santiagoanarosa Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 Is he trying to make me jealous? Hello everyone, I'm writing for some type of advice. I have a boyfriend of 2 1/2 years. Every 4-6 months I come across cell phone numbers that belongs to a girl. I confront him and he says that its a number from his job because he is a contractor. So I try to give him the benefit of the doubt. However every once in a while. He does things to try to make me think that he's doing something behind my back. He'll be sitting in the living room watching television and out of the blue, he'll grab his cell phone and go in another room and act like he's calling someone. but he wont be calling anyone. Then He'll call and ask where I'm at and Ill tell him, then I ask where's he at. And he'll tell me around...... Then I'll ask him, then after so many times asking him, he'll then tell me. He'll sit at the computer and email himself and then reply to the email to make me think that he's emailing someone and then he'll look at me to see if I'm looking. And if he sees me looking he'll close the email real quick. then I ask him who is he emailing and then he'll say no one. but he'll type a reply to himself. He does all of these things alot. Then He'll go in the bedroom and act as if he's talking on the cell phone. And when I walk in the bedroom, he'll close his phone real quick as if he has something to hide. There are times when we argue he will say things so it can bother me. But when I act as if anything he says doesnt bother me. He'll keep saying things like: I'm gonna go to the store or I'm leaving i have to do something. Then I'll say"what do you have to do". He'll say " just some stuff. But if I ignore what he's saying, he'll make other comments till i break loose. Tell me someone what they think about this? The reason why I know that he doesnt call anyone is because i know all his passwords to all of his accounts and cell phone. Confused??????
McFadden Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 Am I the only one who thinks thats the cutest thing I've ever heard. He must really love you to do all that awwwww.
Walk Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 Wow.. that's...uh... hmm... that's pretty immature (on his part). How old is he? (and out of curiousity, how old are you? if you don't mind answering) That has so many levels of screwed up, I don't even know where to start. Is there something you might be doing that he's interpretting to be similiar to his actions? Or could he possibly be thinking your hiding things from him, and he's attempting to show you how it feels? I'm grasping at straws here.. that's just really strange behavior. Have you confronted him on this? That would be my first step. Call his bluff. If you can maybe figure out what the logic is for why he's acting this way, then you could add that in as a question to see if you can get him to open up about what's going on. But if he refuses to be honest and truthful with you, then there's not a whole lot you can do about it. I guess, talk to him. See what he says, then let him know that he is going to lose you if he doesn't figure out a better way to deal with problems.
konfuzd Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 My mom had a roommate in college who used to 'talk on the phone' with no one on the other end, she'd periodically "hang up" with her finger so it wouldn't make that awful phone is off the hook sound (this was before cordless phones). She wanted her roommates to think she was popular, and when she went out, she didn't want them to know she was always going alone. Maybe your bf is doing the same? Does he have friends of his own?
Author santiagoanarosa Posted February 18, 2007 Author Posted February 18, 2007 Yeah, I confronted him about this, however he plays dumb all the time on this. I told him that I'm not gonna deal with this if this keeps going. I don't think he has this respect boundry for me. I'm 33 years old and he's 28. I'm glad i'm not the only one that thinks this is crazy...... He's the type of person that thinks the world revolves around him. He's very selfish and obnoxious. This is all coming out in the past year. We've been together for 3 years. He states that he's not insecure. But if he's not insecure then why waist so much energy doing things to make me feel irritated. As far as me doing anything to make him want to do that: well, I work; come home; cook; clean and when he walks in that door I say hello; dinner is on the table. I don't say nothing negative. As a matter of fact I give him compliments; I treat him with respect. I sat down one day and wrote things on paper and analyzed myself. I'm a very positive person. So i have no idea????????????
Violet_Sky Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 I have a question,how do you manage to get a bf's email and cell passwords, this really makes me curious.
oh_what_am_I_doing Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 Am I the only one who thinks thats the cutest thing I've ever heard. He must really love you to do all that awwwww. I can't tell if McFadden is being sarcastic or not, but just in case they were being serious, let me respectfully disagree!!! It's weird. Very very weird. Especially since you guys are 33 and 28. I can't say if he's trying to make you jealous or not; I have no idea what his motives are, but it sounds like he needs to grow up.
sexywhisper Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 I have a question,how do you manage to get a bf's email and cell passwords, this really makes me curious. answer to this question: Download a keylogger and you have it all. as far as his cell phone password: you have to watch were his fingers go. This takes time. Count how many times he presses a number. next time watch were his fingers go. At least try to see the first number, etc etc etc. one at a time. Eventually you'll get it. Don't make a journey on it. Just keep your eyes peeled, after some time you'll have it. Etccccccccc;) Technically i felt bad for doing this, however all those things he was doing suddenly made me feel a little insecure. So i had to find out. Instead I find out his weird.
justagirliegirl Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 He's get a lot of attention from you for doing it. I would just totally ignore it from now on. It is childish and he needs to grow up.
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