eur0pean Posted October 19, 2012 Share Posted October 19, 2012 (edited) I confessed my love to a girl I have known for a long time at school a few months ago (we are both teenagers). She said no, because she is already in love and says she knows absolutely sure that she wants him and says she won't be able to offer me what I want and she feels like she would treat me bad if she would date me because she thinks that would be lying. I know however that she thinks I'm a very nice and friendly guy (which is true, heh). We're now quite some months after the initial rejection and I talk to her occasionally because we both act casually about this. I have talked with her about my and her feelings in an extremely open way a few times and she really trusts me. The problem here is that she admitted to having thought about me as a potential boyfriend in the past (!) and she also admits that even though she likes someone she does not think he is going to ask her out, in any case, not anytime soon, but she does like him a lot. I personally feel sad right now because I know I am probably one of the few guys that like her at my school because she is not regarded as beautiful and some might find her a bit odd and lots of guys won´t care just because of that. I think her love will not be answered by the other guy and therefore feel that we are both missing out on each other. What should I do? I do not want to keep bothering her with my feelings because that wouldn't be fair and I don't want things to turn anymore awkward then they currently are. But at the same time I know absolutely sure that I do NOT want to give up on this chase because she is one of the girls I feel really confident around as a rather shy guy and she has treated me with utmost respect and honesty so far. But she has made it clear that she can't offer me her love, but I would probably say the same thing to any girl who would ask me out at this instant. Help, please? What should I do? I do not want to disrespect her and her feelings yet she is aware that she is missing out on something potentially beautiful - she told me so herself. Thank you for reading. Edited October 21, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
h0tminx Posted October 20, 2012 Share Posted October 20, 2012 hi! rejection hurts i admit. but thats how life works really. u get hurt, u pick urself back up and u move on. she has made it clear that she doesnt want a relationship. i suggest u to move on, tho its easier said than done. but if u still want her, then i suggest u to ignore me. as in, stop giving her the attention u are giving right now. girls go crazy if u ignore them. that crazy can be divided into good or bad. since girls are attention deprived 24/7. nothing is ever enough for us really. if she comes back, then shes yours. if she doesnt then.....u move on my friend. ive laid out two options for u, 1. move on. 2. ignore her i hope everything goes well! Link to post Share on other sites
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