is it wrong to try

[farooq138]

i have this really good friend, i whent to her house for a house party, i got really drunk and did some things that were stupid, after that she was mad and we didnt talk for a week, wich is wierd because we talk alot every day, then her stove broke and knowing that i had an extra one so i offered her it and she said yes. so knowing that i screwed up i thought it would be nice to get her an apoligy gift, so she told me a wile ago that she wanted a house coat from la senza, but she couldnt find it, so i got the number to a bunch of stores and found her one, it was the last one in the area that we live in, i was eccited because i knew she wanted it. so i went and picked it up, it was 30 bucks not that much and i didnt think much of it because i knew she would like it so i whent and got it. so the day i dropped the stove off, i moved it in my self and set it up and went outside to leave and go to work, she followed me and we were talking outside, when she asked me to lunch wich wassent that wierd but at this time it was because i thought she was mad at me, so thats when i gave her the house coat, wich now that i think about it i shouldnt have because it was the day before valentines day. so the week whent by and she txted me to make sure we were still on for lunch wich was wierd because i told her yes on tuesday. so we go for lunch and she starts to pull out money to pay for the house coat and i was getting mad because i didnt want the money, i bought it as a gift of apology and she thought it was a valentines day gift, wich it was not, so that wrecked lunch. we whent out side and started to talk, she was mad because it was to much, and that i was bulling her, she said that she felt like a deer in a forrest and i was a wolf on the outside waiting for her to come out, it made me mad the more i thought about it, i now feel like a pretator. this sucks i really liked her and still want to be friends with her know but i feel wierd, and dont know what to do, iam going to leave her alone and hope that she comes to me, i feel like i should talk to her but the problem is that if i do i will wreck it more, thanks i just wanted to get stuff of my chest. peace

[bones]

She seems overwhelmed. Give her some time and space. Let her miss you. If she really cares for you, she'll start wondering what she did wrong and get in touch. Keep busy and make sure she knows you have a life without her. Feeling like the center of someone's universe is too much pressure.

[Trialbyfire]

Absolutely. Give her some space. She might also have felt that the housecoat was a little too intimate a gift between friends. Also, as a thought, tell her if it does make her feel better that you will accept the money for it but explain that you enjoyed giving her something that she wanted and that it was a gift with no strings attached.