Guest Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 my girlfriend and i have been apart for going on four months now. she's a yoga teacher, and she went over to thailand to get to her spiritual center. for most of the time, we haven't spoken or mailed because she's needed to be committed to herself in the personal exploration sense, and i'm cool with that. she doesn't have much time to be on the computer either (going to net cafes, finishing up her studies.) she's getting ready to come back home in the next few weeks-she hasn't told me when. things sounded really promising for her personally as she last said she felt really rooted down. but i know there's distance between us, as expected because she's been meditating by herself in retreat for the past two months. the hard part is that i came on pretty heavy in the beginning of the trip & that pushed her away, and i regret it. i realized my mistake & corrected it, but i admittedly don't know what damage it's done. after that initial misstep (around christmas time), i gave us both space to breathe & grow and have made the most of a month of the silence between us. her birthday & valentine's day came up recently, so i was in communication with her. but her responses showed there's distance between us. we were to meet in europe on the return, but she cancelled it...and i'm alright with it bc we're not where we were in the beginning of the trip. she said for valentine's day that the person she loved the most was herself (and that is how it should be) but then she threw in the caveat "whether you understand or not". but she's said she really wants to share with me what she's learned, she communicated almost immediately after she got the valentine's message. i'm giving this distance-reacting to the emais are where i made my mistakes lastime. any advice on how to deal with this, or how to deal with this when she returns? i'm trying to be as cool, confident & understanding about this as i can. PLEASE LEND SOME WORDS OF ADVICE!!!
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