ratingsguy Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 I'm having some problems getting over the fact that my ex had money. And when I say money, I mean lots. She's a multi-millionare and I'm your average working guy (albeit with a great career). The love I have for her had nothing to do with the fact that she had money. You may not believe me, but you're going to have to trust me on that. What I'm having a hard time adjusting to is being exposed to a very nice lifestyle... filled with a gorgeous home, vacation properties, fancy cars, dining out all the time and the promise of travel all over the world... and now it's all gone. I'm back to where I was... living on a budget in a one bedroom apartment. Money isn't the end all, be all, but it does make life easier to live. And the thought of all the things we could have done together just based on that gets me really depressed... almost to the point where it's a self-esteem issue. How do I move past these thoughts?
LakesideDream Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 Maybe you are. From the incessant way you choose to mention your "ex's" finances in every post, my guess is you had a hard time finding equality in the relationship. Or... maybe it's just a case of "monetary envy". You felt a little short... or puny... you get the idea.
kitten chick Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 I don't think that makes you shallow. Lots of people think about what the future will be like with our partners. Yours happened to contain a wealthy lifestyle. Whether the money was there or not you'd probably be missing that future. I can't imagine that anyone would miss a poor future with someone the loved more than a comfortable future with someone they loved.
johan Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 This is mostly between you and youself. Maybe you just need to ask yourself if you're shallow. Just because you couldn't overlook her money, as it may have been a significant factor in her life, doesn't make you shallow. But the answer is one you already know. So: are you shallow?
norajane Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 Well, sure, who wouldn't want to have the perks that wealth can bring? Now that you've had a taste of the good life, you want more. But, you're young. Create your own wealth. Learn about real estate and investing. Go into a lucrative field where you have a lot more income potential. You may not end up with her kind of wealth, but you can certainly become very comfortable to the point you can do your own traveling and live in a great house with a nice car.
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