blondegirl30 Posted February 21, 2007 Posted February 21, 2007 I hate it but I am definitely the jealous type and I think its a LOT harder when the relationship is long distance. He's in Canada and i'm in the US. I've posted a couple of times before on here. I hate always being this way and really need to stop!! He's given me no reasons at all to be jealous. Lately he's been chatting with a girl on his forum and tonight I was giving him a hard time, telling him that she's after him because she told me he's a good guy and is very funny. He told me about her and that we have some common interests in hopes that we'll become friends. And she does seem very nice and has a guy. I know he must really care to always put up with all the grief i'm always giving him, which he always tells me, that I never stop giving him grief. He was just here to surprise visit me for a weekend not long ago, which I posted about on here because I was so happy about. I never expected he would do anything like that. I know trust is vital to any relationship and I do trust him. It's just so hard though when your so far apart and only see each other every few months or so. But I know that I have to change how I think or I could risk losing him. No one likes a jealous partner. This isn't the first time I've acted like this. He has many female friends too, of which are very attractive and of course that's bothered me a little. This isn't about him doing anything wrong though, it's just about me. If anyone has any input on how I can try to change this and stop being so jealous, i'd appreciate it, thank you for listening.
Sweetie2007 Posted February 21, 2007 Posted February 21, 2007 I hate it but I am definitely the jealous type and I think its a LOT harder when the relationship is long distance. He's in Canada and i'm in the US. I've posted a couple of times before on here. I hate always being this way and really need to stop!! He's given me no reasons at all to be jealous. Lately he's been chatting with a girl on his forum and tonight I was giving him a hard time, telling him that she's after him because she told me he's a good guy and is very funny. He told me about her and that we have some common interests in hopes that we'll become friends. And she does seem very nice and has a guy. I know he must really care to always put up with all the grief i'm always giving him, which he always tells me, that I never stop giving him grief. He was just here to surprise visit me for a weekend not long ago, which I posted about on here because I was so happy about. I never expected he would do anything like that. I know trust is vital to any relationship and I do trust him. It's just so hard though when your so far apart and only see each other every few months or so. But I know that I have to change how I think or I could risk losing him. No one likes a jealous partner. This isn't the first time I've acted like this. He has many female friends too, of which are very attractive and of course that's bothered me a little. This isn't about him doing anything wrong though, it's just about me. If anyone has any input on how I can try to change this and stop being so jealous, i'd appreciate it, thank you for listening. You sound a lot like me! That's kind of weird. If you want to chat, my email is [email protected]. I have AIM, and that and MSN are what I use most, but I have a couple other messengers too...email me if you want. My advice, for now, is to talk to him! My guy has like 80% female friends, including a couple of ex-girlfriend's, and before I came to turms with it, it bothered me a LOT! One thing I didn't like, was that he was going out every weekend, and staying at his friend's houses (male, or female, I didn't know most of the time). I didn't ask a lot of questions, and require an up-to-the-minute report from him, because that's pushing too far for me. But what bothered me, was that some of these friends were friends who were his ex's. One, lets call her K. for now, I knew he was always going out with, in his group of friends. I was extremely jealous of K. Almost to the point of being extremely mad when I was with him for his b-day, and a bunch of us went out, including her. Turns out, she's extremely nice, and I like her a lot now! So... maybe you need to get to know his friends, its always easier to judge how much a girl likes or dislikes a guy (or the other way around), when you see them together. Observe, that's what I did, and realized my guy's more focused on me, than other girls, than I expected. I hope this helps, I'm here to help, and always open to chat...
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