R3d's Issues (2/5): The Principle of Two Weaknesses

[R3d]

I have deconsolidated the issues outlined in the OP of this thread into five different threads because people were finding it too much to take in. I agree that my OP was very long especially with my tendency to ramble on and on so I have broken into bites to which anyone who is interested in responding to one piece can do so without the burden of all the other information. This is part 2 of the series:

 

You people keep citing just short and just Indian men doing well with women. Never both short and Indian. IndianBabu is not short. Now don't take this the wrong way. I said if I was short, but white, I would have been convinced by now, probably for a while. It's when it's coupled with being Indian. Same with only Indian but not short (though likely to a lesser extent). The combination of the two is making me much more than teice as insecure than if I only had one of those insecurities. I remember Josh Waitzkin, international chess master used to say, "It's very doable to defend one weakness. But two weaknesses will usually cripple your postion and make it really hard to get a draw." He called it the "Principle of Two Weaknesses". Same idea here.

 

On another board, I did hear there was this 4'2 Indian guy that got all the girls in college. Then again, he probably had legendary social skills. Like I said, social skills is quite a weak spot for me so while I can improve, I don't know if I can get to the point where it trumps my height and race.

 

Simarly in chess, if you have two weaknesses, you almost cannot make a single mistake while defending if you want to draw the game. Your moves have to be perfect.

 

But anyway, that wasn't the point of my last major post. My last major post was actually asking a lot of specific questions that I have had that I'd like to work to resolve and was wondering. Such as what do I do when a girl asks me about my ethnicity (again, see the post to see the context in which I am asking the question and why it's not as simple as it seems)? But I also had a bunch of other questions and confusions in that post that, such as the whole part about dating being a grave weakness for me. And that goes hand in hand with The Principle of Two Weaknesses.

[carhill]

Are your two perceived weaknesses global, or local? While the chess master analogy might be apt, in that life can often be a chess game, you, unlike the pieces in the chess game, are not limited to a simple two-dimensional board of defined dimensions.

 

Explore the world, of course after completing your primary education, and evaluate your position with the information gathered.

[R3d]

Well the point remains, that I'd I was only short or only Indian, I wouldn't be having half as much trouble. One weakness is very doable to defend. But with two weaknesses, it becomes very stressful to defend. Because you have to focus on two weaknesses at one time which makes it much harder to get either one taken care of and trying to do two things at once is very difficult. It's doable, but you have to play nearly perfectly in chess. It translates to having to have legendary social skills in order to overcome being short and Indian, and if you look at part 3, this is actually a grave weakness for me.