sexywhisper Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 My boyfriend of 3 years told me that sex is boring with me. But two days ago he told me that sex is NOT boring with me. I do everything he wants me to do. He has told me many times that I'm a freak and that he likes that about me. Now all of the sudden out of the blue, he tells me that sex with me is boring. Then other times at different days he tells me that it isnt boring. He has me so confused I dont know what to think anymore. we are five years apart. I'm older than him. I'm 33 and he's 29...... Does anyone have any advice or comments
polywog Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 Maybe he is tired of telling you what to do and wants you to tell him what to do?
happygilmore Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 may be u should try sumthing u never do, dirty talk (all men love dirty talk ).. have sex, sum where u could get caught.... I know i get off on the danger of getting caught!
polywog Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 may be u should try sumthing u never do, dirty talk (all men love dirty talk ).. have sex, sum where u could get caught.... I know i get off on the danger of getting caught! Oh??? Then please check out this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t112819/
letter-to-elise Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 My Ex sometimes said stuff like that to hurt me. I am certain that he did not actually think it was boring, but sometimes when he was angry or frustrated about something in our relationship, he would say it. I would have a talk with him, if I were you. If he does find the sex boring something has to change and you have to figure out how. If he does not find the sex boring he must have some other reason for saying it. If the latter is the case he should address the real problems instead. Hope that was helpful! Love, etc... Elise
Topper Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 OK we hear from him that sex is boring but what about you? Do you enjoy sex? is it boring to you?
elijahBailey Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 so who in a committed relationship doesn't find sex boring after all the years. There is only so many places you can do it. If you love cheesecake to an obsession, try having it everyday, for breakfast, lunch and dinner. you get the picture.
Star Gazer Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 we are five years apart. I'm older than him. I'm 33 and he's 29...... Hmmm. Maybe your focus shouldn't be on the sex for now...
Island Girl Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 If he is so duplicitous I'd just say "whatever". Boring people are bored. So I'd throw that right back at him. But that is just me - I've never been told anything like this - in fact -- the opposite - but IF it did happen I have no doubt had I'd react. If he thought sex with me was boring - but then not boring - but then boring - I'd say what I said above. And then when he wanted something - he'd get "no, I don't really want to. I mean after all you said it is boring for you anyway." He'd do some apologizing for a while and then would think long and hard (no pun intended) before saying anything like that again. Seriously, if there was a problem, you don't point out problems without having suggestions for solutions. I don't have any respect for that.
hindsfeet Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 next time he says the sex is boring. stop letting him have it for a while. do everything but sex. then when you decide to have sex with him again. maybe he will keep his mouth shut. it takes two to tango. if he thinks its boring, let him know it may be him just as well. sounds like he's trying to be hurtful. you can control that by cutting it off for a while. he'll miss it. im with stargazer though. what is the focus of relationship?
Salicious Crumb Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 My boyfriend of 3 years told me that sex is boring with me. s Then HE needs to do something about it. As a man, I had to laugh at a comedian one time that said about women..."ladies, you don't have to be good, you just have to be there"
pricillia Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 Then HE needs to do something about it. As a man, I had to laugh at a comedian one time that said about women..."ladies, you don't have to be good, you just have to be there" Being present and being involved and wanting to please are two different things.
Salicious Crumb Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 Being present and being involved and wanting to please are two different things. It was a joke.
hindsfeet Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 on crumbs behalf, i agree somewhat. if he is bored, he can change it. obviously she is wanting to please if she is concerned about it. but pricillia has a point also. it sucks when someone just is not into it and out there somewhere.
pricillia Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 It was a joke. I will find my sense of humor when you find yours
Salicious Crumb Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 I will find my sense of humor when you find yours geez...lighten up
pricillia Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 geez...lighten up I wil when you do... geez
alexor Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 Hmmm. Maybe your focus shouldn't be on the sex for now... You paid too much attention on sex and how to feed his physical demand. For such a long time of relation, companionship love should lead passionate one. Whether do you two find common interests besides of sex? Can you hold it for certain days? It is hard to please others when they losing interest. Why not change your mind?
Toni_no12002 Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 I wil when you do... geez Oh come on it wasnt that bad If he finds sex boring ask him what he wants to do to change it.He cant just say that and leave it there.Dont always give in to what he wants.Sometimes make him wait!Maybe you could look in some magazines they have alsorts of different postions and stuff in there!
Author sexywhisper Posted February 21, 2007 Author Posted February 21, 2007 Thats the whole thing, I do all types of positions. He even told me that I was freaky......I do it all..............Im a nympho...... I don't know if its too much for him or what. I know I'm good at sex, I sometimes think he says this to hurt me, i'm not sure. Maybe we are doing it too much............I'm not sure. I like to do it at least once a day. .... Be honest does anyone think that is too much. ????? (maybe)????
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