Stephen Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 My best friend since I was in kindergarten Died August of 06. He died from Chicken Pox (He had Crohn's disease) His immune system did not function correctly. I think about him everyday, every minute, he was my best friend..I do not cry often, but whenever I found out, I balled...I was just wondering...anyone else have something like that happen before, and what did you guys actually do to get your mind off of it, or if your pain eventually went away..? Please post, and thank you if you do... ~Stephen
ratingsguy Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 Hi Stephen, Welcome to the forum. I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I think at one point in our life, we deal with someone close to us dying... be it a family member or close friend. Grieving is very normal and natural part of life... and something you have to do in order to move on. Most of us here are grieving the end of relationships, which is some ways can be very similar. The best thing to do is to stay busy. Join a club, start a new hobby, travel, whatever. But never hold back if you feel the need to cry or get emotional. Come here and post whatever is on your mind. It will make you feel better. I know though my own experiences that it will get better over time. As cliched as it sounds, it is true. Good luck to you.
Starlight Starbright Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 I am so sorry about your friend. While I myself have never gone through something similar, my sister has. Her closest friend since 3rd grade died of leukemia in 2004. She was only 22. I think everyone reacts to such things differently. I know that my sister kept herself distracted and busy as much as she could. She also became way more impulsive and went on a borderline self-destructive partying binge. She said that EVERYTHING reminded her of her friend in the beginning. BUT it has been 2 years now, and I was just talking to her about it this weekend, and she said that time does heal. While I'm sure she still thinks about her friend every day, she said that its no longer the case that EVERYTHING reminds her of her, and it has gotten alot better.
Great Gazoo Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 Hey sorry to hear about your friend. Mine died almost 10 years ago and somedays I still think about him. Myself at the time I stopped drinking and partying because it was the cause of his death. The pain slowly goes away but it takes time.
Faith2 Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 My best friend died over ten years ago, and I took it pretty hard for a long time. There has never been anyone else to come close to how great a person he was. After he died, I kept seeing or hearing things that would remind me of him, and then the sadness would overwhelm me again. I thought it would never stop. But a funny thing eventually happened. I started to enjoy those reminders... I even started thinking of them as his way of staying in my life, and staying my friend for life. Now whenever something reminds me of him, I smile to think how lucky I was to have someone so wonderful for a friend. And I still feel lucky to have his good influence on my life.
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