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Old 11th January 2018, 11:56 AM   #1
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My mother died yesterday

My mother died yesterday, quite unexpectedly. The exact time is not known as she was alone. She had a serious chronic lung illness but seemed fine on Tuesday, though struggling with a persistent cold. When she wasn't answering calls on Wednesday we requested a welfare check and her body was found by a sheriff's deputy. She was 79.

I spent a week with her at Christmas time and am so glad I did. That was the last time we saw each other. I called her on New Year's Day and that was the last time we spoke. I can't even remember what we talked about.

This hurts so much more than I expected. We've had our ups and downs and little annoyances aplenty, yet we loved each other and said so frequently, especially these last years. The shock of realizing again and again and again that everything that she was, and her warmth and good heart and good thoughts, have just been flicked off like a light switch just leaves me limp and numb and whimpering.
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Old 11th January 2018, 11:59 AM   #2
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I'm very sorry, Sole. Please accept my condolences.


I'm so glad you got to spend Christmas with her.
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Old 11th January 2018, 12:02 PM   #3
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I am so sorry, Sole. Losing a parent so unexpectedly is very difficult. I lost my father unexpectedly, and, like you, can't even remember our last words. We had a good day so it was probably "I love you" but it's hard not to remember . I'll pray for you today that as you remember your mom in the coming days, weeks, and months, that the pain will lessen and be replaced with memories that only make you smile. Big virtual hugs from me to you.
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Old 11th January 2018, 12:14 PM   #4
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So sorry to hear that, Sole. Many, many hugs to you and fam.
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Old 11th January 2018, 12:21 PM   #5
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My deepest condolences. The 7th anniversary of my mother's passing is coming up next week & it still hurts.


Know her suffering is over. Be thankful for the Christmas you had together.
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Old 11th January 2018, 1:06 PM   #6
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Big hugs... I'm so sorry.
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Old 11th January 2018, 1:08 PM   #7
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((((HUGS)))))! It's so hard losing your mother.
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Old 11th January 2018, 1:13 PM   #8
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I'm very sorry. Sending you my deepest condolences.
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Old 11th January 2018, 1:35 PM   #9
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I'm so sorry. People kind of expect to go through the death of their parents at some point but that doesn't make it any less painful and heartbreaking when it actually happens. Sending hugs your way.
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Old 11th January 2018, 1:50 PM   #10
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SoleMate,

My sympathies to you, your family and your mom's friends and loved ones; and wishing your mom a peaceful and smooth transition.
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Old 11th January 2018, 4:48 PM   #11
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I'm so sorry solemate. It must have been a big shock for you since you didn;t expect it... May you live a good and long life, and always remember her with love and how you two had a special christmas together.
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Old 11th January 2018, 5:11 PM   #12
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Thoughts and prayers are with you and yours....

God Bless you in this time of need.
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Old 11th January 2018, 5:44 PM   #13
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I'm so very sorry.

I too, have lost my mother. As someone wisely once said, it is an ache that never goes away...

I wish you strength and comfort as you grieve your loss. Best wishes.
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Old 12th January 2018, 1:24 AM   #14
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Many thanks to all for the kind wishes, they brought tears to my eyes. I know this is a road that so many have travelled before me. How many times have I condoled with a mourner and offered my sympathy for the pain. Yet I see now I had little idea of what I was talking about. Thank you again, this is a good and kind community.
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Old 12th January 2018, 1:34 AM   #15
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I am sorry for your loss, Solemate.

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