LMoney Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 I need some advice: So bf and I have been broken up for 2 going on 3 weeks, actually, he moved out last Saturday. Anyway, we have several things that are still "loose" that need to be tied up; however, he wont return any of my calls or texts...NOTHING. What is up with that? Why won't he just talk to me to iron out the remaining details of the breakup and then let it be over. He continues to say that we do not have a chance yet he won't let me finalize things...WHY? My heart is killing me and no matter what I say or txt he just ignores me .....LET IT BE DONE AND OVER..I feel like he is stringing me on and playing control games with me!
Touche Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 Without knowing what's left to be resolved, I can't really adivise you. Can you elaborate? Is it financial? Or property? Or what exactly?
anatus Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 Been there done that! If it's financial loose ends, don't expect him to respond quickly especially if he owes you money! If it's emotional, chances are, he's already either moved on and does not want you to know the truth or he's afraid that he'll fall back into the comfort zone between you guys. But if he's moved out, it seems he's moving on. Women always want closure. Men seem to want more games. My suggestion is, move on. If he calls, ignore him and give him a taste of his own medicine. Chances are, it will make him crazy that you're not obsessing over him or waiting by the phone for him.
Touche Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 Been there done that! If it's financial loose ends, don't expect him to respond quickly especially if he owes you money! If it's emotional, chances are, he's already either moved on and does not want you to know the truth or he's afraid that he'll fall back into the comfort zone between you guys. But if he's moved out, it seems he's moving on. Women always want closure. Men seem to want more games. My suggestion is, move on. If he calls, ignore him and give him a taste of his own medicine. Chances are, it will make him crazy that you're not obsessing over him or waiting by the phone for him. I have to say that I completely agree with that.
Trialbyfire Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 I'm not certain I agree with some of that. Most guys would just prefer to avoid an uncomfortable situation more than anything else. They'de rather eat a can of worms, rather than have a "relationship" discussion, whether it's financial or otherwise. At least they have something to brag about if they ate the worms...
anatus Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 My pet peeve is having loose ends. I think move women can agree to that. I have heard from all of my male friends and former boyfriends that they hate having the "relationship discussion." If only men could understand how important closure is and how important that relationship discussion is. Most times, closure is all I need.
ratingsguy Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 Hi LMoney and welcome to the forum. I guess it depends who broke up who. I think he may believe that you are stinging him along, provided that you're the one who initiated the break up... if that's the case. And if it is the case, it sounds to me that he's decided to cut all ties and move into NC, which is a very healthy thing to do on his part. Of course if he does owe you money and there are things to be resolved, this should have been taken care of a while ago... I can't side with him on that. It is true that men don't like to talk about feelings. Although it seems that I'm the exception to that rule... women and past girlfriends would tell me that all the time. Yet despite that, I've had to endure heartbreak just like anyone else. Probably because most of the girls that I encounter are like most of the men... they don't like to talk about their feelings! It's a cruel world.
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