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Okay long story short, I am in love with a girl (let's call her Grace) that I've been friends with for almost three years. Throughout our friendship, many people have told me she has feelings for me which she swears that she doesn't. This has led to many arguments between us and causes a distance between us. Sometimes Grace ignores my texts and calls when I'm trying to help her with her problems and she tries to deal with things on her own. But I don't want her to have to deal with that. She wants someone to be by her side, but she pushes me away. She should have someone who actually cares about her and wants to help her. It feels like I'm trying to take down bricks of her wall, but she keeps building them back up. Even she has said that she won't ever let her wall down and basically that I'm wasting my time. She's the one who won't let me in.

 

And even though I'm sure she actually does have feelings for me, I know she won't admit to me or date me for some reason. The last time I asked her why she wouldn't date me, she said that she wouldn't "after what happened". I asked her what happened but she never really tells me what was her childhood or current years like. From what little she has told me about her life, I know she's been through things, but it's like she pushes me away because of it.

 

She loves a guy who apparently loves her back and knows everything about her, but kind of treats her wrong from what she tells others. She tells me she would get back together with him in a heartbeat, but she always tells others how bad he treats her and how she shouldn't get back together with him. Also, the guy she loves is the brother of another girl who I used to like but now I can't stand. His sister, who had a boyfriend, told the whole school that I liked her and everyone gossiped about it. Grace suggested that his sister probably did like me back and that it didn't matter that she was with someone because she could still like someone even when she's in a relationship. But after telling the whole school, I've grown to dislike his sister. So I have a hard time seeing how he could be any different from his sister.

 

Grace and I had a final conversation where we decided not to speak to each other again unless I'm dating someone so that I wouldn't catch feelings for her. At first, I introduced a similar solution a couple of months ago, but now she has too. I do want to be friends with her, but she keeps pushing me away so now I think it's over and done with.

 

But how do I move on from her?

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jonwashington

Bro why are you chasing this girl it's like you're begging her to let you help her with her problems she doesn't want you to help her she wants nothing to do with you I don't mean to be blunt but that's just the truth man you will never get anything from a girl if you're just hanging around in like begging to help. You know if she wants to tell you something she'll come to you and tell you you know. But I understand because it seems like you really really like her so you just want to be there for her but the thing that sucks is she already knows that you like her so it probably annoys her when you're pretty much saying let me help you let me help you because she knows it's just because you like her. I would say stop talking to her altogether you've already told her how you feel she doesn't feel the same way. I know the feeling man when you really love somebody nd feelings arent reciprocated but you just got a let it go and you'll feel way better you'll feel free. Right now she's annoyed because she knows that you like her so anything you say is just gonna piss her off. If she really does care about you as a friend she'll text you Sunday and ask you how you're doing and just play it cool man and if she finally start asking for advice but you're in there as a friend and then maybe things will happen for you but don't annoy her as it's not gonna work no matter how much she may like You she's not going to tell you if you keep trying to pry it out of her girls are stubborn man best of luck bro

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