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Old 6th March 2019, 12:16 PM   #1
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Heve you ever rejected someone initially then later went out with them?

Like maybe a friend/acquantance situation where for whatever reason maybe lack of attraction maybe you were attracted but the timing wasnít right maybe you didnít look at them like that etc but later on ended up dating them?
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Old 6th March 2019, 5:49 PM   #2
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Well...not that I actively rejected him, but he just never was on my radar as a potential romantic interest.

But then, about 10 or 12 years after I first met him, we did get together. Going on 20+ years, now.
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Old 6th March 2019, 5:56 PM   #3
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Yeah. When my old roommate first moved in, he was one of her friends. I was back to back in love with two guys during that time, so I'm usually not even interested in someone else. He made clear he was interested but I just told him, Sorry, I'm focused on this other guy. He was a good looking guy, nothing wrong like that. We would just be acquaintances then for a few years.

Then I gave him a shot when I was lonely and running low on friends because some had moved out of state. We dated awhile and there just wasn't any chemistry and I am pretty sure it was mutual. He owned a little custom clothes show and was a local musician. But he was an alcoholic deluxe. I drank a ton back then, but I didn't start in the morning at least, and he did. I didn't like that. It just got to where we had nothing to talk about. He told me he has intimacy (like being close to someone) problems, but that's about all I could get out of him. We kept up an intermittent unscheduled F buddies relationship for a few years. Like if we'd run into each other, we might go have sex. I stopped one night when I just go turned off by him smelling so much like alcohol and feeling like his skin was actually spongy from it.

My first instincts were correct. But we did look cute together. I have some photo booth photos.
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