brokeninFL Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 Three weeks ago, my girlfriend broke things off with me, and I'm devestated. Three months before, I had broken things off with her because I was diagnosed with a major medical illness. Crushed by it, and wanting to protect her, I broke up with her...After it, I missed her terribly because she was always there for me. We continued to date after the breakup, but without the relationship. During that time, I totally devoted myself to her. I wanted to show her that she was very important to me, and that I wouldnt dump her again. We dated for about 2 months until she went home for break (were both in college) Halfway through the break, I noticed how I wasnt hearing from her, and that I missed talking to her. I had a death in my immediate family, and she was like my best friend. I wanted to talk to her about what happened. She said that she was busy, and then I didnt hear from her for the rest of the break. When she came back to school, she told me that she couldnt date me anymore because she was "cynical" about relationships, and told me that she wanted to be friends. Then two weeks ago, I find out that shes dating other people. I was fed up, so I deleted her as a friend on myspace and facebook so that I couldnt be constantly remonded of her, and so that I can move on. When she found out, she got mad. Shes been calling me and texting me since. I still feel for her, but I feel like she is ripping my heart out. What should I do? Should I cut her off for good?
resi71 Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 no way men.least be for her a good friend,you will be revorded,
princesspeaches Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 Three weeks ago, my girlfriend broke things off with me, and I'm devestated. Three months before, I had broken things off with her because I was diagnosed with a major medical illness. Crushed by it, and wanting to protect her, I broke up with her...After it, I missed her terribly because she was always there for me. We continued to date after the breakup, but without the relationship. During that time, I totally devoted myself to her. I wanted to show her that she was very important to me, and that I wouldnt dump her again. We dated for about 2 months until she went home for break (were both in college) Halfway through the break, I noticed how I wasnt hearing from her, and that I missed talking to her. I had a death in my immediate family, and she was like my best friend. I wanted to talk to her about what happened. She said that she was busy, and then I didnt hear from her for the rest of the break. When she came back to school, she told me that she couldnt date me anymore because she was "cynical" about relationships, and told me that she wanted to be friends. Then two weeks ago, I find out that shes dating other people. I was fed up, so I deleted her as a friend on myspace and facebook so that I couldnt be constantly remonded of her, and so that I can move on. When she found out, she got mad. Shes been calling me and texting me since. I still feel for her, but I feel like she is ripping my heart out. What should I do? Should I cut her off for good? I wonder do you want to cut her off for good? Do you want to move on or do you want to see what happens with her? I'm a girl and I've never done this but I have plenty of friends who have, they all do it for attention. They always want a specific guy to notice them and once he has and they get their attention its like a constant game to get someone else to pay more attention. As soon as the first guy stops paying attention via texts, calls, emails, myspace, facebook, ims etc they start a new campaign seeking his attention. I call it "I want him to want me but I don't want him" syndrome. I feel bad for them because they always miss out on really good guys doing this. If you want to move on, I'd ignore her texts, calls and everything else. And I wouldn't unblock her from myspace and facebook. Sometimes to get over someone you need a whole lot of no contact and distance. Out of sight out of mind kind of thing. Doesn't always work, but you have to give yourself a fair chance to heal too. I'm sorry about your major illness and the death in your family. That's tragic. I hope things get better for you soon. Good luck with that.
Author brokeninFL Posted February 19, 2007 Author Posted February 19, 2007 Thanks for the post princess. I'd like to have her back, but I dont think that she will ever come back. Ive tried to email her and text aher a couple of times since she broke things off, but I didnt hear anything. Now with the whole myspace and facebook thing, shes started to contact me. She tells me that "We cant be friends if we cant even keep in contact on Myspace," and that im being ridiculous and mean...even though she broke things off with me. Im lost.
princesspeaches Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 Thanks for the post princess. I'd like to have her back, but I dont think that she will ever come back. Ive tried to email her and text aher a couple of times since she broke things off, but I didnt hear anything. Now with the whole myspace and facebook thing, shes started to contact me. She tells me that "We cant be friends if we cant even keep in contact on Myspace," and that im being ridiculous and mean...even though she broke things off with me. Im lost. I don't think you are being ridiculous, and honestly she doesn't sound like a very good friend. I think you are better off with out her. but that's just my opinion, and it rates pretty highly with myself but i dont know. I understand being lost, I've been there for a very long time. I can't figure out how to get found yet, so I can't help you there. I'm sorry. I'd stick to trying to remain in no contact, and go out with some friends - not to meet girls - but to just go hang out with your friends and have fun. That's what everyone used to tell me to do, I think its supposed to help. Hope that helps.
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