Guest Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 Hi everyone. I have been sitting here tonight on Valentine’s Day and I think it’s all starting to get to my head. My ex and I broke up last Tuesday after a 2 & ½ year relationship. The funny part is he threatened to break up with me last month if I sent him a present or card for Valentine’s Day and I know he wouldn’t have acknowledged the day anyways. So I guess I am going to vent my story. I’m sorry it is so long but I think most parts are needed. We started dating when he was 20 and I was 17. At this point, we were both living in the same town. He barely graduated high school and wasn’t doing much with his life while I was a top student. The first 9 months of our relationship were amazing and he was affectionate and listened. Then, he turned 21 and things came tumbling down. He asked for a week apart, without saying if we were still together, and during this time, he hooked up with an ex-girlfriend. (mind you this is the first night after that week I saw him and we kissed earlier) He called me the next morning crying and telling me. He asked for me to forgive him and he needed me in his life. To this day, he will not admit he cheated, sticks up for the girl, and it bothers me. We got back together but he ended things again 2 weeks later saying he needs space. I was also leaving for college 4 hours away, which I feel was the deep down reason. We continued to talk a lot and I had a rough time letting him go. He said he still cared but he was basically using me. My first semester of college was a wreck. That winter break, we got back together but things were weird. He was very mean to me, his mom even deemed it emotional abuse. He would not talk to me about his feelings or show affection and would just do inconsiderate things. We still were together while I was at school until things went sour a few weeks ago. He texted me drunk last weekend saying “f* you” and I called him back asking what this was all about. He proceeded to call me numerous bad names and that he didn’t want to be with me. I called my bf the next morning and he said he didn’t remember but he needed space. I tried to give him his space but I could tell something was wrong. When I asked him if I was his girlfriend he would say “Yea I guess so” and he was cold. He wanted to live life day by day and for some reason this means not showing any affection. I tried to give him space until he called me last Tuesday saying we were going to talk that night and it was over. We talked and he said his feelings are fading, the distance is hurting our relationship, he needs change in his life, we need to go do our own things, and he wants to live day by day. He ended things in what he called an “indefinite break.” I was very hurt but we said goodnight and talk again soon. I didn’t contact him until he IMed me Friday telling me to keep my head up. We talked a little about why and then he signed off. He then called me drunk ten times that night saying he cares about me and he hearts me. So Saturday morning I called him saying if he remembered and he said no, he was sorry, but we can’t talk. I left it alone for the day but texted him Sunday saying I want to talk and sort things out. He said “what is there to talk about” but we wound up talking that night. He was cold and the conversation got us no where. Monday, we talked online and he got very mad at me and threatened to block me. So here I am. I refuse to contact him. His away message says he is now “on a hott date at a game”. He is purposely trying to hurt me. I have been there for this boy through thick and thin and have given him my all. In return, he treated me poorly and took me for granted. But for some reason, I am torn up on this and thought we were in this for the long run. I feel like my life is pointless without him. Any opinions would be greatly appreciated.
Guest Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 Update: He called me today, Saturday, to see "how I was doing". I told him okay. It was awkward and I wound up crying. I asked him if we could talk later and he said no the said have a good day and hung up. I'm trying my best not to contact him back. What is he trying to do?
Guest Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 Update: He called me yesterday, Saturday, to "see how I was doing." I asked him if I could call him later he said no. Later that night, we talked online. He was horribly mean and eventually just stopped talking. How can someone all of a sudden just stop caring after so long?
Guest Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 Hi everyone, it's me. Any suggestions on how to get over it? Thank you in advance.
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