tashhhhh Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 Hey guys. I’m in a bit of a tiz, at the moment. This past week my college took it’s drama students over to New York, for a bit of firsthand experience of Broadway ect. Before going I’d known a few people vaguely and some guy called Mark who was going was on the trip. Now I felt kinda close to him even though I’d spoke only a few sentences to him. History of Mark and I: we’d both been in a show, though not talked much - he was the lead actor and I was a singer, meaning we were on stage at different points and never really had chance to chat, however ever since the show if he sees me in the corridors he’ll pull a silly face at me, or smile and I return the gesture but nothing more was ever said between us. THEN I realise he was on this trip and I though “Oh good, someone I kind of know and also maybe can get to actually speak to him properly.” Monday night nothing was done between us, however, on Tuesday - after we’d all been sight seeing and were totally freezing - we were waiting for some other to catch up with the group and were all standing in the subway station. He was standing pretty close to me and we were chatting about little things that didn’t mean much - the weather, presents for people ect - and he was leaning against the wall, one of he knees sticking out from it brushing the side of my leg. And I felt kinda “aww he’s cute” and we were just flirting quietly away. Then the subway came and he pulled me into a seat next to him. I took off my gloves and my hands were all red and stiff and basically freezing. So he took my hand in his an began to rub them to put some heat back into them. One of the things he asked me while doing this was “was I seeing someone” I said no and gave a brief overview that my last guy had been an idiot and cheated on me, and then told me that he may pick me because I live closer than this other girl [answer to which was very colourful and non to polite, on my part]. Mark asked me if he went to our college and seemed quite pissed at this guy. I returned the question and he said no he’d just gotten out of a relationship that was quite long [9 months] and he was sending roses to his ex via a florist in England - they only split because he was going away in September for three months and she was leaving for nine months after that and they didn’t see the point. After this I was a little deflated because I thought well, nothing to happen here but I just let the gentle flirting continue. As he was rubbing my hand still he broke a little off of one of my nails and was so like “oh god! Are you okay? I’m really sorry. . Have you got a nail file?” ect. I told him it didn’t matter and not to worry, I wasn’t the fussed about nails anyway, but he was so very concerned. We got off the subway and separated to our own friendship groups to get lunch. That evening we were going out and he appeared outside my door as I finished getting ready, he was like “take your coat off I want to see what you look like” so, I unbuttoned my coat and he complimented me on my dress and then we walked down the stairs together into the lobby, where he called me pretty and gave me a tight hug. That night we went out to Ellen’s Stardust Diner [i think that’s correct] and my friend sat on a table with another three people, so I need to find another table for me and another two friends. Mark saw me, he was sitting alone, and was like “Tasha come sit next to me” so I did. All through the meal he was grabbing my hand/leg beneath the table and he asked me to be his date tonight. I thought he was messing around a bit and just laughed and said of course. We were chatting and getting on really well. After the restaurant we went to the Theatre to see a show, however to get there we had to walk out in the cold and I was completely freezing, he took off his thin jacket - leaving him in just a shirt in the snow - and put around my shoulders as we dashed down the block to get the theatre - insisting the whole time I needed it more than him. I told him that a few people had been questioning about us in the diner but I’d lied to them and said we weren’t holding hands ect just for simplicities sake. Once we were in the theatre we were seated in different rows and he kept pouting at me, wanting me to sit next to him, but I was already seated and the seats either side of him had now been filled. After the show we didn’t have much contact, we all went for a browse at the different theatres and that was that. Until on the way home he said there was going to be a gathering in another’s room because it was someone’s birthday and that I should go. I said I would and when we arrived at the hotel quickly got changed into sweat pants and a hoody and we all met up in this other room. At first I was seated on the floor but Mark ushered me up next to him on the bed, then lay his head on my knee and let me play with his hair [even though he hates it being messed up]. He had my arm and was stroking it - out of the view of others - and at one point sucked the pulse point on my wrist, under the pretence of biting at my bracelet [beads shaped like fruit] and when it came to leave him and another girl decided that they’d join me and my roommate in our room for a bit. The other girl lay on my bed, Mark lay next to her and my roommate went up onto her own bed. I was sitting at the end of my bed but Mark was like “don’t be silly, we have room down here ect.” so I lay next to him and likes went out. Immediately he adjusted himself to face me, have one arm beneath my head and another on my waist. Throughout the couple of hours he was there, my neck rested in the crook of his, his hands stroked my arms/legs/waist and at one point when I turned to lay on my back because in sleep he turned his back to me he turned my around so we were spooning. If he was facing me he wouldn’t kiss me but trace my face with his fingers and at one point kissed me on the cheek. It was very sweet and intimate and not at all lusty but quite gentle and affectionate. At about 5am he got out of the bed and was worried his roommate might be worried should he wake up without him being round - he might have told teachers ect. So we both stood, he hugged me, kissed my cheek again and said goodnight. Obviously I was on a bit of a giddy moment. However Valentine’s Day came and he was off with me. I accepted this because of his girlfriend [well, ex] and everything even though he was now hanging around with three other girls, who were his friendship group before he started spending a lot of time with me. That afternoon we were alone, shopping and he allowed me to basically pick his outfit. Someone asked if we were seeing one another and he replied no. Understandable - we're not! That evening at a restaurant some girl came and told me he’d said she looked pretty that night and that kind of made me feel a bit lousy. That night he slept with the two girls from his little group [nothing happened], above me [bunk beds] who was sleeping with a guy and another girl. He’d utterly ignored me since we’d all piled into the room, even when I tried to catch his eye or speak to him. Then Thursday - our last day - I got no positive signals whatsoever off of him. I may as well have been dead - he seemed to purposely make an effort to not catch me eye. He was all about his little group of three girls. They suddenly became everything. And my god that hurt, not just because I liked him but because no one likes to be ignored and dismissed. My best friend on the trip saw I was low and I confessed everything that had been going on. She smiled and said se and another girl thought something had been going on and had collected gossip about us. They said they knew all the little things we’d talked about ect and that apparently he’d told someone he liked me and that we’d be a good match - I’m sceptical about this one, cause it could just be hearsay - and they’d watched him apparently in the Theatre and he’d kept glancing at me with a “loving” look. She told me we’d looked very close and coupley and that we’d make a great item. However, he continued to ignore me and not meet my eyes if we did talk. When we arrived back at college, he pulled a face at me and hugged me goodbye as my parents arrived to pick me up, his hand lingering on my back. And NOW I’m so confused. Various people have said maybe he did fall for me and was confused because of the break up [my Mum thinks this - her therapist side kicked in and suggested he fell for me and got scared], some said he was on the rebound, but surely he’d rebound for a bit longer with me or want me to do a bit more than hugging and light touches? Thirdly some said he was a player, but that was not in his nature at all. He’s a genuine gentleman and nice guy, or seemed to be to everyone but me that last couple of days. Plus he didn't get what a player would want from me. Now I have no way of talking to him particularly if he avoids me in college and I want to know if he ever really did like me? Could there be something in the future between us? Also I’m worried that approaching him Monday will be fruitless as he can say let’s leave it in New York. Ugh. Advice would be helpful and a little bit of perspective would be nice. How can he go from so loving/affectionate to so cold? I’m not heartbroken or anything along those lines, but I just want to know some answers, because I could have seen myself falling for this guy, given the chance. Ohh. And some girl said when she’d said something about a date in July, he said “oh, Tasha’s birthday is the 17th” do you remember little inconsequential details like that if you plan on ditching said girl? Particuarly as I only mentioned it in passing, nothing big was made about it. I'm sorry it's so long, but I needed to get it all out.
lindya Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 You need to sort out whatever problem has happened with your font size - that's really distracting. Oh okay, it's sorted now. He sounds like the kind of guy who has spent a lot of time around women, who's confident around women - and is very able to quickly win trust and create a comfort zone. Maybe he genuinely likes you, maybe he's just playing you - it's absolutely impossible to say just from a post, but it does sound as though he has a definite (and pretty effective) flirting technique.
Author tashhhhh Posted February 17, 2007 Author Posted February 17, 2007 Yes it would seem so. It's so very frustrating, because I don't know whether to just leave it or confront him with it. I don't think I want a relationship, I just kinda want to know why he just ignored me for two days. . .I mean, talk about 180 degree turn in behaviour. =[[
lindya Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 Yes it would seem so. It's so very frustrating, because I don't know whether to just leave it or confront him with it. I don't think I want a relationship, I just kinda want to know why he just ignored me for two days. . .I mean, talk about 180 degree turn in behaviour. =[[ He's a drama student. I don't mean to sound judgemental, but....he's a drama student.
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