Wes Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 Ok guys, I've been putting off this post for a few weeks now because I've felt like the situation really wasn't all that complicated, but apparently it is , and it's eaten away at me enough that I feel like I have to ask for advice now. About 2 1/2 months ago, I started going to a different church. It's a Catholic church, and in order to sing in the choir, you have to try out. I'm not in the choir, but I sit very, very close to the front, and very close to the choir, and about six weeks ago, I noticed this new girl in the choir. She caught my eye right away. I'm 21 and she looks to be at or around my age. Anyway, every single week since I first noticed her, I either catch her looking at me, or she catches me looking at her, and we both look away. This may happen several times throughout the service. I'm very interested in getting to know this girl, or at least BEGIN to talk to her, but there's a slight problem: before the service starts, the choir walks in. They stay seated until the service is over, and then they walk out before everyone else is dismissed, so I don't get to see her neither before nor after the service. Here's what I would really like to do: when I go up for communion, as I'm waiting in line, I would like to just glance over at her and give her a nice smile to let her know that I'm interested. BUT, I feel that that would be very inappropriate to do during service, especially to a member of the choir. I do actually go to church for the right reasons, and I don't want her or anyone else thinking that I'm going just to meet girls. But then again, I feel like I need to do something, and soon, or just give up completely, because I don't wanna be "that creepy guy that's always looking", ya know? I honestly have never really had much trouble with initiating conversation or approaching girls....I enjoy doing it. But I've never been attracted to someone I go to church with, either, so this is much different. I'd like to join the older youth group, but I don't really have time to participate in anything. And I would ask around about her, but I'm fairly new and so is she...plus, again, I don't want anyone to think I'm going for the wrong reasons. I'm glad this girl goes to this particular church, but if she didn't, I would still love going just as much. But like tonight, for example....as the choir was walking out, she glanced over at me, and we held eye contact for a good three or four seconds, but I didn't smile because I felt it would be inappropriate. She didn't either, though. I really wish I would have, now. That way, if she doesn't smile back, I can at least stop thinking about it. Anybody have any suggestions?
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