pricillia Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 I am truly trying to find some clarity about my situation and also say that this is a support forum and we as women should support eachother not the ladder and all the posts started to start trouble is just insain. So I was reading some things on the web and I came up with this link... some of it is far fetched but something stuck out to me about women and support here is the link http://www.womanthouartgod.com/monsters.php Here is what hit home for me. Women are taught that happiness is centered around having a man, that our society turns women against eachother. Women are taught to hate and not respect eachother... It also goes on to say that we (women) are a bunch of creatures that must fight eachohter for men and the resources that they contain and the wonderful things that they give us. It states that it takes patience to find a good man and that the ability to be alone. The greatest resource that you have is yourself and that a man can not give you self worth. Also goes on to say that you must work on liking and loving yourself and then everything else will fall into place. again this is all from the above link.. sorry for the second post I just wanted to share this information.
Author pricillia Posted February 17, 2007 Author Posted February 17, 2007 read the FINAL ADVISE SECTION AT THE BOTTOM OF THE LINK... it pretty much sums it all up.
NoIDidn't Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 Read the article and your synopsis did not do it justice. There was a lot more meat to the article than what you pointed out. But I get that what you pointed out was what you took from it. I didn't get much from the article personally as I learned most of the lessons that it contains very young (no offense). It seemed to be coming from the angle of woman accepting mistreatment from men because they didn't know any better (lack of experience), or because they didn't think they could do any better (wounded emotionally). This article didn't seem to speak woman-to-woman as why we are the way we are to each other. But it did seem to tell women to look out for the *evil* in some men. The article could help someone in an abusive relationship that is ready to see it for what it is. I think your MM is emotionally abusive. Is that why this article spoke to you?
Author pricillia Posted February 17, 2007 Author Posted February 17, 2007 Read the article and your synopsis did not do it justice. There was a lot more meat to the article than what you pointed out. But I get that what you pointed out was what you took from it. I didn't get much from the article personally as I learned most of the lessons that it contains very young (no offense). It seemed to be coming from the angle of woman accepting mistreatment from men because they didn't know any better (lack of experience), or because they didn't think they could do any better (wounded emotionally). This article didn't seem to speak woman-to-woman as why we are the way we are to each other. But it did seem to tell women to look out for the *evil* in some men. The article could help someone in an abusive relationship that is ready to see it for what it is. I think your MM is emotionally abusive. Is that why this article spoke to you? No but that is what I got from it that is why I put in the link. Yes sometimes he is emotionally abusive, not understanding why but he can be. The part that most spoke to me is about being strong... Yeah and as far as the evil thing I get that but some of it was too much to take and I tried to take the most sensible part of it. Also it is hard for me to devote extra time on a post because I am at work and frequently distracted, so I agree I did leave out some meaty parts
TheDiva Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 I am truly trying to find some clarity about my situation and also say that this is a support forum and we as women should support eachother not the ladder and all the posts started to start trouble is just insain. So I was reading some things on the web and I came up with this link... some of it is far fetched but something stuck out to me about women and support here is the link http://www.womanthouartgod.com/monsters.php Here is what hit home for me. Women are taught that happiness is centered around having a man, that our society turns women against eachother. Women are taught to hate and not respect eachother... It also goes on to say that we (women) are a bunch of creatures that must fight each ohter for men and the resources that they contain and the wonderful things that they give us. It states that it takes patience to find a good man and that the ability to be alone. The greatest resource that you have is yourself and that a man can not give you self worth. Also goes on to say that you must work on liking and loving yourself and then everything else will fall into place. again this is all from the above link.. sorry for the second post I just wanted to share this information. While some of it seemed a little over the top to me with all the "evil men" talk. I do agree that the portion you posted is a major problem. Women fight women for the sake of getting that man. Yep even in this forum some OW get up in arms at advise from a BW stating you are just bitter. Some of the BW get their own panties in a bunch stating can't you get a single man? This is an anonymous forum and a lot of the percieved attacks are actually coming from fear. Fear that the 'other side' might be right. It hits home for me too in a way. I didn't have any aspirations of marriage or finding ‘the one’ when I was younger though. But straight out of school a MM set me in his sights and I fell hook,line and sinker… Think about your high school days. In high school you aren’t special unless you have a boyfriend. I saw that back then and I see this in my nieces today. Constantly trying to get a boyfriend/ keep a boyfriend, hating other girls for looking cross-eyed at their crush. Hmmmmm. I think I am rambling a bit. Yes, women are taught from a young age to feel they generally are not complete until they have a man. The best advise I got out of that article though was watch how he is with other people. This is true of anyone really. Watch how they interact and treat other people. EVEN BEHIND THEIR BACKS. Yes that means MM, and what he is doing to the people he calls family behind their backs. I don't want this to go into a rant or make you think I am talking about your MM. I am speaking in general. I watched the interaction between my H and his mother when we were dating. He was very respectful, helpful and patient with her. He's kind to kids and animals love him. I watched him very closely with my best friend. If he couldn't get along with her, act respectfully toward her etc. I was going to dump him. He spoke very kindly to her and highly of her when I asked what he thought of her. I think I found a keeper. We have been married 7 years though, so ask me in another 10 years or so. But so far so good. With regard to your most recent posts Pricillia I think you are realizing what your relationship w/MM is doing to you. Have you looked in the mirror lately and asked yourself "Where did Pricilla go?" Then again I could be off base...
outofdarkness Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 I am truly trying to find some clarity about my situation and also say that this is a support forum and we as women should support eachother not the ladder and all the posts started to start trouble is just insain. So I was reading some things on the web and I came up with this link... some of it is far fetched but something stuck out to me about women and support here is the link http://www.womanthouartgod.com/monsters.php Here is what hit home for me. Women are taught that happiness is centered around having a man, that our society turns women against eachother. Women are taught to hate and not respect eachother... It also goes on to say that we (women) are a bunch of creatures that must fight eachohter for men and the resources that they contain and the wonderful things that they give us. It states that it takes patience to find a good man and that the ability to be alone. The greatest resource that you have is yourself and that a man can not give you self worth. Also goes on to say that you must work on liking and loving yourself and then everything else will fall into place. again this is all from the above link.. sorry for the second post I just wanted to share this information. This is a wonderful post and can really be helpful to all of us who frequent this forum. Thanks!
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