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Old 10th March 2019, 10:29 PM   #16
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Why on earth would you even consider investing 10 seconds into this pig?

A life lesson a lot of us have to learn the hard way is that we can't 'fix' or 'change' another person. This guy is obviously living through his genitals so stop wasting your time on him. Block this loser on your phone and everywhere else.
I didn't contact him again. My question was more philosphical, I suppose.
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Old 10th March 2019, 11:12 PM   #17
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Honestly, I think I could get a boyfriend if I really, really tried.
that's the spirit hotpotato
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Old 10th March 2019, 11:17 PM   #18
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In most situations it's better to be alone than to be with someone and undervalued.

Clearly this guy doesn't value you for anything besides sex. And if that's what you want then ok, go for it. But it doesn't sound like you're interested in that kind of relationship. I'd cut it off completely and move on.

As an aside, you should try posting this question on the RGUE app (pronounced "argue") to try and get some additional perspectives.
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Old 10th March 2019, 11:24 PM   #19
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Sex may be the only thing some guys care about, but it is no foundation upon which to build a relationship. If that's all a guy cares about, you're not going to change that. there are guys who will relate to you as a human being and there are guys who will only relate to you as a sex object. Don't waste your time on the ladder except when all you want is sex.
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Old 11th March 2019, 8:43 AM   #20
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Am I the first man to respond? Hmmmm.

OP, if you and a man are mutually OK with just sex, that's fine. If you don't want a relationship just for sex, that's fine too. It seems this one has made it clear what he wants. You might think he's a jerk, but maybe better than leading you on thinking there might be a relationship just to get sex?

As far as "changing" anyone, man or woman, ain't gonna happen. You need to find someone who fulfills all of what you want and need. He's out there.
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Old 11th March 2019, 11:08 AM   #21
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Well, those guys didn't care in the end.
The thing is, with some people, it doesn't matter what you do, they aren't gonna care. If someone you don't find remotely attractive or interesting brings you a pie, you might appreciate the gesture but still won't wanna have sex with them, will you?

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Honestly, I think I could get a boyfriend if I really, really tried. It's keeping one that's harder.
Why do you think you will struggle to keep a guy around? Statistically, women end relationships over 70% of the time, so keeping a guy should be a piece of cake compared to keeping a woman around.
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Old 11th March 2019, 11:13 AM   #22
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I've met a handful of women in my time that were master manipulators when it came to dealing with men. They could make any man spend the last dollar he had and then coerce him into lighting himself on fire.
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Old 11th March 2019, 12:51 PM   #23
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I've met a handful of women in my time that were master manipulators when it came to dealing with men. They could make any man spend the last dollar he had and then coerce him into lighting himself on fire.
And to those women, I say, We salute you!
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Old 11th March 2019, 3:02 PM   #24
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And to those women, I say, We salute you!
most of them worked in high-end strip clubs, or "gentleman's clubs" as some call them
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Old 11th March 2019, 4:04 PM   #25
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I know that's right.
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Old 12th March 2019, 1:38 PM   #26
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most of them worked in high-end strip clubs, or "gentleman's clubs" as some call them
Very interesting thread. I am loving this honest frank discussion. It just goes to show How Men and Women see stuff...ie relationships, themselves, each other, us women, men. I Totally get how we think its grand to friend zone a guy!! but then that's basically what they do to us chicks except they opt for sex...hmmm which makes sense because us women have to be aware of society and things like self respect, and society and values and men can just have sex this is an interesting topic I Love It lol
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Old 12th March 2019, 1:57 PM   #27
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I think a better question might be: how does one have an exclusive relationship and not be just an eff buddy?

Answer: by not playing into the silly games you described in the OP and setting healthy boundaries. If you don't want to have a guy sext you then delete and block. what do you really expect from that level of interaction? If you just wanna be FWB, then by all means continue with what you're doing. If you want something more, than be clear about that and eliminate the noise.
I agree with this. If you don't want to be an eff buddy, don't act like one by responding to sexting and sexual innuendo. Walk away. All that is is fishing, seeing how loose you are. A guy who wants to get to know you will treat you less like a sex object and more like a human and get to know you that way.
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Old 12th March 2019, 8:00 PM   #28
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Im so depressed today i got a snap chat off a good male friend who I have known for years and who told me has feelings for me but could not act on them because he is married but then he totally splits up with the wife and he texts me and is casual and now he is texting me snapchats Im Horny the thing that makes me the most upset is How Ugly He Looked I pinned alot of hopes on us but now Its like he is just gross to me...so again I'm thinking what is wrong with me that I get this behavior from men? :S
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Old 12th March 2019, 8:24 PM   #29
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^ hee hee. Be careful what you wish for! You better shut the door on that "me so horny" crap of his right now before he comes over.
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Old 12th March 2019, 11:39 PM   #30
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I think I could get a boyfriend if I really, really tried. It's keeping one that's harder.
Hi hotpotato, what do you mean by this? Why is it hard for you to keep a boyfriend?
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