Romantic Patterns

[Mysterio]

What would you say is your romantic pattern with the opposite sex?

 

For me. I am the type of guy that takes the women out to dinner/walks for the most part. We always go high class and order a meal and are able to talk.

 

If the woman is into me. Things for a short time go well. Physical Affection is in-synch and for the most part we get along.

 

If I make the move on the woman. It never really seems to go my way. There is always some little twist. Its not like I come off as just wanting to get into bed with them, so I don't know what the hang up could be.

 

Its like my choice to date a woman and have it go my way, which is just going out and enjoying each other company results in my frustration. If the women is into me. Things go off without a hitch.

 

Once again. The sex thing for me is more in the background. I don't even start to think heavy sex unless we have been out a couple of times. She would have to be my GF before I get into that. As I don't want sex to cloud my judgement. I do think about making out and snuggling up together more than sex.

 

Summing up myself. I see myself as great guy. Physically I see myself as more cute than classically handsome or smoldering sexy. Although I have my times where I can be both.

 

I tend to be way more introspective than just cracking jokes or coming on to the women sexually all the time. If you have ever seen the seen in Batman with Michael Keaton as Bruce Wayne talking with Kim Basinger's Vicky Vale in the kitchen.

 

I wonder why this pattern in me exists. Once again its like. Make the effort and the reward is mediocrity. Make no major effort. It goes my way for awhile at least.

[GemmaUK]

What would you say is your romantic pattern with the opposite sex?

 

I wonder why this pattern in me exists. Once again its like. Make the effort and the reward is mediocrity. Make no major effort. It goes my way for awhile at least.

 

Mine is be myself and go with the flow, not rush things. Take a bit of time after a first meet to see if I am interested enough to want to see him again and get to know him a bit better.This will either go well and it will evolve naturally or the man will get all too keen all too soon and start trying to talk about 'our future' before I even get to know him.

 

I wonder if perhaps when you 'make effort' as you say you're not waiting to see what signals of interest or otherwise she is giving you.

'Making no effort' could be that she is giving you signals of interest and then just acts on them herself as you haven't picked up that she is interested.

 

Define what 'making effort' and 'making no effort' both mean to you.

[HappyLove]

Are you meeting these women IRL or online?

 

I think this makes a huge difference. If meeting online it's not that you're doing anything wrong AT ALL. It's just that with OLDing people have ridiculous expectations and many options. It can be more difficult to make a connection because they tend to think the grass is greener with the next one.