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Old 9th November 2017, 9:00 PM   #1
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The Luxury and Downfall of Abundance

When it comes to dating, men and women each have their own difficulties. Men are the ones expected to pursue, women are expected to wait. Everything has it's own advantage and disadvantage.

But there's one thing women have a clear advantage over men and it's not even close.

It's abundance.

For many woman, from the moment they hit puberty, they are bombarded with attention from men. All of a sudden, every single guy is nice to you and wants to be your friend, men either act really shy around you or they're actively pursuing you trying to get your number. You are being hit on by guys regularly, often by men much older than you. Why is it that the pretty girls seem to have a lot of guy friends while the not-so-attractive women are mostly ignored? Because men naturally gravitate towards beautiful women, even if it's merely platonic. That's the advantage a pretty girl has going for her.

For beautiful women they have a wide range of men who would be willing to go on a date with them, sleep with them, or simply just hang out with them at a moments notice. On Tinder, a decently attractive girl can match with almost anybody she swipes yes to, even if her bio is completely asss. On Plenty of Fish or OkCupid, she is bombarded with hundreds of messages.

For a girl in her physical prime, this is definitely the case. Women tend to peak from 18-25. This is when she will be at her most beautiful and dating in this age-range is relatively easy. A decently attractive woman in this age-range can realistically can go from new guy to new guy within a short period of time. It's not uncommon to see women who are young and beautiful have another boyfriend within a year, or be sleeping with someone new within only a couple of months.

All of this is the advantage of female abundance. However have lots of options isn't always a good thing. Let me explain.

Imagine you're Lebron James walking into a mall and everyone is following you, people keep disturbing you asking for your autograph. You just want to be left alone, you don't want all of these people disturbing you.

That's kind of what it's like to be a beautiful woman but to a lesser extent. You walk down the street and men are cat calling you. You have creeps trying to hit on you, and they're not backing off despite you throwing out hints. You have men flat out cursing you out for not going out with them.

There's also another disadvantage women have, being mostly judged on beauty.
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Old 9th November 2017, 9:28 PM   #2
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Popularity is a fleeting thing. If one is so blessed, IMO enjoy it to the full. Sure, it has some downsides too as does everything in life. Nothing is free.
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Old 10th November 2017, 1:33 AM   #3
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I hope the women on this board can chime in. The cat calling is men that are just being rowdy. Its more for the guys to one up each other as to who is the man. Its Ego.

I feel like men have it harder if they are more on the nice guy side of things. They really have it hard. I think that bad boys win in the quick side of things. Long term is the good guys. In this world right now. There i so many mixex signals.

Be too good. Your seen as boring. Be too bad and your Spacey/Trump/Weinstien rolled into one. All these hoops one has to pass. I feel that because I lean towards good guy. That I get passed over. My buddy S is a bad boy and he has never been with out a woman. He left a 29 yr relationship and is with someone new. You would think that I would have girls fighting for me and he would be clueless. He did sleep arouhd on his wife.

Maybe some of the women out there should start giving the good guys more of a chance. By good. I don't mean some innocent lamb. I just mean someone that leans towards being good and not getting into trouble. Respectful.
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