Diplomatus5 Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 I dated this girl for 4 years, basically lived together for most of them at college, fell in love, and wanted to take it to the next step. We rarely had any problems or difficulty communicating. Distance got in the way when we were trying to figure out jobs and grad school because she lived about 2 hours from me. She became very needy and I wasn't there for her for a few months. She "fell out of love with me", there was just "no end in sight", but said she didn't realize until a month after we broke up. It has been 3 months sine we broke up and the last time we spoke she said she doesn't know if this is right and she doesn't want to say goodbye forever. During the past month or so I found out she is dating her old boyfriend from highschool who cheated on her. Supposedly she has a crush on him and sees him all the time even though he lives an hour away. Is this a rebound or has she moved on but doesnt want to hurt my feelings? She never gave me closure, rarely e-mailed back, and never told me the real reasons she fell out of love with me. I started no contact 2 weeks ago.
kitten chick Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 It's a rebound. But really, it doesn't matter. I know it sounds harsh but people don't say they've fallen out of love with their SO when it's not true. You're young, you shared 4 fantastic years together, take that with you to future relationships knowing that love exists for you and you're capable of having a healthy relationship.
Author Diplomatus5 Posted February 20, 2007 Author Posted February 20, 2007 Yea, well she never said I don't love you anymore, she just said she managed to begin to fall out of love with me, but either way there is not point dwelling on it. Obviously she's over me. And there is no way I could look at her the same after she went back to a guy who treats her like that... it's disrespectful. But thank you for the encouraging words.
kitten chick Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 I don't know if it's a consolation or not but I don't think that relationship will last. Sorry, I know it hurts but it will get better. Just give it time and allow yourself to go through the grieving process, all of the stages. And don't be afraid to talk about it, you don't have to hide your feelings.
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