Aquarian Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 So lately I've been having doubts and what-not about my current relationship. I've been wanting more in almost every aspect of the relationship. I don't feel a stronge physical attraction to her anymore. I find myself looking at and talking to other - more attractive women - a lot more. I feel... bored with my relationship... Here's some background info on the relationship: She JUST turned 17. I'm 19. That's a problem there in itself. She is very uncomfortable with my line of study (in college for massage therapy). I want someone that can help me with my business when I get started (and other stuff). I'm sort of a health nut. She's not really. Her idea of dieting is not eating as much... Her family is VERY messed up. We've been together for a year. I feel I could find better when it comes to intelligence, sex/attraction, fun, etc. She is VERY shy and hardly ever speaks her mind, unless I pry. She's even shy around my friends that she's known since we've been together. And when other girls try to befriend her, she doesn't really have the outgoing skills to befriend them. Also... When I watch my friend and his girlfriend together, I feel a sense of jealousy. They're so happy together. She's a very pretty girl, in a very unique way. She has a sense of humour and isn't afraid to say what she's thinking. I don't know if I should break up with her now or wait to see what happens... (which may hurt even more) I can't imagine hurting someone like that again. I've cheated once before, and it was on a girl that I still love. I don't know what to do...
Lauriebell82 Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 well whatever u do dont cheat on her. it sounds to me like u dont really even like anything about her anymore. that being the case, i think its best that u either break it off completely or possibly try to take a break from each for awhile. if ur looking at other girls thats not a good sign..it means ur not happy and fullfulled in ur own relationship. on the other she's still very young. i take it she's still in high school? that may be a problem in itself. a year is a long time to be together, so if u feel as though ur having doubts about ur relationship than possibly voicing ur concerns to her may be a first step before actuallly breaking it off. tell her what ur feeling and see what she says. if she is willing to work on some things to make the relationship better, than thats great. but honestly if u are really unhappy as u seem, ur probably projecting this onto ur relationship and she's realizing it. so first talk to her, and then decide what to do from there.
missdeathwish Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 Hmm. Tough one. Three things that you need to know: One: cheating is never okay. If you're not getting what you need or want, end the relationship. Two: relationships aren't always going to be the passionate fireballs that they are at the beginning. To keep the passion, the flame, the interest, takes work. Three: the only way to fix problems, or know why someone is acting a certain way, is to talk. My advice is to talk to her, find out where she stands, what she thinks about the relationship. You can always "find better" but you can't always guarantee that there will be mutual interest and chemistry. You've been together a year. What has kept you going? What makes her special? Are you really bored, or are you mistaking comfort for boredom? Think about what you really need and want right now.
Author Aquarian Posted February 18, 2007 Author Posted February 18, 2007 Thanks for the replies. I dunno what I would say to her though. And there's a lot of things that I love about her, which is why I'm not breaking it off immediately. She's loyal. She likes to hear what I have to say about something in her life. She doesn't hide anything from me... I don't know how to go about weighing the pro's and con's without trying to convince myself to stay or leave... You know?
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