Baileykeg Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 Hey everyone. Just wanted to give you a quick update. Divorce papers filed and served today. I'm in shock. More news later....
Jinxx Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 Nice to know that some of them eventually do leave the wife. Very nice!
MoonGirl Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 Jinxx, He left his wife 2+ years ago, THEN got into a R with Bailey. He was dragging his butt on filing for divorce and moving on with his life.
Jinxx Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 Jinxx, He left his wife 2+ years ago, THEN got into a R with Bailey. He was dragging his butt on filing for divorce and moving on with his life. Thanks! Haven't gotten around to reading everyone's stories.
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 Hey everyone. Just wanted to give you a quick update. Divorce papers filed and served today. I'm in shock. More news later.... Brilliant news Baileykeg - keep us updated. Can your MM tell my MM to stop shuffling his feet with his papers too? lol
norajane Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 Excellent, Bailey! I'm glad that putting your foot down and taking a stand has led to happiness!
Art_Critic Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 shuffling his feet The shuffling has just begun for Baileys MM.. Filing is in the right direction but a divorce can stay filed for quit a while without any action being taken and it could also take years to finalize depending on his desire to keep shuffling and his wifes desire to drag her feet.. Welcome to the beginning of real hell now... but keep up the pressure.. be relentless in your stance. and still don't give him an inch because there is more than a mile of wiggle room in a divorce proceeding
MoonGirl Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 The shuffling has just begun for Baileys MM.. Filing is in the right direction but a divorce can stay filed for quit a while without any action being taken and it could also take years to finalize depending on his desire to keep shuffling and his wifes desire to drag her feet.. Welcome to the beginning of real hell now... but keep up the pressure.. be relentless in your stance. and still don't give him an inch because there is more than a mile of wiggle room in a divorce proceeding This IS true. I've heard of some divorces going on and on for years.
bigblueeyes Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 Good for you. I wish I had your patience, but I didn't. But that does not mean I cannot be happy for you. I wish you all the best.
whichwayisup Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 But if their marriage is over, legally separated, not living together for 2 years, then hopefully getting a divorce won't take long...And, I don't see why his soon to be exwife would want to contest the divorce anyway...Unless she still loves him and doesn't want to let go - But even that doesn't make sense seeing as they've been separated for so long. Bailey, you better make sure you see the actual paper work and be 100% sure he isn't just saying that he did it.
Author Baileykeg Posted February 22, 2007 Author Posted February 22, 2007 Thanks everyone. I appreciate all of your support through all of this. Now that papers have been filed and served it will take 30 days for it to be final. She cannot contest it. Our state says that for this type of divorce there is nothing to contest...i.e. no property, kids, etc. So at this point it's just a matter of the 30 days. I know that just because the papers will be final that he will still have feelings to deal with. I'm going to be careful and we're going to take things slowly. I'll keep you posted.
Babybird Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 Bailey, you better make sure you see the actual paper work and be 100% sure he isn't just saying that he did it. Totally agree. Was in that situation and turns out he was a liar and his wife was prenant. Good for you Bailey!! That's great. Even if the divorce drags at least(hopefully) he filed!!
MustBeLove Posted February 23, 2007 Posted February 23, 2007 I'm so happy for you. I hope that everything works out the way you want them too.
puddleofmud Posted February 23, 2007 Posted February 23, 2007 Thank goodness BK! You've no IDEA how exhausting this has been for me to be your cyper-other- SO! I really suk at being someone's boyfriend. All kidding aside I am truly heart warmed to hear of your good news. Much love and happiness to both of you, Signed, Your Retired But Loving On-Line Way Good (sorta-kinda) Boyfriend
SetMeFree Posted February 24, 2007 Posted February 24, 2007 BK, just want to add to your well wishes...I really am so happy for you. I think like others have said here...you should still be on guard and tread carefully. Sounds like this is what you are planning to do. Hope everything ultimately works out well for you!
GreenEyedLady Posted February 24, 2007 Posted February 24, 2007 Yeah BK...I'm so glad that he finally did it...
Author Baileykeg Posted February 26, 2007 Author Posted February 26, 2007 Thanks everyone. I cannot tell you how much I appreciate how everyone's advice helped me through this last year of ups and downs. It truly has been a rollercoaster. It seems though that it's time to get off the ride once and for all. I am happy (and yes cautious) about going forward from here. I saw him a bit over the weekend and I feel good about it. We are making plans to move forward from here. Feels like being in the sun again after a very long thunderstorm! :-) P.S. Puddle-thanks for being my cyber-boyfriend! You are awesome.
Izzar Posted February 26, 2007 Posted February 26, 2007 Bailey, Hey, good for you!! See, I always say if you stick it out, it'll (most likely) be worth it. Smiley's for you & your man :) :love:
Izzar Posted March 14, 2007 Posted March 14, 2007 Hey Bailey, How's everything with your s/o? I haven't heard anything so I guess it's great. Good for you!!!!
Author Baileykeg Posted March 14, 2007 Author Posted March 14, 2007 Thanks for checking in. We're doing well. He's waiting to hear from the court as to when in the next 30 days his court date will be to finalize the divorce. I'm still being cautious and I'm holding his feet to the fire about deadlines relating to all the court filings. I've seen the paperwork and I feel ok about it. We've got several big trips planned in the next few months and it will be really nice to be able to enjoy them as a true couple. We talked over the weekend about how he was doing with everything as far as handling the emotions he still has to deal with. He says he's ok and that each day is better. For those of you "on the fence" about whether to go forward with your situations please ask yourself what is fair to you. I know many of you think...well it worked out for her so of course she's going to be "pro stand up for yourself". That's not it. I wish I had been able to realize the effect the rollercoaster was having on me, my health and everyone around me when I was in the middle of the drama. Now, being on the other side of it I have to say it's much nicer. Either way, whether the relationship works out or not, I say go for what you deserve because you have nothing to lose at this point other than all the bad, draining stuff.
Izzar Posted March 14, 2007 Posted March 14, 2007 I'm happy for you Bailey & I agree with what you say. I feel that if I had given up, I wouldn't have the chance I have now with my s/o. I'm soooo happy I didn't let him go way back when. And I didn't have to pressure him or give ultimatums about getting divorced. He did it. He chose to be honest w/his xw in turn giving her the opportunity to be truly happy with someone else. Again, I'm happy for you Bailey. Hang in there!! And keep me posted.
PoshPrincess Posted March 26, 2007 Posted March 26, 2007 Hey Bailey, it's been a while since I logged onto LS as I've had no internet access for a while. I am so glad to see that things have taken a positive turn for you at last and hope that progression is continuing. SO wish I'd been strong enough to stick by my MM. I have so many regrets about the decisions I've made and I have always been a firm believer in 'better to regret something you have done than something you haven't done'! All the best. Keep us posted! x
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