Sand&Water Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 I just ended a 5 hour ... wait perhaps 6 ... maybe 7 hour conversation with a guy! And the creepy part was that there was only an 8 minute break or so. God, that was one long conversation. So much was said. I'd thought we'd have run out of ideas to converse about by the 30 minute mark, but apparently we didn't. Actually we had multiple topics going at once... Is this a bad thing? Do people do this? Am I the only one? What man, in his sane mind, would want to talk to a woman for that long? I feel bad right now. I'm not used to talking for lengthy periods like that. Men surprise me at times -especially this one, and a rare one at that. Gosh. Cheers, Sand&Water
Trialbyfire Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 It's a great feeling when you can connect with someone and never run out of conversation. It means that you have similar interests. I've only ever been able to stand it with one guy and we would converse like that quite often. As for the 8 minute break, that's even more impressive. You both must have been camels in another life.
eddiehazel Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 Very interesting to hear your reaction after such a positive connection. Yes, I've conversed with women for that length of time...in fact, just last night I spoke with a new acquaintance for five hours. She messaged me today that she couldn't believe we were on the phone for that long and asked if that had ever happened with me before... Makes me wonder what some of the women with whom I've connected thought after the experience...were they afraid? Confused? FWIW, I say revel in the obvious connection you've made and don't think too much. Just let it flow and don't be afraid of what it may lead to... What man in his right mind..? I'd like to think I'm in my right mind and it has happened to me.
Citizen Erased Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 I once had a 7 hour conversation with my bf. It was before we got together, I was still with my ex at the time. Had 2 breaks. One to answer call waiting (my ex ) and another to go to the toilet. It was like we never wanted to hang up, as we both thought I wouldn't get up the nerve to break up with my ex (which I actually did two days later ). It was great to connect on such a level. Now I am lucky if I get so much as two words after he comes home.
Lauriebell82 Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 i used to talk to my boyfreind for hours and hours on end on the phone..enjoy is for now, if u get in a relationship it probably wont last.
Author Sand&Water Posted February 22, 2007 Author Posted February 22, 2007 RE: As for the 8 minute break, that's even more impressive. You both must have been camels in another life. I would say so , too. I was the one who asked for the 8 minute break. I don't think he ever went to do his business. I wonder what that says about him: heavy-duty bladder. Sand&Water
Author Sand&Water Posted February 22, 2007 Author Posted February 22, 2007 RE: Thank you everyone for responding. Great points. Very interesting to hear your reaction after such a positive connection. Makes me wonder what some of the women with whom I've connected thought after the experience...were they afraid? Confused? It wasn't an entirely positive connection. I mean, he and I developed and engaged in serious to humorous talk -and we grew closer. But somewhere in the middle of the conversation he and I got into a little disagreement. The little disagreement turned into a bigger one, which lead into a heated back-and-forth explanations. I spent 4 hours resolving the issue. I have only known him for a short period of time, and within this time, he has advanced at me several times and I won't deny -things are intensifying. But, right after we ended the conversation, I felt very confused and scared. Confused because I didn't make myself clear on a couple of particular issues, and scared because I don't want to get hurt; the closeness hurts me deeply; the strangeness keeps me at bay; the defense barrier I have up, allows me to feel safe apart from him. It is complex, I can say that for sure. Right now, I don't want to know where this may lead to. Slowly, though, I am pulling away -more rapidly, actually, than he wants to believe. I don't think the hours of talk he and I share is going to tone down. Rather, it seems as the days progress, there is much more to talk about. But I know, some day, it will hit a wall -and eventually almost completely die down. Communication is good, to an extent, when the members involved aren't screaming and yelling. He and I settled on to 'agree to disagree'. But, I know, that he and I haven't completely said everything we want to say to each other -there are still some hidden stuff. Sand&Water
Pink Amulet Posted February 23, 2007 Posted February 23, 2007 Well I am jealous. The only person I have ever spoken to for that long was my father, once, and that is because we were trapped in a tent, in a blizzard, 7 thousand feet up.
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