willowfei Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 years, and I asked for a break last year because I felt like I annoyed him constantly because I hardly saw him. (I saw him about 3 times a week because I have school, work, and I go home to my parents on the weekends.) We got back after a couple weeks. This month was approaching the 3 year anniversary and valentine's day. I was excited and started to make plans. I also was going to stop going home on the weekends so I could see my boyfriend more. (I go home on the weekends because I don't have a car and they want family time and live 5 minutes from my work.) I was happy because I'm graduating college this semester, and I wanted to move back in with my boyfriend after my lease was up. My boyfriend broke up with me quite randomly one day and didn't see me for a couple weeks. We started hanging out and we had sex one day. He was my first, and I was his, so sex isn't something that I hold lightly. The next day he changed his myspace status to single (he hadn't updated it at all). I confronted him about it and he said that he thought that I look at his profile constantly, so he did it to find out. We had sex again(I thought that everything was better and perhaps in my head) and then he made a joke of how we can't make sex a "bad habit." I asked him what exactly it meant to him or if it was just sex. He said he didn't analyze it, and we had a long, sad convo about breaking up. He said that he just wants time to himself and be "greg;" that it's a "break" not a "breakup" when I told him what i thought that the difference between the two were. (to me, a break is putting a "hold" on the realtionship and a breakup is usually something final.) we then had sex again and cuddled. We make plans to hang out and basically he'll blow me off if his friends invite him to do something. he said that once i graduate, if i have more time, then we'll get back together. i told him that i would wait for him if he chose to come back to me in a realtionship. I'm quite confused about the situation. he was my first real long term relationship and would appreciate any feedback.
Davis Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 We make plans to hang out and basically he'll blow me off if his friends invite him to do something. he said that once i graduate, if i have more time, then we'll get back together. i told him that i would wait for him if he chose to come back to me in a realtionship. I'm quite confused about the situation. You told him WHAT!?!? You should never tell anyone that you'll "wait for them" unless you like being a doormat. Yes, he's using you for sex. Fck that. I understand he was your first big relationship, but he is using you. Remember this saying: HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU? You're "Quite confused"? About what? That he uses you for convenience and sex!? I have advice: move on!! So go to NC and find a guy that really wants to be with you!!
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