glitzy55 Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 I would love to snap my close family friend back into reality but here it goes. She got set up with this guy through a friend on a blind date. She got his picture and he got hers. He said how prettyshe was yet it took him close to 3 weeks after getting the pic to even send an email. So they talk through emails once or 2x and maybe on the phone but I'm not sure. So they set up a time to meet and she has to drive 45 min to meet him at some bar. So they went there, ate then oh I forgot to add hang out in his car for a little bit and she blew him. So then a few days later they hang out and again she drives out to meet him. They walked to the restaurant bc he didnt feel like having to pay for parking:rolleyes: Afterwards they went back to his place and of course she had sex with him. Now next date is maybe like a week after this. Again she drives out to his house to spend the night. Now after this 2 week world wind romance she starts telling people that this is hr bf..cookoo. After the few times they hang out and have sex she started not to hear from him too often..all along she's telling people they are monomogous and bf and gf. So then she invited him to attend a wedding with her. They go to the wedding, he meets her family. After the wedding she never hears from him again. And the following weekend he attends a wedding and never asked her to attend. Next weekend they have plans but she never hears from him. She then gets an email from him saying he has other plans and cant go out..not even a call. Now this is her suppsoed bf lol. After that she comes in telling us all how shes breaking up with him. Ok is this girl a moron. My take is..this guy was only banging u. He obviously got sick of u after the 2 weeks or so which is why u didnt hear from him that much. Also what guys makes a girl walk to a restaurant and always come to pick him up? And biggest mistake..blowing him the first night..did u think he was gonna see u more then a pair of lips. Why do some women become so deluded thinking these guys are their bfs when it's clear they want you for sex and thats it. Is it to make themselves feel less slutty?
Topper Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 Can I have her phone Number? ................... Ducking the flying frying pan I think the movie Fatal Attraction needs to be re released. Tell her not to worry. He will hit a dry spell get drunk remember he has her number on speed dial. The romance will be on again untill he sobers up. Is that to cynical?
Author glitzy55 Posted February 17, 2007 Author Posted February 17, 2007 Can I have her phone Number? ................... Ducking the flying frying pan I think the movie Fatal Attraction needs to be re released. Tell her not to worry. He will hit a dry spell get drunk remember he has her number on speed dial. The romance will be on again untill he sobers up. Is that to cynical? :laugh:LOL
Violet_Sky Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 if I'm meeting a guy I've not met in person before, and he lives an hour a way, we would meet some where where it's about a 30 minute drive for both of us. Except the last guy really wanted to drive the hour for the 1st meeting, so if he wants to do that, great. Also, yeah, blowing him on the first date, not a wise move. Plus you can get STDs from oral sex, hope he was wearing a condom. Nothing else to say here, you answered your own questions. Oh except this, she should wait a month to do anything sexual if she wants a relationship, I would normally say 2 but for this girl start out at one month. she needs to get to know the guy better unless she is looking for a casual sex thing, and there's nothing wrong with that (if a condom is used.)
Author glitzy55 Posted February 17, 2007 Author Posted February 17, 2007 if I'm meeting a guy I've not met in person before, and he lives an hour a way, we would meet some where where it's about a 30 minute drive for both of us. Except the last guy really wanted to drive the hour for the 1st meeting, so if he wants to do that, great. Also, yeah, blowing him on the first date, not a wise move. Plus you can get STDs from oral sex, hope he was wearing a condom. Nothing else to say here, you answered your own questions. Oh except this, she should wait a month to do anything sexual if she wants a relationship, I would normally say 2 but for this girl start out at one month. she needs to get to know the guy better unless she is looking for a casual sex thing, and there's nothing wrong with that (if a condom is used.) she's still hung up on her last ex who dumped her 3 years ago and she strikes me as being kinda desperate so I think she did what she did thinking this was gonna jump start a relationship or something otherwise why would she be telling people this is her bf...even though she looked like a psycho saying that.
Island Girl Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 Why do some women become so deluded thinking these guys are their bfs when it's clear they want you for sex and thats it. Is it to make themselves feel less slutty? I'm sorry it seems you are asking why some women are this way - men aren't the ones who can really answer the question. This seems better posed to the women out there. In any case - it is a lack of self-esteem that causes the immediate sexual behavior and desperation that causes the girl to try to create an intimate relationship afterward. I'm not a man - a woman - and I know women who have been or are like this. It's sad.
Topper Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 if she owns a gun forget about me asking for the phone number
Grrlish Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 Can I have her phone Number? ................... Ducking the flying frying pan I think the movie Fatal Attraction needs to be re released. Tell her not to worry. He will hit a dry spell get drunk remember he has her number on speed dial. The romance will be on again untill he sobers up. Is that to cynical? Too true, actually.... In any case - it is a lack of self-esteem that causes the immediate sexual behavior and desperation that causes the girl to try to create an intimate relationship afterward. This is the root of it. they think that getting physical with the guy automatically kicks off a 'relationship'.
Island Girl Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 This is the root of it. they think that getting physical with the guy automatically kicks off a 'relationship'. Yes - they go about it completely backwards. They get physical way too early and somehow think they'll create emotional intimacy afterward. Guys don't work that way - it is a set up for failure. - Which then creates more desperation on her part and so it keeps going like the energizer bunny. A woman needs to gain self-confidence and self-respect on her own and not look to a guy for it. Only then will the cycle stop.
Green Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 people before me pretty much summed it up. This girl has no self confidence, doesnt get to know the people before deciding she likes them and must think that getting sexual will some how help. In reality the guy who will probably exept the sexual advances may have not yet made his mind up on whether he really likes the girl or not and will not feel any attachment merely because of the sex alone. If the guy starts being cold right off the bat or after only 2 weeks of knowing the girl he will probably never call again unless he has as early stated hit a dry spell and is calling every girl he has on his phone just to see who will respond.
Violet_Sky Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 have you talked to your friend about her dating behavior and going way to fast with sex, and that sex doesn't make an instant relationship? What is her response?
brokenhart2007 Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 I let a guy use that me in a similar way, on and off for like a year. Right as I really started to like him, he started flaking on me. I havne't heard from him in 4 months. I finally realized I deserve better, and made the rule not to be intimate with a guy too early on. Since then, I can't even seem to get a measly date. Guys are blowing me off left and right, ones that don't even know me. I actually start to think I wish that guy would call, cuz it would at least be something, better than being this lonely. But would he probably hurt me again? Most likely. If your friend is anything like me, maybe just thinks this guy is the best she can do. Cuz it's easier to do that then to think you are completely undesirable. I would gladly make a guy wait to have sex with me. the problem is, you need a date for that to begin with, and I can't even seem to get that far. How can single women be blamed for having self-esteem issues, when super models are all over the tv, and the only girls I see with good boyfriends are prettier than me?
Green Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 the point is for this kind of person the relationship usualy ends whether they have sex or not because they have other issues, sure sex gets you a call here and there from a flaky guy looking for sex but that guy would have lost interest any way. When you get urself in the right place mentaly emotionaly and spirutaly and u find the right person things fall into place both people are trying and want to see eachother and dont go flaky.
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