Tolkien Posted February 20, 2003 Share Posted February 20, 2003 This could be put in several categories so I thought a "General Discussion" would fit best. Ok, So lets start back last Saturday night (4 days ago) I met a girl I really like through a friend of mine. A group of us went out to the movies, and then back to her house where we hung out until we got kicked out at midnight by her parents. I went home (after getting her phone number, adding my screen name to her list while I was on her computer) to find she had messaged me. Well, we ended up talking until about 5 in the morning. We both have the same values and morals about smoking, drugs sex etc, but here is the problem: She goes to a school with a total of 72 people in her junior class and a majority woman, she told me like 3:1. So there are slim pickings, she dated someone about 7 months ago who she really liked, but broke up with him because she never kissed him, he never snuggled with her etc. She had one boyfriend in between the time I met her, and the first guy. Well, she told me Saturday night, somewhere during that 5 hours that she had been trying all this time to get back together with the first b/f, told me about the slim pickings etc, and how she really liked him. His name is Phillip btw in case I need to reference it again. Anyway, she told me that night that if Phillip was not in the picture she would like to date me, and she thought I was cute, and outgoing, really nice etc. Well, my problem is he IS in the picture, ok anyway. Her sister who seems to like to share with the general public their private talks told everyone that "she loves the chase" of trying to go after a guy she can't have. Christina (one I like) agreed with the statement, but defended herself saying she only went for the ones she could get. Ok, that was last night when I was at her house for her birthday, since then we have talked a few times over AIM and that's kind of where I am in all of this. What I need to figure out, and could use some help doing, is if she is going to continue to chase after Phillip (who I’ve been told by two different people doesn't like her at all) or get over him, move on, and in which case we could have a relationship. I'd love to be friends with her, I'd love to be her b/f, but this all has me confused. Thanks all for any help, and let me know if you need any clarifying information. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tolkien Posted February 20, 2003 Author Share Posted February 20, 2003 I didn't know I was so tired I couldn't spell "new" lol I thought it looked wrong, hehe... Link to post Share on other sites
Ally Boo Posted February 21, 2003 Share Posted February 21, 2003 I've done that thing a few times, meet someone and it's INSTANT. When something blindsides you like that, the BEST thing to do, is just resist the temptation and take it slow. You can't have a relationship with someone when you barely "know" them. Every realtionship I've gone at this way lasted no more than a month. So just slow down, get to know her first to decide if you can tolerate her on a regular basis, and then decide if you want to be with her. It will make your relationship stronger and better. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tolkien Posted February 22, 2003 Author Share Posted February 22, 2003 Thanks Ally, I'll do that and see how things go. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted February 22, 2003 Share Posted February 22, 2003 So if she loves to chase after people she can't have, then why would you have the idea you could have a relationship with her??? She doesn't have relationships....she only chases after them. The only time you will have any kind of quality thing with this gal is after she grows up and matures...if that ever happens at all. Then, of course, you may be the type who loves to chase after what you can't have as well. In that case, the two of you could be meant for each other....now and then. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tolkien Posted February 22, 2003 Author Share Posted February 22, 2003 lol, thanks tony, but I don't feel like spending the time to "chase" anyone. Link to post Share on other sites
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