hardknocks Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 Say you are meeting somebody for basically a blind date - you met once before and asked her out via email.. So now.. when you first meet, do you.. A. Shake Hands B. Lean in, shake hands and kiss her on the cheek (platonic) C. Easy hug D. No physical contact ..just say 'Hi!' E. Or none of the above (and just for background info, I am male, early 30's - she is late 20's) I am meeting her at a Tea shop for tea. Do I wait for her.. A. At the table, arrive before her. B. In the hallway before the shop. C. Outside the shop door. D. Come late and meet her inside. THANKS FOR THE HELP! I know I'm silly thinking about it! It has been a while since I've been on a first date!
Krytellan Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 Oh man. To be completely honest, I would say you need to stop overanalysing or you're gonna blow it. The fact that you're preparing so hard for this means she is in control of you... thats bad. Get there when you get there. If you're a punctual person, be punctual. If you always run late, just do your thing. Do you like hugging strangers? Go for it. I always hug women on a date... nothing psycho, just a quick hug. Handshakes are for buddies, not dates. Just be you
Violet_Sky Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 when she gets there of course you're going to want to stand up and smile! Good luck! Hope it goes well, you sound enthusiastic.
Author hardknocks Posted February 17, 2007 Author Posted February 17, 2007 Oh man. To be completely honest, I would say you need to stop overanalysing or you're gonna blow it. The fact that you're preparing so hard for this means she is in control of you... thats bad. Get there when you get there. If you're a punctual person, be punctual. If you always run late, just do your thing. Do you like hugging strangers? Go for it. I always hug women on a date... nothing psycho, just a quick hug. Handshakes are for buddies, not dates. Just be you heheh... well thanks. I'm not in experienced with women (by any means) - I just always feel a little awkward - no matter how many times I have done it! Especially with strangers.
Walk Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 The one thing that really impressed me about my bf when we first started dating was that he would wait for me to show up before entering a restaurant (or coffee shop). Either stand just out side the door to the entrance so I didn't have to search for him once inside, or he'd stand just inside the door if it was cold out. I just thought it was really sweet and it caught me off guard 'cause no guy had ever done that before. If she barely knows your face, then don't make her have to do a where's waldo in a crowded room. You want her to feel comfortable and at ease, not stressed out or embarressed that she didn't recognize you in a strange setting with a lot of commotion around you. Plus.. meeting her at the front door might make the "hand shake and platonic cheek kiss" a little easier to pull off. You could make it seem less forced, more natural that way. Otherwise, seems like you'd have to jump up when she got to your table, and grab her hand, and it might be awkward with the table and chairs there. Also, if you met out front you could open the door for her, and show her what a gentleman you are.
clueless24 Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 i dont know about other girls, but i like the guy to wait for me at the door or at least be near the front where i can spot him easy or else i feel a little akward walking in and looking all over. i like it when the guy arrives earlier than me just because i am always afraid that i might get a phone call saying that he's not going to make it and then i am stuck there by myself. i think a hug would be fine to greet her when you see her, again, a handshake is too "bussiness like"; it's not a deal or an introductory meeting, it's a date. good luck and have great time:)
Author hardknocks Posted February 19, 2007 Author Posted February 19, 2007 ok.. I used 'B'.. platonic handshake and kiss on the cheek and 'B' In the hallway before the shop. We hit it off.. what I thought would be an hour or so long first date turned into a marathon 6 hour date. Thanks for the input!
Trialbyfire Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 I'm no expert on blind dates since I've only been on one in my life and it was a personal favour for a good friend, so I can only tell you what I prefer as a woman. Let her define what she prefers for physical contact. Give her a big friendly welcoming smile and see if she reaches over to shake your hand. Her body language should tell you if she's a contact person or not. I don't mind shaking hands with a stranger due to business but beyond that, I don't like to be touched by a stranger until we've hit it off, whether friends or otherwise. Then, I'm quite warm and touchy, lol. As for waiting for her, show her you're a gentleman and wait outside the door so you can open it for her when she arrives. Little courtesies are always appreciated.
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