kryptoknight Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 I just recently met a girl last November. WE began talking online and frequently exchange text msgs more and more since the day we met. WE sometimes go out but not too often because sometimes it's hard for her to find an available time. There are times that she feels lazy and oftens changes her mind to go out whenever I asked her to. A few times we spent out on a date like dinner and movie but that took alot of convincing before it happend. Shes a type of girl that doesn't like to go out very often and I noticed that she likes to tlak more on the phone that will last for several hours. She often calls me almost every day. Then after a month, we just suddenly called each other "babe"...I was the first one who called her that, then as days goes by, she also called me that and frequently even on txt msg and on the phone. Then it came the time that I have to go on vacation for a month...I already known her for almost 3 months and everything seems to be going smooth...We never argue and fight over stupid things, we just liked tlaking to each other more and more. I left for a vacation and during my vacation I was busy and didn't get alot of chance to txt msg her or call her...I did communicate with her after 2 weeks when I was on my vacation and then txt msgs her a few times during the 3rd week. My cell was on roaming thats why I didn't spent alot of time txting her and calling her. I noticed that on my last week before I go back from my vacation, she sounds a bit different...her txt msgs seems distant and she stopped using the word "babe" in every msgs she sent me. Although I noticed that, I still continued to call her "babe" and I was still the same like before, pretending I didn't noticed the difference about her. I finally came back and to my surprise, she doesn't seem to be excited that I came back...There's no signs of her missing me after a month of not seeing her and taling to her on the phone. SHe doesn't even ask questions about my trip and vacation...I bought her some things that she mentioned to me before I left for my vacation and I told her when can I bring to her and drop it off. She seems not interested at all and not even asking about what kinda things I bought for her. I was really surprised on how the way she respond to me...Im half shocked and confused, becuase It seems that I did sumtin bad. There's no sign of appreciation at all...I know that we're not really officially "On" as b/f and g/f, but I noticed a big change in her. A couple of days passed and she didn't call me yet. She used to call me like every day and she already knows the day when I came back already. A week passed by then I talked to her about it...She told me her reason why...She said shes affraid to go deeper with me and also shes not ready. Now, Im confused, why did she even bother callin me "babe" from the start? She should have told me from that point that she doesn't want to go deeper and she should have stoped me from callin her "babe" , but instead she did and she ride along. Could it be that she doesn't really mean it when she called me that?...She was the one who often calls me "babe" during that time whenever we were talking on the phone and txt msgs. Now shes tellin me that she just wanna stay friends for now...What should I do?...I have feelings for her and I want to try abit harder to show her how much I care about her...Maybe Im being stupid here, its hard to tell sometimes when to give up and when to try hard enough to win her heart. SHould I stop callin her and just let her call me? plz help me out...Sorry for the long story.
princesspeaches Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 "..She said shes affraid to go deeper with me and also shes not ready." She told you that she is afraid to allowe herself to experience a deeper relationship, I would tend to think that thats a pretty good indicator that you should probably stop calling and texting. She sounds pretty flaky in the relationship department. "babe" to me isn't particularly a term of affection, others might disagree but I wouldn't hold to much stock in "babe". On a side note, a month vacation is a long time to be out of sight, out of communication and away from eachother. Honestly if I ever started dating a guy and three months later he dropped off the face of the earth for a month with the exception of a few text messages, I'd pull back big time, I'd put up a wall and I could see myself saying, "let's be friends". Either way, sorry this does suck.
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