Funf Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 Okay, let me give you the background info. I'm 21, he's going to be 27 soon. When he was in the later years of high school, he was a depressed kid and got involved with the wrong crowd. He got busted by the cops with drugs and also has theft on his criminal record. He's cleaned up his act since then, went to rehab, and has been clean of drugs for a very long time. He went back to college to study biology and tried to apply to medical school this year. He didn't get in anywhere because of his record. I got accepted into a med school in another city so we're trying to find something for him to do over there in the city for the next year or so. That way, we can live near each other. There have been some health programs where he can get a certificate after a year of classes so he can work in a hospital but many of those deadlines have already passed. He was thinking of applying to some other things but they all ask for criminal records and such. He's getting tired of being rejected from everything and I feel really bad for him. He's pessimistic about his whole career life. I just want to be together with him and for him to be happy. I don't know what to do.
Lauriebell82 Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 the criminal record and drug problem would be a red flag for me. sorry to say that, but there is def. going to be some long term problems with him. how long have u guys been together? i'm not judging u for having a bf with a criminal record, believe me, but all i'm saying is that there isnt really much u can do about it. he dug his own grave, and now he is going to have to live with the repercussions. kudos for him for getting his life together, but honestly the criminal record is going to follow him his whole life. that means not as many job prospects, stigmas, ect. all u can really do is be there for him and support him. ur not going to be able to change what happened, and he knows that. i know this isnt the most optimistic post, but this is what happens when u have criminal charges. he may just have to setttle for some kind of minimum wage job or something else where they hire people with a record.u can try to let him know about some of these options. talk with him and tell him ur there for him, but honestly neither of u can do anything to change this. just love and support him, thats probably the best thing u can do at this point.
Topper Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 Is he really Depressed ? I mean has he seen a professional about Depression? It is a very serious problem. I'm sure if you are in the medical field you know how serious it can be. he has gotten his act together and dealing with his past issues good for him. It may take him awhile to demonstrate his resolve. he will need to prove himself. Having someone like you who cares for him will go along way in supporting that resolve. There are those out there that are willing to give people a second chance. If he has some talent in medicine. He may want to look into some nursing programs. There are also a number of off shore med schools that might be willing to overlook his back ground. there is also the Military. I have a friend who was in trouble as a kid. He joined the Army to get into the Medical field. The Navy paid for his schooling and he worked around the world. After 20 years now has privet practise and a nice military pension
Mythical Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 Hey Funf, I think I know how you would feel I am also 21 and dated someone who is turning 27! He hade a bad passed too and crimnal records. He is not going into the same field but I think all you can do right now is b there for him. I personally don't think it should effect it since it was a long time ago, making changes etc...bt that's becuase I guess I hade a criminal record, got into the wrong crowd, drugs etc... When will this crimnal record go away? I hope thigns work out ok, and he starts to feel better!!
brokenhart2007 Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 If he has some talent in medicine. He may want to look into some nursing programs. I'm a nursing student...I had to get a background check myself so the same would probably hold true for him...good luck...
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