fromlonelytogreat Posted October 16, 2008 Share Posted October 16, 2008 I think it does. I just feel like people around my age don't want to make new friends. It's depressing for me, because I want to. However, I guess the kinds of people that I want to be-friend are already social butterflies and have too many friends - they would think, why do I need to hang around with this loner who has none?! I wish I was myself now, but only ten years younger. A time when everybody is looking for new people to be around. You could innocently look at a girl and she would respond in a favorable way. Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted October 16, 2008 Share Posted October 16, 2008 I have a relatively small circle of friends, and they're all younger than I, or my partner. I don't look upon this as a disadvantage though. It keeps me young (!) and they know they have someone they can turn to for constructive advice, based on experience! Not a bad thing really! Link to post Share on other sites
Suiyobi Posted October 16, 2008 Share Posted October 16, 2008 I think it does. I just feel like people around my age don't want to make new friends. It's depressing for me, because I want to. However, I guess the kinds of people that I want to be-friend are already social butterflies and have too many friends - they would think, why do I need to hang around with this loner who has none?! I wish I was myself now, but only ten years younger. A time when everybody is looking for new people to be around. You could innocently look at a girl and she would respond in a favorable way. You're in your mid-20's, right? And you're currently in a university? Man, this is one of the best and easiest times to make friends with people, even with those who are "social butterflies". Link to post Share on other sites
Author fromlonelytogreat Posted October 16, 2008 Author Share Posted October 16, 2008 You're in your mid-20's, right? And you're currently in a university? Man, this is one of the best and easiest times to make friends with people, even with those who are "social butterflies". No, I've graduated. I did my graduate studies with mostly overseas Chinese students, and they did not want to be my friend. My worklife seems rather mundane and boring. Link to post Share on other sites
tomwiz Posted October 16, 2008 Share Posted October 16, 2008 it is strange. The street that I live on is dominated by mostly middle aged people...a very nice indian guy with two small children moved next door. He tried hard to fit in, putting his kids in scouts, supporting our local te4am.....GO STEELERS...and he's now just one of the guys...it just takes a little more Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted October 16, 2008 Share Posted October 16, 2008 don't limit yourself to just your age group, but look for friendships with people who you've got common interests with. For some reason, I've got more friends who are older than me, and I tend to get along with their kids. But it makes for an interesting perspective because the older ones pass along good wisdom and the younger ones ... well, they keep me young at heart. Link to post Share on other sites
HotCarl Posted October 16, 2008 Share Posted October 16, 2008 I wish I was myself now, but only ten years younger. A time when everybody is looking for new people to be around. You could innocently look at a girl and she would respond in a favorable way. Wow, I guess I missed that period in my life. Ten years ago women looked at me with suspicion and derision. If they looked at me at all. Now that I'm in my late 30s, I have to be careful looking at women. There's a lot of them looking to get married and have kids RIGHT NOW. Sometimes I have to beat them off with a brush. Link to post Share on other sites
Author fromlonelytogreat Posted October 22, 2008 Author Share Posted October 22, 2008 Hm... I feel so alone that I'm starting to get depressed about it all. It really affects my self-esteem - I think, 'what's wrong with me?' etc... The weekend is fast approaching and I don't know what to do.... I don't even feel like catching up with one of my friends because he just gets on my nerves a lot of the time - he is quite pedantic about certain things and just isn't a person that likes being social. He is the kind of guy that prefers solitude, which ISN'T me. Link to post Share on other sites
HotCarl Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 Hm... I feel so alone that I'm starting to get depressed about it all. It really affects my self-esteem - I think, 'what's wrong with me?' etc... The weekend is fast approaching and I don't know what to do.... "Alone" isn't a feeling, it's a fact. "Lonely" is a feeling. When you are by yourself you are tossing around terms like lonely and depressed. That is what you need to work on. Your happiness does not come from others, and it is unfair to put the burden of your happiness on them. It has to come from within you. A person who can be happy by themselves is also more attractive to other people. So it sounds like you are bored and need something to distract you from the loneliness. So go find yourself an acitivity that interests you or that you've always wanted to try. Don't worry about whether it is a solitary or group activity, or the ratio of men to women in the activity. That isn't important, what's important right now is that it is something that makes you feel good. Link to post Share on other sites
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