glitzy55 Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 So I had plans to meet with this guy for the first time tonight. I texted him before to let him know something came up and I couldnt hang out this evening and asked him if he wanted to do something instead tom night or possibly next weekend. Now I feel bad for doing this even though I let him know way in advance and had the decency to call him. Thing is many times I've had guys say oh we'll hang out..or make defenite plans and then either not call or call like an 1 hr before to say they can't hang out. Do guys feel bad at all when they do this type of thing bc I'm thinking they could give 2 craps.
Krytellan Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 If guys are cancelling plans, it is 99% likely that it is because they don't want to see you. So no, they dont feel bad.
Violet_Sky Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 because if a guy called me and said 'something came up' the same day we were going out, I interpret that as 'something BETTER came up, as in I got a better offer from someone else, I'm doing that instead.' So...in that case, if I were in the canceller of plans shoes, and I really DID want to see that guy I cancelled on, I would feel a need to explain to some extent why...like it would be a medical emergency or some legitimate crisis as to why you couldn't make it tonight. I would call him, not text him,another time and be quite apologetic and make it clear that you want to meet him. actually in this case, if you can get him to set up another time to get together, I would actually pay, because you probably put him out to some extent by cancelling. Because if it was last night, you cancelled on him on a Friday night, and he might be a little POed because it was too late to make other plans.
Author glitzy55 Posted February 17, 2007 Author Posted February 17, 2007 because if a guy called me and said 'something came up' the same day we were going out, I interpret that as 'something BETTER came up, as in I got a better offer from someone else, I'm doing that instead.' So...in that case, if I were in the canceller of plans shoes, and I really DID want to see that guy I cancelled on, I would feel a need to explain to some extent why...like it would be a medical emergency or some legitimate crisis as to why you couldn't make it tonight. I would call him, not text him,another time and be quite apologetic and make it clear that you want to meet him. actually in this case, if you can get him to set up another time to get together, I would actually pay, because you probably put him out to some extent by cancelling. Because if it was last night, you cancelled on him on a Friday night, and he might be a little POed because it was too late to make other plans. I did call and got no answer. I did give a legitimate reason I wasnt vague about it. And as I don't think he's going to sit home and cry over it..if this is gonna ruin his weekend and he cant find something else to do..well then that's even more sad lol.
Violet_Sky Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 you already turned someone else down just for you because he was looking forward to meeting you. Anyway you're kind of turning it back on him now, but I don't think you're really broken up about it. Like Krytellan said, if a guy calls the day of and cancels, lots of guys mean that as "I'm not interested" so that is probably how this guy is feeling you think about him, so I'm just saying you have a little ground to make up, crisis or not last night. It might take a couple phone calls. Plus you said you texted him to cancel, that is a super copout way to cancel on someone, in his shoes, I would think you are really not interested at this point.
Author glitzy55 Posted February 17, 2007 Author Posted February 17, 2007 you already turned someone else down just for you because he was looking forward to meeting you. Anyway you're kind of turning it back on him now, but I don't think you're really broken up about it. Like Krytellan said, if a guy calls the day of and cancels, lots of guys mean that as "I'm not interested" so that is probably how this guy is feeling, so I'm just saying you have a little ground to make up, crisis or not last night. It might take a couple phone calls. Plus you said you texted him to cancel, that is a super copout way to cancel on someone, in his shoes, I would think you are really not interested at this point. I called 2x and he didnt answer..but yea I could have have left a long voicmail but I dont leave vociemails usually. He could take it that way but he already knew my friend was visiting for the weekend I had to pick her up. The days changed so my loyalty to my friend is sorta a little more important then to a guy I am interested in meeting but still.
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