Violet_Sky Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 is that just a line that guys use? Just wondering, I really liked it when he said it. (he's a 40 year old guy and I know he's dated a lot) so it's awesome if it's true
Walk Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 It could be true, or he may have honestly felt that way at that moment. I think it's a great compliment. Only thing that would worry me though... If the majority of your interaction with him is physical, then he's really, uh.. focused mainly how you look. Not so much the inner beautiful you. And maybe you might want to take a moment to contemplate whether he's bothered to get to know the inner you as much as he's desiring to know the outter you. Hopefully he has.
Author Violet_Sky Posted February 17, 2007 Author Posted February 17, 2007 we have made out, kissed, but we do a lot of talking, it's been 3 weeks. No getting intimate yet. He does say I'm beautiful a lot, he always notices my clothes, etc., but we do talk a lot about lots of things. what you have said is really food for thought, thank you Walk. I do want him to get to know me inside, and vice versa.
kitten chick Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 Such a line. That would send up red flags to me but maybe that's just me.
Walk Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 It would for me too... But it would have to be taken in light of the rest of the relationship. Guys are more vocal about their appreciation of looks at the beginning stages of the relationship. Saying positive things about how she looks isn't inheriently bad. If it's the only thing he's noticing, then I'd take it as a warning flag. The typical women would complain that he only wants her for her looks right now, then a year from now be on here complaining that he never compliments her looks. I say, appreciate the compliments and kudos, but don't let the pretty words make you forget that there's an inner you thats just as gorgeous as what you've got on the outside.
Author Violet_Sky Posted February 17, 2007 Author Posted February 17, 2007 he has told me he likes my intelligence and that I'm funny....so that's good.
Pretty Fly Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 we have made out, kissed, but we do a lot of talking, it's been 3 weeks. No getting intimate yet. He does say I'm beautiful a lot, he always notices my clothes, etc., but we do talk a lot about lots of things. what you have said is really food for thought, thank you Walk. I do want him to get to know me inside, and vice versa. Violet_Sky aka the_total_package... on the other thread where you are talking about those books, you said the idea was supposed to be to encourage women NOT to analyse everything a guy says. With all due respect, this is what you are doing here!! Just take what he says at face value and see how things develop, instead of trying to second-guess what he means and potentially ruining something that could've been good as you interpreted it wrongly.
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 If a guy says to you ' you are the hottest woman I have ever kissed' ... I would wonder about the last woman he used that line on, and wonder how many times total he used it and actually managed to make it work. Of course, there are his actions - if his actions are backing this up on a regular basis - and he also seems into you outside of anything sexual, then I can see how it may not be just a line.
VinaAmez Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 ... I would wonder about the last woman he used that line on, and wonder how many times total he used it and actually managed to make it work. Of course, there are his actions - if his actions are backing this up on a regular basis - and he also seems into you outside of anything sexual, then I can see how it may not be just a line. Yep I agree. Maybe you are the hottest girl he's ever kissed. If so, then yea for you.
Road Rage Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 Maybe she`s the only girl he`s ever kissed:laugh:
elijahBailey Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 guys would say that just so they can improve their chances of sleeping with the girl. It's true, sorry.
Pretty Fly Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 guys would say that just so they can improve their chances of sleeping with the girl. It's true, sorry. Well I must be in a minority here, because I wouldn't. I'd rather she slept with me because she wanted to, not because some magical combination of words did the trick.
whichwayisup Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 is that just a line that guys use? Just wondering, I really liked it when he said it. (he's a 40 year old guy and I know he's dated a lot) so it's awesome if it's true He probably does mean it, but in the back of his head, he will say pretty much anything to get laid. He may not be malcious or controlling while telling you this, but he knows that if he plays his cards right - Sex!
Pretty Fly Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 He probably does mean it, but in the back of his head, he will say pretty much anything to get laid. He may not be malcious or controlling while telling you this, but he knows that if he plays his cards right - Sex! Everyone's so cynical!!
Guest Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 Is this why giving a woman compliments does not work because a woman feels a man does this just to get in your pants.
tanbark813 Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 I would put my money on that he meant it. Also, if he said it after you guys kissed, then your kissing technique may have something to do with it. The hottest make-out session I ever had was with a girl who was attractive but not necessarily the best-looking I've ever been with. Not that I'm saying you couldn't be the hottest he's been with lookswise, but you sound skeptical so I thought I'd throw that out there since it may have more to do with than just your appearance.
Topper Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 OK how old is this guy? He can't come up with a better line then the Hottest? Send him back to The frat house.
Rooster_DAR Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 ... I would wonder about the last woman he used that line on, and wonder how many times total he used it and actually managed to make it work. Of course, there are his actions - if his actions are backing this up on a regular basis - and he also seems into you outside of anything sexual, then I can see how it may not be just a line. I agree here as well, men often will validate women to get what they want. Like LucreziaBorgia said, if his actions keep showing this, he could be telling you the truth. Cheers!
Author Violet_Sky Posted February 17, 2007 Author Posted February 17, 2007 I guess that is why I asked, feeling a bit insecure. I like him, he likes me, but something seems 'off.' So I'm wondering if he was using the full - court press, or just being sincere. Thanks!
TheDC Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 Well this is a bit of a bullsh*t catch 22 isn't it. Give a girl a compliment and all you are looking for is sex. Don't give her a compliment and you're an insensitive bastard. Guys just can't win either way. If he never complimented you you'd be on this board complaining about that. So women I ask you, what do you want? Make up your minds and stop playing stupid games. It's precisely for these reasons that men sometimes just give up and stop trying.
Topper Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 DC Don't hold back tell us how you really feel. But there is some truth in what you say.
Trialbyfire Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 Well this is a bit of a bullsh*t catch 22 isn't it. Give a girl a compliment and all you are looking for is sex. Don't give her a compliment and you're an insensitive bastard. Guys just can't win either way. If he never complimented you you'd be on this board complaining about that. So women I ask you, what do you want? Make up your minds and stop playing stupid games. It's precisely for these reasons that men sometimes just give up and stop trying. lmao, this does have the element of truth to it. I think what most men fail to see is that we're looking for sincerity, not pretty lines. Intimacy from a person to person perspective is far more lasting than a one-time physical intimacy. It's what makes both parties come back for more. Having said that, the physical element is oh so important too. Hope that makes sense to you guys.
Road Rage Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 What many women fail to realize is that a sincere guy may often come across a little flaky because his emotions are involved and it is tripping him up. Plus, he may have some degree of inexperience with women. Whereas the master player is smooth as Canadian whiskey and appears totally sincere. He has all his moves down. Practise makes perfect and the perfect player has had much practise. Time, time and more time women! In due time, sincerity comes to the surface and insincerity is exposed.
Pretty Fly Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 What many women fail to realize is that a sincere guy may often come across a little flaky because his emotions are involved and it is tripping him up. Practise makes perfect and the perfect player has had much practise. This is a point I was trying to make in another thread where guys were being written off as "wimps" and "p*ssies" because they hesitated in making the first move.
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