LookAtThisPOst Posted February 16, 2016 Share Posted February 16, 2016 There are some profiles, and I don't know if this is big deal or not, but it does go without saying. When women get specific on how they want a man to touch them romantically. "I love it when he passes by me and touches me on the hips when he does so" or "I like a man who takes charge and holds me by the hand and kisses me spontaneously when out on the dance floor." Things like that. I'm wondering if she's just baiting men, getting them all hot and bothered online as if she was writing a harlequin novel. LOL Thoughts? Bad move or okay move on her part? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted February 16, 2016 Share Posted February 16, 2016 Not a fan of these, they're pointless to write, to be honest. Anything in the realm of "I want a man who will ______" is putting the cart way before the horse. What she means is she wants to experience that stuff with someone she likes -- and she's a long way away from finding that person by the simple fact that she's still looking for someone. It's not like "touching her softly on the hips as he passes by" is her only criteria, it's a fantasy that doesn't consider any other aspect of reality. The point being, you can message this woman and say "Hey, I'll touch you softly on the hips as I walk by. It sounds like I'm perfect for you. Dinner tomorrow at 8?" ...and she's not going to just read it and say "Wow, I found my perfect man!" She'll still have to read over your profile and hold you all her other standards in addition to that. You still have as good a chance of being too short/boring/ugly for her, she just doesn't mention that because she's too caught up in the future and fantasy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted February 16, 2016 Author Share Posted February 16, 2016 Not a fan of these, they're pointless to write, to be honest. Anything in the realm of "I want a man who will ______" is putting the cart way before the horse. What she means is she wants to experience that stuff with someone she likes -- and she's a long way away from finding that person by the simple fact that she's still looking for someone. It's not like "touching her softly on the hips as he passes by" is her only criteria, it's a fantasy that doesn't consider any other aspect of reality. The point being, you can message this woman and say "Hey, I'll touch you softly on the hips as I walk by. It sounds like I'm perfect for you. Dinner tomorrow at 8?" ...and she's not going to just read it and say "Wow, I found my perfect man!" She'll still have to read over your profile and hold you all her other standards in addition to that. You still have as good a chance of being too short/boring/ugly for her, she just doesn't mention that because she's too caught up in the future and fantasy. Well, this woman is 50 years old, so she really can't afford to have such expectations, esp. in the back water town she's in and of course, looking her age. Link to post Share on other sites
AMJ Posted February 16, 2016 Share Posted February 16, 2016 It's a strange thing to write on a profile. It made me laugh just reading it. But at the same time, she's looking for a guy who wants to be romantic with her. Maybe she left her husband because he put zero effort into romance, and she's letting potential suitors know this is the way to make her happy. I have pretty much nothing written on my profile, and often guys will ask me- what are you looking for in a boyfriend. The answer to that question is so generic and I don't really think it would be helpful for them, if they're trying to already figure out if they can make me happy. For example, "I want someone funny, responsible, intelligent, passionate, ambitious, down-to-earth" because...suddenly every single guy says- "Oh I am all of those things. I'm perfect for you!". But it sounds like she's describing a very specific type of romance, which I give her credit for. Not many men can pull off harlequin novel romance on a regular basis. Well, not many men actually want to do that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted February 16, 2016 Share Posted February 16, 2016 She's just letting you know what type things make her feel womanly. Of course, you may do something completely different that she will like too. Me, I like a guy who sometimes throws his arm over my shoulder when walking, but a lot of women Hate that. And none of my bfs did it. Only an acquaintance ever did it. Hey, we all have stuff we like. It's not a requirement. Link to post Share on other sites
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