Geek Down Posted April 6, 2014 Share Posted April 6, 2014 I'm divorced....34....and in the best shape of my life. I recently finalized my divorce and have lost over 100 pounds, built muscle mass and im on my way to a better life. Problem is, one area is not improving, or its not going the way I would like it to go. All relationships post-seperation with my now ex-wife, have been with girls much, much younger then me. Both were 21 when I was 32 and 34...Now I have no problem with the age difference and I am either the youngest or oldest depending on what friends group I'm with. OH!! did I mention I'm in an emotional relationship with my best friend? She's 26...Anyway, both of the relationships post marriage have been fast paced and we ended up in bed on the first date...They got what they wanted and then moved on.... I want a relationship....Not just being used for sex...problem is, well..Women don't like me, or should I say women within 5 years of my age don't want me. I can't have children, so 90% of the women in my age bracket automatically say no....I'm not ugly by any means, but I'm no Ryan Reynolds either. Ok, now down to the problem at hand....There is this girl at work...She's making a full court press at me.....Its more than just obvious..And given a different scenario, I'd dive at the opportunity..She's very smart, funny and extremely attractive..just like the other 2...she's also 18....... ..And yet, I find myself giving it serious thought..... Link to post Share on other sites
pseudosauce Posted April 6, 2014 Share Posted April 6, 2014 (edited) If you want a serious relationship, don't do it. If you are her superior by any means at work, don't do it. If you want your workplace to remain drama-free, don't do it. Overall I would say, just don't do it. She could just be the type who flirts with men at work to pass the time, or to get them to do her work for her. A girl that age going after you is like a dog chasing a car, neither would know what to do when they caught the object of their focus. If you intend to be upwardly mobile at your place of work, a divorced man your age getting involved with a teenager would not make you look good, at best they'd think you were having an early midlife crisis, at worst they would think it was gross. Either way you will be relentlessly mocked behind your back. Don't intend for people at work to know about your relationship with her? Absolutely everyone will know every intimate detail, including her Facebook buddies and any anybody else who will listen. This is coming from a girl who lost her virginity to her 47 year old boss when she was 17. Edited April 6, 2014 by pseudosauce Clarity 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Valen Posted April 6, 2014 Share Posted April 6, 2014 This is coming from a girl who lost her virginity to her 47 year old boss when she was 17. So what happen after if you don't mind I ask? Link to post Share on other sites
pseudosauce Posted April 6, 2014 Share Posted April 6, 2014 To not derail the thread, in my workplace I did not like my coworkers (all were much older law professionals who had no reason to talk to me) so I never said a word, however this is not the norm. He was the owner of the law office, and everyone's suspicions that something was going on between us was a very disruptive influence. Since it was also technically illegal (age of consent in Nevada is 16, but an adult can still be prosecuted for the offense of "corrupting the morals of a minor") I never told anyone until well after I left the job. Since this girl is pretty and popular and of age, if only barely, it is almost guaranteed she will want to shout her and OP's love from the rooftops. No matter how smart an 18 year old girl is, she is not prepared to have a serious, adult relationship with someone practically twice her age. Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted April 6, 2014 Share Posted April 6, 2014 I'm divorced....34....and in the best shape of my life. I recently finalized my divorce and have lost over 100 pounds, built muscle mass and im on my way to a better life. Problem is, one area is not improving, or its not going the way I would like it to go. All relationships post-seperation with my now ex-wife, have been with girls much, much younger then me. Both were 21 when I was 32 and 34...Now I have no problem with the age difference and I am either the youngest or oldest depending on what friends group I'm with. OH!! did I mention I'm in an emotional relationship with my best friend? She's 26...Anyway, both of the relationships post marriage have been fast paced and we ended up in bed on the first date...They got what they wanted and then moved on.... I want a relationship....Not just being used for sex...problem is, well..Women don't like me, or should I say women within 5 years of my age don't want me. I can't have children, so 90% of the women in my age bracket automatically say no....I'm not ugly by any means, but I'm no Ryan Reynolds either. Ok, now down to the problem at hand....There is this girl at work...She's making a full court press at me.....Its more than just obvious..And given a different scenario, I'd dive at the opportunity..She's very smart, funny and extremely attractive..just like the other 2...she's also 18....... ..And yet, I find myself giving it serious thought..... Don't dip your pen in the company ink. Link to post Share on other sites
topaMAXX Posted April 6, 2014 Share Posted April 6, 2014 I'm 27 and currently dating an 18 year old and a 21 year old. I highly recommend it. Link to post Share on other sites
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