Krytellan Posted February 21, 2007 Posted February 21, 2007 ahh yes... the "close match" addiction can be a rush indeed
Art_Critic Posted February 21, 2007 Posted February 21, 2007 See, that's what I find hard to believe - because in all honesty, 90% of them either initiated contact or responded to me, so they weren't duds. that leaves a 10% dud rate
Star Gazer Posted February 21, 2007 Posted February 21, 2007 Oh gosh.... your a lawyer.. those are technical defs.. common sense tells me how it really works.. Irrespective of the parties' positions on liability, if the cost to defend the lawsuit is substantial, early settlement is often the way to go. I don't want to publicly argue with you about this AC... but let's just say I know you're kinda wrong about this.
Star Gazer Posted February 21, 2007 Posted February 21, 2007 that leaves a 10% dud rate ORRRRRRRRR they were on vacation, hadn't checked their email, had just started dating someone else, weren't into short blondes, etc.
Art_Critic Posted February 21, 2007 Posted February 21, 2007 ORRRRRRRRR they were on vacation, hadn't checked their email, had just started dating someone else, weren't into short blondes, etc. I give.. I was only speaking of my knowledge of eharmony from my experience of using it for 6 months...and doing research on the company for dissatisfaction I found it to be worthless and you didn't.. no problem..
Author ICS Posted February 21, 2007 Author Posted February 21, 2007 Guys, you are getting so entwined in your heated debates that.. you forgot about me.
Art_Critic Posted February 21, 2007 Posted February 21, 2007 Guys, you are getting so entwined in your heated debates that.. you forgot about me. Sorry ICS.. I didn't mean too.. I think online dating is a valid way to meet someone.. if you use it to meet them only. A lot of people try and have online relationships thru these online services and never meet.. I would suggest that if you use one that you move from email to the phone to meeting in person fairly quickly as to not waste your time. There is nothing worse than to email someone for 3 weeks then talk on the phone for a few weeks and then meet only to find out there isn't a spark. 2 months wasted when the time span could've been closed to a few weeks tops or even quicker if they are real responsive to you.. Good luck ps.. I have had more than a few relationships that stated from online dating sites.. and my current GF I met on match and we are now going on 5 months.
Green Posted February 21, 2007 Posted February 21, 2007 I didnt forget about u. how about putting a pic up dude. Use as many free sites as u can to randomly hit on girls in ur zip code vicinity myspace, craigslist, that O cupid or somthing like that website. now online dating is cool but dont forget about all those girls you see in the real world act on that. flirt with the waitress at the resteraunt. Flirt with the girl behind the counter at the store, and flirt with all the hot girls out in society every day running erinds and shoping. Go out to clubs and events you like and hit on those girls. All Im saying is online should be an enhancer for all the girls ur trying to get out in the real world whether it be the hot girl at work, or that girl reading a book in a book store you have to hit on girls. The girl who u didnt think of as a romantic thing? yeah her u havnt even met her so jump at this oportunity to meet her friday play it cool and yes try to kiss her at the end u start passing up all ur oportunities and ur screwed. Hey art critic that e harmony girl ur arguing with uve seen her pic shes hot?
Green Posted February 21, 2007 Posted February 21, 2007 u post ur picture in ur profile i hear ur eye candy
Author ICS Posted February 21, 2007 Author Posted February 21, 2007 I didnt forget about u. how about putting a pic up dude. Use as many free sites as u can to randomly hit on girls in ur zip code vicinity myspace, craigslist, that O cupid or somthing like that website. now online dating is cool but dont forget about all those girls you see in the real world act on that. flirt with the waitress at the resteraunt. Flirt with the girl behind the counter at the store, and flirt with all the hot girls out in society every day running erinds and shoping. Go out to clubs and events you like and hit on those girls. All Im saying is online should be an enhancer for all the girls ur trying to get out in the real world whether it be the hot girl at work, or that girl reading a book in a book store you have to hit on girls. The girl who u didnt think of as a romantic thing? yeah her u havnt even met her so jump at this oportunity to meet her friday play it cool and yes try to kiss her at the end u start passing up all ur oportunities and ur screwed. Hey art critic that e harmony girl ur arguing with uve seen her pic shes hot? I would love to be able to approach girls in real life, but there is always a part of me that's tugging me back. I never really understood how to hit on girls, and I am always too embarrased to, or feel too intimidated. Well, back in high school I remembered just goofing off and being funny around a girl in my group, with no intentions. For a while after that my friend sitting in front of me kept telling me that the girls on the other side of the room were always looking at him .. or rather.. at our direction. I took it with a grain of salt, but luck would have it that two weeks later that girl I was being funny with found me on icq and told me that she wanted me to ask her out. Lol, I refused kindly because I had my eye on another girl.. which I thought was way out of my league too. This other girl was my ex. I never talked much with her in real life, and much of our conversations were on msn, but we talked for hours at a time every single day. Months down the road, she told me she liked me as more than a friend and we began going out. So.. it's interesting because I never had to ask a girl out.. but that I also never had the guts to either... I hope someone can shed some light on this matter.
Green Posted February 21, 2007 Posted February 21, 2007 well I only have ur own observations to go on but it sounds like u need to be more agresive and go after the things you want. Rejection isnt that bad. back in college alot of guys thought I was quite the ladies man but boy o boy the truth is ive probably also been rejected by more women than most guys to. the thing is once you relize it doesnt matter if some one rejects you and that its not the end of the world and all that it really stops mattering and you just have to try harder. I'm a writer havnt sold anything yet, in fact the only things I have published are various articles I wrote for the college news paper. but the trick to writing atleast for me is just doing it. see the same as girls its scary to just do it and then have it turn out a peace of crap but you have to take a chance, you start putting urself out there ull have more luck in online dating and real life dating...
Art_Critic Posted February 21, 2007 Posted February 21, 2007 dating period... online or otherwise is a numbers game.. the more you put yourself out there the more success and failure you will have.. the key is to ignore/learn from the failure and key on the success.. numbers..
Author ICS Posted February 21, 2007 Author Posted February 21, 2007 well I only have ur own observations to go on but it sounds like u need to be more agresive and go after the things you want. Rejection isnt that bad. back in college alot of guys thought I was quite the ladies man but boy o boy the truth is ive probably also been rejected by more women than most guys to. the thing is once you relize it doesnt matter if some one rejects you and that its not the end of the world and all that it really stops mattering and you just have to try harder. I'm a writer havnt sold anything yet, in fact the only things I have published are various articles I wrote for the college news paper. but the trick to writing atleast for me is just doing it. see the same as girls its scary to just do it and then have it turn out a peace of crap but you have to take a chance, you start putting urself out there ull have more luck in online dating and real life dating... What helped you in the beginning when you first started asking girls out? I need to find more motivation.. and perhaps even more courage too. By the way, I cannot comprehend the concept and the proper way of asking out a perfect stranger. What kind of things do you tell them? I am seriously dumbfounded.
StayClose Posted February 21, 2007 Posted February 21, 2007 Hire a professional photographer to take your picture and use that one in your profile. A pro will know how to light and pose you to look your best. Initally, people will judge you by looks, and without a picture, they'll assume you either look hidious or are afraid your spouse will see your profile. So get the most flattering picture possoble and use that one.
beautifula85 Posted February 21, 2007 Posted February 21, 2007 Online dating is a crock of BS. Those people are dangerous, killers, molesters the whole nine yards. Those are people bored with life.
Krytellan Posted February 21, 2007 Posted February 21, 2007 Online dating is a crock of BS. Those people are dangerous, killers, molesters the whole nine yards. Those are people bored with life. Some might say the same about people who post insulting messages on internet forum sites. Step off the pedistal and take a look in the mirror.
serial muse Posted February 21, 2007 Posted February 21, 2007 Online dating is a crock of BS. Those people are dangerous, killers, molesters the whole nine yards. Those are people bored with life. Hm. With that attitude, you must be a sagitarrius, aquarius, aries or gemini. :rolleyes:
Topper Posted February 21, 2007 Posted February 21, 2007 Online dating is a crock of BS. Those people are dangerous, killers, molesters the whole nine yards. Those are people bored with life. Since I'm on a dating site, you must be talking about me. You sure know how to win friends and influence people don't you?
Guest Posted February 21, 2007 Posted February 21, 2007 I've been dating online almost exclusively for the last 7 months. I'm not sure if you would call my experience a success or not. I'm very particular about who I settle down with or commit to. As a result, I've dated about 20 different women. Easily could have been more, but I really don't have any more time. It's never taken me longer than a few e-mails or a phone call to get a date. The women I date are intially attracted to me (my pic) and what I say in my profile. I suppose what hooks them is my humor, looks (I've been told numerous times I look a lot better in person), and uh, my sensuality? ;-) Make a woman laugh...it's your best bet, in my opinion. Learn to hold a conversation...be willing to talk about anything. Ask her questions if you can't contribute to a particular subject. Women love to talk, so let them. But don't make her carry the entire conversation. She wants to know about you. If she doesn't, she's just passing the time. Intrigue her. Everyone has something interesting about them. Show your passion. You'll be surprised at what women like and dislike. If you fulfill more than a couple of her desires, I think you're likely to have success. Women seem to always want the "Total Package", with very few exceptions. They'll settle for less if you excel in a particular area (humor, conversation, etc.) Take it with a grain of salt, or whatever. Just from my experience.
Green Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 What helped you in the beginning when you first started asking girls out? I need to find more motivation.. and perhaps even more courage too. By the way, I cannot comprehend the concept and the proper way of asking out a perfect stranger. What kind of things do you tell them? I am seriously dumbfounded. If I have to pinpoint the thing that helped me the most it was a guy I befriended back when I started college. I had become a little shy to aproach women always afraid of comming off anoying or stalkerish. But this guy would just go up to girls on the beach and hit on them. The first time we were hanging out at the beach and he said we should go talk to to really hot chicks laying on towels in bikinis I got so nervouse I acted like I had to go to the bathroom he went up to them and when I came back he was still talking to them. It clicked for me I was like hes nothing special hell I'm better then him and look he just walked up to them and invited them to some made up party we were trying to get started. after that I walked with him and we hit on some more girls bam the new me was born. thats kind of pretty much how it happened. and as far as what to say to these girls, anything pretty much, just be fun, flirty, and inquisative, then try to get their number thats how the pick up goes.
Guest Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 Hi, just thought i'd add my 2cents to this. I met a wonderful women that lives in Canada and I live in NZ, we are now together and very happy... My sister also met a guy online and neither had a photo up and talked for about 2 months online before deciding to meet up. 4 months later they moved in together and about another 4 months later they got married. Never seen her so happy. So it definitely works for some of us. I personally would want to see a photo of the person I'm talking to.
Author ICS Posted February 22, 2007 Author Posted February 22, 2007 If I have to pinpoint the thing that helped me the most it was a guy I befriended back when I started college. I had become a little shy to aproach women always afraid of comming off anoying or stalkerish. But this guy would just go up to girls on the beach and hit on them. The first time we were hanging out at the beach and he said we should go talk to to really hot chicks laying on towels in bikinis I got so nervouse I acted like I had to go to the bathroom he went up to them and when I came back he was still talking to them. It clicked for me I was like hes nothing special hell I'm better then him and look he just walked up to them and invited them to some made up party we were trying to get started. after that I walked with him and we hit on some more girls bam the new me was born. thats kind of pretty much how it happened. and as far as what to say to these girls, anything pretty much, just be fun, flirty, and inquisative, then try to get their number thats how the pick up goes. Once in a while when I see a girl that I would like to hit on, I tell myself to forget all about rationality, just be bold and impulsive and go up there and say something.. anything, but it hasn't worked yet. Hoping I could change that. I can't tell you how helpful your advice was, because that just confirmed that taking the bold approach really is the way to go. All I need now is the confidence to put everything into motion. Someone here suggested talking to sales people as a way of being more confident talking to strangers, I tried that for a couple of times but in the end realized that most salespeople will want to talk to me with a friendly disposition because they were paid to, and as such.. my confidence stayed the same as it was before.
Author ICS Posted February 22, 2007 Author Posted February 22, 2007 Yep, I got stood up for Friday. The girl who suggested that we meet tomorrow read my reply (I told her it would be great to meet tomorrow), but didn't message me back. I am not sure what this means, but I realize that she deletes all my messages after she reads them, save for the last one, but then again I got no reply either.
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