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Friends and Lovers Progressing into "Friends with benefits" and beyond: When platonic relationships become more intimate.

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Old 2nd February 2018, 11:39 PM   #16
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He sounds pretty flaky, if not a bit unstable. I would steer clear of this one, especially since you have to work together. Let it die a natural death. Invent a “boyfriend” if necessary to put the kabash on this...
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Old 1st March 2018, 7:44 PM   #17
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I wanted to give everyone an update: we had a frank conversation about what happened and I said this set up wasn't working for me anymore. We've gone back to being friends and colleagues, and thanfkully things didn't get weird between us. He's actually dating someone else now, in addition to his live-in girlfriend. He confessed that he didn't tell the new woman about his situation, which is horrible unfair. But it isn't my problem anymore.

Thanks to everyone who took the time to comment. I really appreciate all of you.
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Old 20th March 2018, 9:34 AM   #18
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Originally Posted by preraph View Post

and don't put much stock in him having tears in his eyes. A lot of guys are in love with sex and look that way. I fell for it too, and later realized he just had a lazy eye.
Men are really turning on the water works these days. I don't know if all of this crying is sincere or a ploy out of the "players book".
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Old 20th March 2018, 6:13 PM   #19
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Jeez, you told him you had the big ordeal and first he was inconsiderate and didn't want your discomfort to come between him and getting laid. And then when you were somewhat incapacitated, instead of being sympathetic, he did the whole me, me, me, what about me, and blaming you for WHAT? That was a very narcissistic move on his part and I think you better really understand that you just saw who he really is when every little thing doesn't go his way. And I doubt his girlfriend is on board with this.

Don't give yourself to someone that lowly!
"I care not much for a man's religion whose dog and cat are not better for it." -- Abraham Lincoln
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Old 20th March 2018, 6:14 PM   #20
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Just read your update. He can't be bothered with real life AND just like I said, she didn't know. He's a jerk.
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Old 20th March 2018, 7:21 PM   #21
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He’s a ****head
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