GoldPenny Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 There is the common notion that girls/women prefer dating guys older than they are and guys are the opposite. Guys, what is your age and what is the maximum age of a woman that you'd date? Also, how about the other guys that you know? What do they think about dating much older women?
Road Rage Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 It depends on the age of those involved. Many guys in their mid twenties call women 35 to 45 older women. But to me, that is younger women. The most noticable trend I see right now is women late thirties to mid forties going for the younger good looking guys. Sort of like men have always done. This thing seems almost the norm for attractive early forties women chasing younger guys. Probably they percieve it as being their last chance to give their equipment a serious workout before they marry an older man for his money.
ratingsguy Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 I'm a 31 year old man who was recently involved with a 46 year old woman. It turned out to be the best relationship I was ever in. I think for me, maturity is more important to me than age. Of course, it is likely that with age you will have greater maturity, but that's not always the case. I'm pretty open minded. I can't say that 25-45 is my age range... because I really don't know. It depends on the person.
Jinxx Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 Can a woman jump in and answer this? Never thought I would date a younger man but I married one (separated at the moment). Husband number two is only five years younger but the norm for me was to date them the same age or a few years older. I think at my age (47) the most I would go for now is ten years younger -- for dating purposes only. IMHO -- I think every situation is different.
bleedinghrt Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 I am 38 now but when I was 36 I was dating a 22 year old.. We had a great time together I dont think I have ever laughed so much in all my life. This were great till we went and saw that movie about the 81 american hockey team and I said wow I remember this game and he said .. wow i wasnt even born yet ... things just felt creepy after that. But hey I am all for what ever works, if a younger man can make you happy then go for it.
Kamille Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 Goldpenny, why the sudden fascination with aging? I've been dating younger guys lately but only because they overpopulate the dating scene in my town. I wish I knew where I could go to meet guys my age. But younger guys are a lot of fun. And I'm a lot more confident now so it's like I get a second chance at being twenty. Now seriously, this is your second question about age tonight. What's going on?
monkey00 Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 I'm open to the idea of dating a woman older than I, but i think the most is 10 years my elder. I have had older women take interest in me and ask me out for coffee, but the oddest dilemna is that they were already in relationships. But anyway the maturity that younger girls lack (and knowing what they want) is probably what makes older women more appealing.
Author GoldPenny Posted February 22, 2007 Author Posted February 22, 2007 Can a woman jump in and answer this? Sure, women, feel free to state how you feel about the question and the age range of the guys (or women) that you'd date. Just state your gender please. Goldpenny, why the sudden fascination with aging? Now seriously, this is your second question about age tonight. What's going on? Kamille, this sounds silly, but I feel like a late bloomer about the whole dating/romance/sex scene. Well, refraining from romantic relationships was and is a personal choice (after just one), but sex is a different story: I would've had sex earlier by four years if I had woken up from the "I just want to be kid" phase. Can you believe I actually dreaded turning 14?!? I just did not want to grow up. And, six years later, it's truly bitten me in the ass. Now, I'm regretting about avoiding the guys that were crushing on me and I was crushing on and am being hasty about all aspects of what an adult life should be, pushing things into empty slots in my schedule. I want to redeem myself and feel like I have years upon years to date younger guys because I spent my entire teenage years in isolation. The most noticable trend I see right now is women late thirties to mid forties going for the younger good looking guys. Sort of like men have always done. This thing seems almost the norm for attractive early forties women chasing younger guys. Yes, I also see a few women who are well into their fifties and early sixties and STILL dating relatively dashing twenty-somethings! I think you need the good genes combined with taking real good care of yourself to attract such mates at an age like that.
Pretty Fly Posted February 23, 2007 Posted February 23, 2007 But anyway the maturity that younger girls lack (and knowing what they want) is probably what makes older women more appealing. This is true. My recent foray into younger girl territory didn't turn out as planned. Most girls I've dated recently have been the same age or a year or 2 older than me (so that's 28-31). But not because I've interviewed them beforehand and found out their age, it just so happens that that's what it was.
Woggle Posted February 23, 2007 Posted February 23, 2007 I mafrried an older women and I couldn't be happier. I am 28 going on 40 anyway so maybe it was a better idea to find a woman that age.
Guest Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 Age is something that measures time and nothing more - spend time with the person and see how you fit,that's the important thing.
reservoirdog1 Posted February 27, 2007 Posted February 27, 2007 All I know is, I'm 34 and GF is 40, and the sex is the best I've ever had.
Mark B Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 I've always said it makes more sense for the woman to be at least the same age if not older. Older man/younger woman relationships make no sense whatsoever.
sexywhisper Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 I'm currently dating a guy thats younger than I. It is an awful relationship. It was a lot of fun at first. But I realized that He is at a very Immature level in his mind than I. When can NEVER have disagreements, because he will agitate the situation and say alot of immature put downs. It's unbelievable. I almost feel as if I was back in high school.
sexywhisper Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 I'm currently dating a guy thats younger than I. It is an awful relationship. It was a lot of fun at first. But I realized that He is at a very Immature level in his mind than I. When can NEVER have disagreements, because he will agitate the situation and say alot of immature put downs. It's unbelievable. I almost feel as if I was back in high school. Its so bad, sometimes I have to actually close my ears with my finger because he will continue the put downs. Then when I'm nice and quiet and doing something, he will start up again for no apparent reason. Its amazing. I guess everyone is different.
burning 4 revenge Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 I'm currently dating a guy thats younger than I. It is an awful relationship. It was a lot of fun at first. But I realized that He is at a very Immature level in his mind than I. When can NEVER have disagreements, because he will agitate the situation and say alot of immature put downs. It's unbelievable. I almost feel as if I was back in high school. Its so bad, sometimes I have to actually close my ears with my finger because he will continue the put downs. Then when I'm nice and quiet and doing something, he will start up again for no apparent reason. Its amazing. I guess everyone is different.but you admit the sex is much better right?
sexywhisper Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 but you admit the sex is much better right? I agree, however I'd rather be with someone that I can help with the sex, and have a peace of mind. Then have good sex and feel like im going crazy........
Pretty Fly Posted February 28, 2007 Posted February 28, 2007 Older man/younger woman relationships make no sense whatsoever. Instinctually, women are more attracted to high status males as they have a better chance of producing strong offspring and can protect the woman and child from sabre-toothed tigers and whatnot. A guy who is older generally has more experience and wisdom just from having been alive longer. This can be seen as a "high status male" by a woman that is younger, hence why in the majority of relationships the male is older than the female. And why in high school the girls always fancy the guys in the years above them or who are at college. However, if the age gap is too big, then the older guy becomes too much of a father figure and can lead to the relationship going awry - as covered in another thread recently. Usually the girl loses the sexual interest but wants the guy to provide her with guidance (hence father-figure)
trulycute Posted March 9, 2007 Posted March 9, 2007 "sexywhisper", why are u with ur current bf?...it doesn't sound too great to me....look into why you are still there, he doesn't seem to be very nice to you... i'm 36 and my bf is 24 going on 35...lol....we have tons in common, laugh together, great sex, good communication--lots of great things....the age thing was a problem for me at first b/c he also looks young too but he won me over and convinced me to go for it and i am SOOOOO happy i did!!....lol....i love him to pieces and i would never give him up for a man my own age.....
kribby Posted March 13, 2007 Posted March 13, 2007 Oh my goodness... I want to respond to this! I am currently dating a younger man-- okay so I do believe he is 17 months younger (now I know this doesn't really matter to most-- as everyone I know has laughed at me for discussing this as if it is actually a point of contention). He is 25, I am 27. For me, I am very glad I decided to go out with him but when we started dating I worried that he would expect babying or whatever... that he would be immature... and ridiculous but this is far from the case. I have learned that you cannot let stereotypes color your dating world. I definitely wouldn't date anyone any younger than 25 though.... I tend to date folks on the same general level as me... income, interest, intellect, and etc. Before this guy, everyone that matched what I wanted was much older. Since he is what I want-- his age means nothing-- except the arbitrary fact that he is a child of the 80's (1981) and I am a child of the 70's (Nov. 1979). And once you make the joke 1-2 times-- you really don't care anymore. It is the person and the connection that matters most.
Aloros Posted March 13, 2007 Posted March 13, 2007 Hm. My ex was a year older than me, and my current bf is four years older than me. I really can't see myself dating anyone much younger than me because I want someone who is at the same stage of life and has the same goals that I do (I'm 24). Even though my ex was a year older than me, after I graduated, he was still in school. I was moving on to a career in the city, looking forward to saving and traveling, and happy to be independent of my parents. If I wanted to go away for the weekend, I was paying for it. If I wanted to go out to a nice dinner, I was paying for it. If I wanted to go on a vacation, it had to be planned around school breaks. If I wanted to save for a house, I would be doing it on my own. I wanted to have a partner in my relationship, and instead I felt like his mother. He's still in school even now, still working on the same degree. My relationship with my current bf feels more like a partnership. We each can treat or spoil one another. If we go away for a weekend or on vacation, we can each pay our own way. We want the same things and are on the same timeline. He's much more responsible, mature, and secure with himself. Of course, there are exceptions to the rule, but at 24, I would hesitate to date anyone under 23.
Woggle Posted March 13, 2007 Posted March 13, 2007 My wife is quite older than I am and it is the first time that I have truly felt like I was with my equal. I just can't relate to women my age for the most part. Sometimes when she remembers events that happened when I was in diapers it is a bit weird but except for that it is great.
Guest Posted March 19, 2007 Posted March 19, 2007 Hi there, to those guys 30 or so year old in love with women in their mid-late 40's, I wonder if your love will last when the women are in their 50's, with white hairs, wrinkles and loose skins under their chin? You know women's appearance can change fast from 40's to 50's! Your love can look very different 5, 10 years from now! So perhaps the older women should guard themselve against being hurt later.
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