polywog Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 I'm surprised by how much height matters to other women! I'm 5'4" and have dated men between 5'6" to 6'4" and height just does not matter to me. I'd cetainly not care if a guy was shorter than me if he was wealthy or nice.
allina Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 There have been a few times when I've been dating a girl for a bit and she'll ask me if it's okay if she wears heels thinking that it will bother me. I don't give a s**t but I find it amusing that they ask. I know some men who do mind actually. My friend has this on again/off again bf, they are both 5'8-5'9 and he bitches and gets insecure about her wearing heels. My old roomie is 5'10, his gf is 5'8 and he also didn't like her to wear shoes that made her taller than him.
johan Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 The question is "what is your preference" not would you actually be ok with if you found the right guy. Of course women are going to answer (in general) tall guys. But if a shorter guy comes along who has it together and there is chemistry, the height "requirement" will go out the window.
Aquaman Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 I prefer women the same height as me. If that's not possible as close to my height as possible but in the end, my zone is about 5'4"-6'0".
IpAncA Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 Well for me I don't give a rats a**. If he's short then me fine if not then fine. I don't judge people on that anyways. I'm 5'2' so pretty much everyone is taller then me. Not directed at anyone but I have to ask this. Why are these little uncontrolable things so important? If he's weener isn't right he's gone, not the right hair color, gone, odd, gone, thin, gone, fat, gone. Um...let me think....oh yes, if his/her his name starts with a letter people don't like, gone, to much hair, gone, not enough hair, gone, Ed problems, gone, breasts to big/small, gone, no a**, gone, likes to talk, gone, mute, gone. If his/her is more educated, gone, wrong eye color, gone, not enough money, gone. List goes on and on. I guess I can't understand why some of these things are so important to some people. O well I guess we all have our own important things the relationship has to meet and what our SO should look like coming off the assembly line.
polywog Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 The question is "what is your preference" not would you actually be ok with if you found the right guy. Of course women are going to answer (in general) tall guys. But if a shorter guy comes along who has it together and there is chemistry, the height "requirement" will go out the window. I'm hearing "Tom Cruise".
tanbark813 Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 I know some men who do mind actually. My friend has this on again/off again bf, they are both 5'8-5'9 and he bitches and gets insecure about her wearing heels. My old roomie is 5'10, his gf is 5'8 and he also didn't like her to wear shoes that made her taller than him. Yeah, I know some guys get bothered by it which is why I find the question more amusing than anything else. I had one gf back in college who was like 5'9" and wore heels all the time. It never bothered me.
ICS Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 Height is not something people have much of a control over. I am 6'2 and also taller than all my friends. My ex was 5'6 and she had to be on her tippy toes to kiss me, but that didn't bother me. Generally, I don't fuss alot about how tall a girl is.. considering how rare it is to find a girl taller than me. But if you want me to think of the ideal height I prefer, it would have to be between 5'6 and 5'9.
Kamille Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 I had one gf back in college who was like 5'9" and wore heels all the time. It never bothered me. Did we use to go out? I'm 5'8 and always wore heals in college.
tanbark813 Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 Did we use to go out? I'm 5'8 and always wore heals in college. If you have big boobs and sing karaoke then maybe.
Kamille Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 who doesn't sing karaoke? but, alas, the big boobs fail me. my ex in college was 5'6... and sang loads of James Taylor in a cover band.
Trialbyfire Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 Yes and no. I think when the "honeymoon" phase wears off, whatever bugged me on my first impression comes back to bug me again. There will always be something, right? That is when the pure chemistry between us will either override this or not. In my own marriage, I think this animal chemistry, the thing that makes you lust for his naked body and want to tear his clothes off, was never there the way it could/should have been. I have to psyche myself into it by reminding myself of all the other things I like about him. Okay, I can understand the chemistry component. Not for everyone, but for me as well, it does matter. The chemistry from the white hot intensity of desire to the sweetness of tender moments.
Pyro Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 Height does not matter to me whatsoever, but I have met plenty of women that I bet did not have interest in return due to my height. I am 5'8. It doesn't bother me because we all have our own preferences when meeting a potential mate, plus there are many fish in the pond.
Star Gazer Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 The question is "what is your preference" not would you actually be ok with if you found the right guy. Of course women are going to answer (in general) tall guys. But if a shorter guy comes along who has it together and there is chemistry, the height "requirement" will go out the window. You hit the nail right on the head!!!!
Star Gazer Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 The question is "what is your preference" not would you actually be ok with if you found the right guy. Of course women are going to answer (in general) tall guys. But if a shorter guy comes along who has it together and there is chemistry, the height "requirement" will go out the window. You hit the nail right on the head!!!!
Mark B Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 Height does not matter to me whatsoever, but I have met plenty of women that I bet did not have interest in return due to my height. I am 5'8. It doesn't bother me because we all have our own preferences when meeting a potential mate, plus there are many fish in the pond. how can women discount beautiful guys like you, tp, tanbark and me (5'8) based on our heights? well, too bad for them
Pyro Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 how can women discount beautiful guys like you, tp, tanbark and me (5'8) based on our heights? well, too bad for them Thats right Mark. Their loss, not ours.
Green Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 well its threads like this that make me glad I'm tall good looking and wealthy... Id go out with a girl of any size whos hott,I prefer tall girls like between 5'9 and 5'11.
LN99 Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 The question is "what is your preference" not would you actually be ok with if you found the right guy. Of course women are going to answer (in general) tall guys. But if a shorter guy comes along who has it together and there is chemistry, the height "requirement" will go out the window. I agree with this 100%. I am 5'8" and I have dated guys shorter then me and taller. Even though I prefer taller, I don't rule guys out who are shorter.
insomnie Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 I'm 5'8 and I prefer guys in the 5'9-6'0 range. I've dated guys who were taller but I really like them to be closer to me in height. I've never dated a guy who was shorter than me...but I haven't dated all that many people to begin with and height alone would never be a dealbreaker for me. I think short guys that look strong are reallly hot.
electric_sheep Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 If he's weener isn't right he's gone, not the right hair color, gone, odd, gone, thin, gone, fat, gone. List goes on and on. I guess I can't understand why some of these things are so important to some people. I hear you. I feel like a lot of this is really superficial. People get obsessed with a checklist, looking for all these various "traits" in a person, instead of just treating people as individuals. I don't think it's so terribly wrong to want to be attracted to someone, I just find it strange that bra size or hair color can be the deciding factor. I look at people as a whole. Having said that, I realize that for women height is hugely important. I've come to realize that for me, being reasonably weight/height proportionate seems to be important. But it's not a requirement, and there are always exceptions. I also don't think I have an overly narrow idea of what is height/weight proportionate. But I guess even this could be considered a touch superficial.
Noos Posted February 21, 2007 Posted February 21, 2007 I'm 5'5" and would date a guy my height or taller.
serial muse Posted February 21, 2007 Posted February 21, 2007 I'm 5'6" and I've dated men ranging from 5'4" to 6'6". I'd just like to say, for the record, that in my experience it's the MEN who have serious height issues. My 6'6" boyfriend (and his family) tried to convince me that I'm quite short, and my 5'4" ex-husband (and his family) tried to convince me that I'm a giantess. Most recently I dated a 5'8" guy who was really uncomfortable when I wore heels (and I never wore anything higher than 2", because they hurt my feet). But even that made him self-conscious. I couldn't give a rats' ass, however. That guy also tried to tell me, at one point, that I was lying about how tall I was - he was convinced I was taller than 5'6". (Tell it to my doctor.) :laugh: What is it with men and height?!?!?!? Seriously, I applaud those of you who don't have an issue with it; that's highly refreshing. There are so many men who can't stop obsessing over it. I get that it's often in response to some women's crazy height requirements, but trust me, not all women think that way, and it's really annoying to have it pushed on you. Personally, I cringed whenever a date brought it up. Currently, I'm dating a man who's 5'9" - 5'10", and I'd venture to say that's perfect, because the subject never comes up, thank God.
Green Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 sounds like Gulivers travels, you went from the land of the giants to the land of the little people
IpAncA Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 Seriously, I applaud those of you who don't have an issue with it; that's highly refreshing. There are so many men who can't stop obsessing over it. I get that it's often in response to some women's crazy height requirements, but trust me, not all women think that way, and it's really annoying to have it pushed on you. Personally, I cringed whenever a date brought it up. Whats really annoying is when they ask you if you know your short? "Ugh..No I didn't know that, thanks.":rolleyes: I used to also have guys use me as arm rest. Yeah like the top of my head is a place for them to lean on. Yeah go ahead I don't mind.
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