CadeYeager Posted April 5, 2014 Share Posted April 5, 2014 Ladies does it: 1. Spark an interest in the fact that a guy had enough balls to do it? 2. Creep you out. I know everyone is different when it comes to this. But for those are against and say that you only date, those with mutual friends... why? Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted April 6, 2014 Share Posted April 6, 2014 Ladies does it: 1. Spark an interest in the fact that a guy had enough balls to do it? 2. Creep you out. I know everyone is different when it comes to this. But for those are against and say that you only date, those with mutual friends... why? Depending on the guy. How he holds himself together, how he looks, and how he talks to me.. Nice and respectful approach is always welcomed. It will creep me out if I find his looks are so obvious and his behavior is scary. Link to post Share on other sites
Author CadeYeager Posted April 6, 2014 Author Share Posted April 6, 2014 Depending on the guy. How he holds himself together, how he looks, and how he talks to me.. Nice and respectful approach is always welcomed. It will creep me out if I find his looks are so obvious and his behavior is scary. So if I casually approached you or another girl politely, you'd be open for conversation? Trust me I wouldn't be the guy to ask about bra size if that's the creepy you speak of. Oh yeah back to the mutual friends concept. Why do some people do this? All because one has a mutual friend doesn't mean anything IMO. A friend of a friend of mine is just as good as a stranger off the streets. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author CadeYeager Posted April 6, 2014 Author Share Posted April 6, 2014 All the time. Most men are respectful. Best to always say something funny. I was in the grocery store looking at tomato one time and a guy said 'that must be an interesting tomato. Can I look at it after you '. I almost peed with laughter the way he said it so seriously. We chatted...Hooked him up with my friend. They have been married over 15 years. Anyways...dress nice, be squeaky clean. So are there any cases where I should stay away? Link to post Share on other sites
Koopa Posted April 6, 2014 Share Posted April 6, 2014 All the time. Most men are respectful. Best to always say something funny. I was in the grocery store looking at tomato one time and a guy said 'that must be an interesting tomato. Can I look at it after you '. I almost peed with laughter the way he said it so seriously. We chatted...Hooked him up with my friend. They have been married over 15 years. Anyways...dress nice, be squeaky clean. Grocery store is great place to meet a good woman but gotta be careful in the produce section, melon and cucumber jokes are instant creep status. Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted April 6, 2014 Share Posted April 6, 2014 So if I casually approached you or another girl politely, you'd be open for conversation? Trust me I wouldn't be the guy to ask about bra size if that's the creepy you speak of. Oh yeah back to the mutual friends concept. Why do some people do this? All because one has a mutual friend doesn't mean anything IMO. A friend of a friend of mine is just as good as a stranger off the streets. Sure, people cold approach me now and then I speak to them and if I see them again I might say hi.. I don't really give them my number though the other night at shopping store, a guy talked to me for a bout 15 minutes. He wasn't handsome or anything he was just confident and polite. I really don't get the idea of friend of friend thing.. People should be open to new people out of their comfort zone Link to post Share on other sites
pseudosauce Posted April 6, 2014 Share Posted April 6, 2014 Men approach me all the time, the only problem is it can be up to three days later before I think back on the encounter and think "hey! That guy was hitting in me!" I have always been really oblivious, I'm always friendly if I'm at work, or out and doing errands but if I'm actively walking somewhere and some guy says "hi!" I'll usually say "hi" and keep walking. If, on the extremely rare occasion I'm in a bar, where I'm expecting guys to be on the prowl, I'm much more likely to be more flirty than friendly, it's all in good fun. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
iiiii Posted April 6, 2014 Share Posted April 6, 2014 I have been cold approached a couple of times. It was flattering, but on at least one occasion I think I hurt the guy's feelings because I was just so surprised by his question that I automatically turned him down. I don't know if it's true for most girls, but I'm unlikely to say yes to a date with a guy who is a complete stranger. But if a guy strikes up a bit of a conversation first before asking the "hey would you like to get a drink/coffee" question, I am more likely to say yes, because I am expecting the question and already decided whether I like him and feel comfortable talking to him. If someone just walks up out of the blue and asks me on a date then I'm very likely to say no. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted April 6, 2014 Share Posted April 6, 2014 It's not very common here, I think, and has only happened to me a few times. I admit I did find it creepy, but that is probably because I wasn't used to it (and no, it wasn't his looks, the dude looked fine IMO). If you did it in a culture/community where it was common, I don't imagine it would be a problem. Mutual friends are definitely better for me cause you already know the person more than just on a surface level. You know their personality, interests, intellect, etc. All of those are what attract me, far more than what first impressions do. Link to post Share on other sites
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