Deeko Posted February 23, 2007 Posted February 23, 2007 I've been in this relationship for almost 2 years now. It's definetley been an experience, not in a bad way though. We get along great and have fun together and whatnot. My question is, about 10 months into it, I started feeling "distant" from him. Trust me, I've dwelled on this since last July and questioned my love for him and even though it's been 7 months since I started feeling this way, I'm STILL feeling this way. I mean, I obviously care about him, I just don't feel that "closeness" I once felt and I can't exactly pinpoint why. Has anyone else ever been in my position? It's like I care about him but not to the extent that I once did and that is really messing with my head. Maybe it's better not to be so head over heals, but it kind of feels like I now could be without him (I say that because I'm not but if it really happened I'd more than likely be devistated.). Maybe I just have to work some stuff out inside me. I dont know what it is. Any advice? In advance, thank you all!
ash519 Posted February 23, 2007 Posted February 23, 2007 I guess it depends on the situation. The beginning fireworks always fade as time goes by, but in your case it's a bit different. I have been with my bf 2 years and i am so very in love with him. Things have faded, sure, but i dont want to be without him in my life (as my partner) ever. He is part of who i am now i guess. I'm not thinking you should break up with him or anythig but I think this may be a bit unfair to him, especially if he still loves you in the right way. It sounds like you love him as a friend? I dont really know. I think feelings usually grow in this stage of a relationship, not fade. Hmmm.... Sorry, this may have been no help to you at all.
mandy81marie Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 Has anything happened that may have caused either of you to change? I ask that becuse ever since my husband returned from Iraq he has not been himself. We've been married for 5 years now. I am still deeply inlove with the man I married (he does still show himself every once in awhile) But for the most part it feel like I very distant from him, almost like I don't know the man who is living with me. I know situations change people. But when two people change on different levels it could make it hard to feel close to them.
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