaguely remember meeting years ago was at a gathering and came over to me three times to chat. Lots of other people who knew him went to talk to him so it wasn't as if he was without company. I hadn't encouraged him or even recognised him at first. It's a strange feeling when you don't know why someone keeps appearing next to you.

 

It seems to be catching as well. One guy talks to you, then another, and I start to feel almost embarassed by the attention. Then again, there can be evenings when absolutely nothing happens. It's almost as if there is some tension in the air sometimes and some are aware of it and on that strange wavelength and reacting to it, and yet others aren't. I'm not talking sexual tension, but something that affects the unconscious minds of all there. I don't think it is pheremones either. Maybe it is electromagnetic waves or something, lol. Do others find this?

 

I never know what to make of these events. I don't think being attractive or not really explains them.

[carhill]

How can you tell whether you're attractive?

 

When a perfect stranger approaches you and introduces themselves and strikes up a conversation. Then another. Then another. Pretty soon, you have a receiving line, then an agent, personal secretary and butler. Heh.

[Leigh 87]

My ultimate dream is to just find an average aussie bloke who is a little less attractive than me, who think he's punching a little above his weight and feels thrilled to have me.

 

I feel strong chemistry for men who haven't been hot. That's how true chemistry works for me... Because I am open to feeling the spark for an array of men who aren't what society or my mates deem " hot ", I do find it delightful that the men I have fallen for DID think I was gorgeous.

 

I am getting a nose job guys.

 

Will I be more akin to a solid 8 once I get it?

 

I have straight teeth, full lips, large blue eyes and long nice hair. A porn star body ( slim and yet large ish boobs) and yet I am ONLY a 7!!!!!!! BECAUSE OF MY DAMNED NOSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!So after my nose job, I'll have a cute smaller nose and I am sincerely hoping that, aside from the immense confidence boost I'll get, that more men will be attracted to me.

 

What do you all think about my upcoming nose job? I personally believe that not many men can feel very attracted to women with large noses. We are never going to be on the upper end panther attractiveness scale, a 7 is the best us big nose women can get providing we are otherwise perfect ( which my other featured are pretty damn good)

 

Sigh. Then I see women who have a cute nose and who are considerd " more attractive " than myself, who have thin lips or not so special eyes or an average body type. The fact my NOSE is my bad feature makes me less attractive than ALL cute nosed girls.

 

I hate my nose so much that I sometimes believe that maybe I am NOT considered attractive and the sole reason isn't bad nose???????????

 

 

 

 

I have new profile pics for reference. I think I am attractive ASIDE from my nose, but I cannot figure out if I am not attractive now but will be attractive after my nose is fixed, or whether I am already somewhat attractive, and the nose job will put me up to an 8/10......

[RedRobin]

My ultimate dream is to just find an average aussie bloke who is a little less attractive than me, who think he's punching a little above his weight and feels thrilled to have me.

 

I feel strong chemistry for men who haven't been hot. That's how true chemistry works for me... Because I am open to feeling the spark for an array of men who aren't what society or my mates deem " hot ", I do find it delightful that the men I have fallen for DID think I was gorgeous.

 

I am getting a nose job guys.

 

Will I be more akin to a solid 8 once I get it?

 

I have straight teeth, full lips, large blue eyes and long nice hair. A porn star body ( slim and yet large ish boobs) and yet I am ONLY a 7!!!!!!! BECAUSE OF MY DAMNED NOSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!So after my nose job, I'll have a cute smaller nose and I am sincerely hoping that, aside from the immense confidence boost I'll get, that more men will be attracted to me.

 

What do you all think about my upcoming nose job? I personally believe that not many men can feel very attracted to women with large noses. We are never going to be on the upper end panther attractiveness scale, a 7 is the best us big nose women can get providing we are otherwise perfect ( which my other featured are pretty damn good)

 

Sigh. Then I see women who have a cute nose and who are considerd " more attractive " than myself, who have thin lips or not so special eyes or an average body type. The fact my NOSE is my bad feature makes me less attractive than ALL cute nosed girls.

 

I hate my nose so much that I sometimes believe that maybe I am NOT considered attractive and the sole reason isn't bad nose???????????

 

 

 

 

I have new profile pics for reference. I think I am attractive ASIDE from my nose, but I cannot figure out if I am not attractive now but will be attractive after my nose is fixed, or whether I am already somewhat attractive, and the nose job will put me up to an 8/10......

 

 

What do I think? I think your nose gives your face character. Makes you memorable.

 

 

Case in point. Jennifer Gray

 

 

After on the left. Before on the right...

 

 

http://www.nose-sg.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/Jennifer-Grey-Nose-job.jpg

 

 

She looks just like everyone else now. But no character and not much memorable.

 

 

If you DO decide to get a nose job, don't do a radical one like Jennifer Gray did to make it small and 'cute'.... Get one like some other stars did... just a little tweak to shave off a bump or give it some definition... And get the best doctor you can find.

 

 

Here's an example... another Jennifer...

 

 

Before:

 

 

http://www.eonline.com/eol_images/Entire_Site/2014415/rs_634x1024-140515042416-634-Jennifer-Aniston-Rachel-Friends-JR-51514.jpg

 

 

After:

 

 

http://static.comicvine.com/uploads/original/2/26147/3526466-jennifer-aniston-441306212.jpg

 

 

Wasn't too drastic.

 

 

Keep in mind that she became a star before she had her nose done And she was married to Brad Pitt before she had her nose done too. So there ya go.

[Gloria25]

Someone called in or wrote my fav podcaster...that person listed women on a scale of 1 to 5 - where pretty much men will go for a "3".

 

I can't remember the exact words he caller used, but here goes:

 

1-Ugly (un f-able/dateable)

 

2-Not bad looking

 

3-Pretty (not ugly, but not hot either - so she's dateable w/o having to worry about her being chased by many of guys)

 

4-Very pretty (she has options, so not worth it)

 

5-Hot (she has even more options, and is gonna require even too much work - definitely not worth it)

 

Now, there are some guys who ignore the scale of 1-5 and think they can get whomever - they are usually delusional and/or will just take what they can get.

 

And yes, a lot of men can bang anything - regardless of how she looks.

 

The higher on the scale the woman is, she may either be chased by players who just wanna "hit it"; delusional guys who just want arm candy and will probably treat her poorly cuz all they're worried about is how good she makes him look; and, equally hot and/or really confident guys who are not intimidated by her hotness and have the balls to seal the deal and keep her "his" - no matter how many guys want her and/or options she has.

 

So, lots of factors go into what men find attractive and/or what type of RL they want with it.

[RedRobin]

How can I tell I'm attractive? I'm constantly griping about all the men who have hit on me over the years. I guess I must be attractive to someone.

 

 

My first BF looked like this guy (Dolph Lundgren)... we were together almost two years. His body was similar too. Women would stop him in the store and ask to take his picture.

 

 

http://img.mypopulars.com/images/dolph-lundgren/Dolph-Lundgren-11.jpg

 

 

My ex H looked like this guy... JFK JR

 

 

https://www.google.com/search?q=jfk+jr&rlz=1I7ADRA_en&biw=1366&bih=673&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=NZqUVajFJcLysAXC6paACA&ved=0CAYQ_AUoAQ#imgrc=gaEMJrW1QRF4IM%3A

 

 

I dunno. Am I attractive because I've had attractive SOs? Not so sure. I objectively think I'm about a "5" maybe a "6". Eyes that crinkle up when I smile, good hair, small boobs, cute butt. Meh.

 

 

But maybe I'm like that a-hole guy who doesn't care... and ends up with the hot woman. Maybe I'm interesting and fun. Lots of people tell me that. Not sure. I think I've got somethin' IRL that makes some guys go "hmmmm" that has nothing to do with model looks. Must be. Because I really ain't objectively too hot.

 

 

p.s. I think Jennifer Aniston is way more 'attractive' than Angelina Jolie. Jennifer seems to have a bubbly, fun personality. To me at least, Angelina is like a mannequin and a bit psycho. But hey. To each his/her own. If I were a guy, I know who I'd want to have around.

Edited July 2, 2015 by RedRobin

[Phoe]

Hard to say how one can for sure assess that, because so much of it is subjective.

 

Logically, one could list it in a manner of assessing good features and not so good features, and go from there.

 

But even still, one feature that I might not like on myself, might be good in someone else's eyes.

 

Maybe I don't like my cheekbones, but to someone else my cheekbones are nice!

 

Makes it impossible.