Vanquish Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 So i swore by it i would never fall in love again after being hurt before and unfortunately i think its happening all over again. Im a guy in this situation, so usually im indifferent, but the girl im with now is just.....incredible. And even at 3 months in we have had so much in common its scary. I told her in the beginning i was still trying to figure out what love is ect. But if what we have isn't love then im not sure what is. Now my question is im going to wait until we have been dating for 6 months and bring it up non verbally something like taking her hands in mine and writing i love you in the sand or something and see how she takes it. Its a hard situation because her best friend just got out a relationship where those 3 words were involved and she was destroyed. But i just know in my heart that if what we have isn't love then I don't know what is. Usually im indifferent and this is my ultra soft side but i was wondering ladies what are your thoughts on the man bringing up the i love you to you first in a relationship? Would it turn you off or make you feel like you've won him over and can do better? Thats my fear, because it has happened before. I just want to know either way, and be ready for either rejection(which i highly highly doubt) or that she will say yes too.
Trialbyfire Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 There's nothing wrong with falling in love again. If you take no risks in life, there are no true gains. Having said that, hold off for another three to six months. The first three months tend to be infatuation during the "honeymoon" period. If she's the one, your love will not wear off in another three to six months.
norajane Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 Love is rarely something you develop in 3 months. Love takes a lot of time, and it takes knowing each other in all kinds of circumstances including the very difficult ones, and it involves knowing the other person's bad sides and their faults and accepting them. Infatuation, and falling in love, can certainly happen in 3 months. That's where you think the other person is just soooooo wonderful and incredible and can do no wrong. It's where your little heart beats faster and you think you can't live without this person. It's where you have all these pie in the sky beliefs about who they are and how puuuurrrrfect they are for you. But that is not love. You'll know you love her when you realize she's not sooooooo wonderful and puuuuurrrrfect, and still believe you are good together. So hold off on the I love you's for now.
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