NIKI 28 Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 I met this guy like 2 weeks ago and off the top he ask if he can take me out, so I said yes. Then he ask me what was I doing on friday night. I told him I don't know it depends, so he works for Walmart and he got off at 12 midnight. Well....I told him off the break that I wasn't going out with him at that time of night because I didn't know him and then that's a booty call. Then he says that is it true that red girls are freaks and I'm like sweety what the heck do you mean by that. He tells me that's what he heard and is true. Well.....put it this way the boy still haven't hit (sex). To make a long story short we've been kicking it and he has been trying to have sex with me but I've been telling him no. Too many diseases are out here. Last weekend we didn't go out because he was working and he wanted me to meet his sisters but I wasn't ready. Last but not least....he had to work on Valentines day, but because he got real....sick from "what he tells me that he caught an allergic reaction" so he was unable to work. Now listen to this, he calls me because I had school, so I told him not to call me anymore. Well he calls me to tell me that he is coming over. He comes over, didn't bring me a balloon or anything and says to me that we're going out on Friday. Thursday comes and I didn't hear from him. Then today he calls to tell me that he is on his way to Indiana and that he'll be back on Sunday night. Pls help because my mom thinks he has someone in the state that we're living in. When I try to break up with him he just keeps calling me back. WHY??
Guest Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 If you don't want to have sex with an illustrious wal mart employee than I suggest you break contact...from what I read it sounds like you either do want him, or are just stringing him along. Either way make a decision.
Author NIKI 28 Posted February 17, 2007 Author Posted February 17, 2007 I do like him alot....eventhough he does work for Wal-mart and that's how I know I really like him because I've never in my wildest dreams think that I would deal with a guy who works there. I mean I'm not looking down on him, it's just that my career is in another different lane than his. If I make sense. Like I said before I've only known him for 2 weeks and he is asking for sex already. Then get's upset when I say no. I mean he did go down on me and that's because he wanted to. I am feeling him, but I'm starting to think he has another girlfriend. How do you think that I'm stringing him alone when on Valentines day he didn't even bring me a balloon or at least a card!! I mean let's get serious.
Davis Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 Niki! You already know the answer: he's no good for you. He may have another girl or he may not be that into you. Either way, you need to be smart enough to get out of this deal for good. You sound young. That's why this is a good time for you to develop the "skill" of reading this type of person and moving on quickly before you get in to deep or hurt. Just do NC. Don't take his calls, don't answer, don't respond. Cut all ties, cut your losses now and move on. You can do way better than this guy! Good luck!
Trialbyfire Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 Sex is sex, with or without penetration. If you're going to allow a guy to go down on you, I'm not surprised that he might be upset at you for stopping him from going all the way.
dahling Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 I'd drop his ass. He just wants one thing from you and you already know what that is. and he works at walmart mannnnn
Violet_Sky Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 it's really rude to put down someone because of what they do for a living. This guy has a job and is contributing to society like anyone else and making a living so please stop with that. Who's to say he's not going to college part-time, or he just likes working at Wal-Mart. That fact does not make him loser. It's not like everyone has to be a rocket scientist, a doctor, or a lawyer to be a good person, or even an intelligent person, that is not the point of her post. Second of all, yes, this guy might be playing you for sex. He certainly is putting on the pressure. It sounds like you like him, but don't have sex with him if you're not comfortable. I know you have gotten hot and heavy (with the going down thing) but even that does not mean you owe him to have sex or he has a right to get mad about you not having sex. He is putting conditions on seeing you, having sex...I don't see a guy who genuinely is looking for a loving relationship like you are looking for.
Author NIKI 28 Posted February 18, 2007 Author Posted February 18, 2007 Well guess who calls me today?? Ummhmm Mr. Playa Playa.... I played his little game right with him by giving him the Silent treatment and for the ladies who replies you know how we do it. hahahahahaha Anyways I didn't call him or anything and he calls me around 6pm this evening. I didn't answer, so he calls back from another number that I wasn't really familiar with and then I answered. He says hey......I haven't heard from you all day and I said to him well.....you weren't going to hear from me, so he ask me why. I'm like WHY!!! Do you mean to tell me that you don't know why. He says no.......I tell him that we were suppose to go out and then he goes out of town and lets me know at the last minute. He says babe it wasn't like that I swear to you it was a last minute thing. I accuse him of still being here in this state with another woman and trying to use Indiana as a allaby ummmmmm don't know how to spell that but you guys know what I mean. Then he says I swear when I get back in town I got something for you and you are going to really like it baby and I'm going to be all yours. I say unnhunn we'll see about that, so I will keep you guys posted or should I really kick him to the curve because he keeps calling me and saying to me how he wants me in his life. I was on my way out the house and he ask me where was I going and I tell him, immediately he ask me with who, so he thinks that I'm cheating. Like 30 min later he calls back asking who am I with again!!!
Island Girl Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 If he is a "playa" you are playing right into his hands. Sorry sweetie. This one is a loser. Just by the conversations and what has happened so far -- which isn't much. You should have higher expectations for yourself. Don't you feel you deserve more?
Author NIKI 28 Posted February 18, 2007 Author Posted February 18, 2007 Yes I feel I deserve more, but again it has been only two weeks guys....I mean don't think I'm given in already oh plssssssse baby boy has got to earn me back. I already put it down like that. I told him he owes me big time for what he has already took me through. Like I was saying earlier, it's him that keeps pursuiing me. I'm doing my own thing, he is the one that keeps calling. I have told him time and time again to not call me but he just keeps on calling, so he has got to have some type of feelings for me. I mean I know some men can be dogs but dagggg would they go this far just to get in a girls panties. I don't know....fellas step in on this one.
Island Girl Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 He has gone through what -- ? Calling and answering questions with half-a$$d "baby" comment that you are eating up like candy? Oh yeah that's tough. Girlfriend some guys will do just about anything - say just about anything - to get in a girls pants and for a lot longer than 2 weeks. It has only been two weeks and you are already posting for advice as to whether or not he is lying? Yeah - this relationship is definitely worth exploring. <sarcastic of course> The first few months - at least - should be the honeymoon phase where everything is perfect because at this point he should be trying to IMPRESS you - just like he is seeing a more perfect version of you. It has been a couple of weeks and he's already got your head spinning. If he is a "playa", and I doubt he is a true "playa, then you aren't very equipped for the game. I am not trying to be rude but if you had the skills you wouldn't be posting about whether he is lying or not after 2 flipping weeks. I hope you ARE doing your own thing. I hope you keep doing your own thing and I really hope that includes keeping your options open and you are still showing interest in other guys who'll treat you better. You're soooo settling for less if you're investing any amount of serious time or effort in this guy.
Author NIKI 28 Posted February 18, 2007 Author Posted February 18, 2007 Yeah you are right! I guess I'm just tired of dealing with guys after guys. I am 28 yrs old and ready to settle down. I have a child and now I want my husband that's all. If he is trying this hard to get into my pants then he is really press because I don't even let him get close to it. I mean he went down on me twice, but that's because he wanted to. Well......I've met guys who would do anything to get into your pants, but if they notice that you keep saying no and when I say that I mean after 2 times of saying no they keep on going. I have told this guy no about 10 times....so if he is that press to get in my pants something is wrong because I've told him to move on, but he keeps calling.
Davis Posted February 18, 2007 Posted February 18, 2007 Yeah you are right! I guess I'm just tired of dealing with guys after guys. I am 28 yrs old and ready to settle down. I have a child and now I want my husband that's all. Niki! You what!! Want to "settle down" at 28 because you're "tired of dealing"?? I don't want to be mean to you, but have you lost your fckn mind?!!? That's a REALLY bad reason to do what you're doing or try to continue with some guy. You're only 28!! You have a whole life ahead of you!! I know you want to be in a relationship, but do not settle just be in one! You KNOW it's not right, but you don't want to accept it! Not to be a jerk, but this guy is no good for you. Stop taking his calls, stop letting him "go down" on you and move on. Who cares if he "tries" really hard to earn you back!?! It doesn't change him, his behavior or who he is!!! What is up with your self esteem?? Any guy that pursues you hard and goes down, you're gonna keep??! That doesn't mean they're worth keeping or have good character. You're gonna be sorry in the long run, and in a world of hurt, if you continue with this guy. Don't be so NAIVE!! Kick his @ss to the curb and NC!!!
Island Girl Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 If he is trying this hard to get into my pants then he is really press because I don't even let him get close to it. I mean he went down on me twice What do you consider close to it? He gotten your pants off and your legs spread - that's more than half the battle. He know, just like I do it is just a matter of time. It shows him you really don't respect or value yourself. I have told this guy no about 10 times....so if he is that press to get in my pants something is wrong because I've told him to move on, but he keeps calling. You don't know men very well. Some will pursue until they get their goal accomplished and 10 times of saying no in two weeks - is NOT that many. It has been two weeks of "no" but you allowed him to fondle you and get a "full view" picture. He is getting encouraging signs despite what your mouth says. Of course he is going to keep coming back. You have a child, you are looking for a husband, and yet you have such low self-esteem you are willing to allow yourself to be treated THIS WAY. Just sad, incredibly sad.
Author NIKI 28 Posted February 19, 2007 Author Posted February 19, 2007 I'm just freakn lost for words....he is on his way guys!!! I guess this is the time I break up with him. He got really upset when I went to this party with a friend of mine. Well.....I'm going to break it off.
Island Girl Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 Good luck Niki 28. I hope you let us know what happens.
Author NIKI 28 Posted February 19, 2007 Author Posted February 19, 2007 Well....I told that fat jerk to take a hike. Let me just say he came to my house EMPTY HANDED AGAIN!!! I immediately told him to leave and he kept saying why baby, don't do this to me. I'm like do what to you, it's like freakn 1 am in the morning and you told me that you have my gift but you don't. He kept saying that he had the jeans but wanted his sister to look at it so she can pick a cute shirt out for me. I told him just give me the jeans and the money and I'll go myself. This is the thing he may have went down but it's totally different from him sticking his thing in me, so believe he didn't win at all. I got the last say on this, so thanks loveshack I'm feeln good that I got the scrub all the names in the book out of my life.
Davis Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 he came to my house EMPTY HANDED AGAIN!!! I immediately told him to leave it's like freakn 1 am in the morning and you told me that you have my gift but you don't. Niki! You better kick him to the curb! You LET him show up at your house at 1 in the morning? That's clearly a booty call and he's showing how little he respects you. What is wrong with you and where is your self respect!? Let me get this right. You want gifts from him? Sounds like you just want someone to buy things for you and take care of you. Oh, and if he does, then he gets to go down on you or more?? Why not just take up prostitution? If you're HOT and you're going to do that, at least find a guy that will buy you a car or take you to Hawaii or something, not a pair of jeans. Sorry to be mean to you, but for 28 years old you've got to be one of the most immature, naive women I've heard about. Keep his @ss on the curb with the rest of the trash and don't let him BS you with his "charm" or gifts and buy his way back into your life. No offense, but you act like you're 17. I don't know if you think you can't get better than him, but you should want to be alone rather than spend anytime with a guy like him!! Find a guy that likes you for you and values you. If not, be alone and be ok with it until a good guy comes along!!!
Salicious Crumb Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 This guy is a playa...move on and find a decent one.
Author NIKI 28 Posted February 21, 2007 Author Posted February 21, 2007 Listen, I see everyone's comments, but number one I'm far way far.....from being naive. I know what's up and yes I wanted something for valentines day whether it was a pair of jeans or a card and some freakn balloons!!! I think every female would feel me on that! I'm so sick and tired of ya'll bashing me like I'm sooooooooo dumb to this dude's game. I already kicked him to the curve, HE is the one that keeps calling me back and honey believe me we were going on a damn cruise in June, but because I cut it off we're not going now. I'm not a prostitute but you can't ask for booty and not pay for something. My private part is very special to me and I just don't give it up to anyone. Now he went down on me so he didn't benefit from it, I DID....so what the hell. I don't know maybe you guys aren't getting what I'm talking about. I refuse to let any of you all have me thinking I'm some naive slut. I am 28 years old and ACT like my age and yes one day want to be married. I do have alot of respect for myself and when he came over if you read in the other threads I TOLD YA"LL THAT HE JUST GOT BACK IN TOWN......and that's why he came over so he can "give me my gift", but once he didn't I kicked him right out of my house. I'm on top of my sh#$t!
Motor35 Posted February 21, 2007 Posted February 21, 2007 STOP IT with the comments about this guy working at WalMart. He is working and paying taxes and is a member of society. And NIKI, you want gifts from this guy? Is that ALL you want? Seriously. You really thought this guy was going to bring you something of value at 1am?!?!
Davis Posted February 22, 2007 Posted February 22, 2007 I'm giving you grief because the impression from your posts is that you're a little immature for 28 and you need some direction. Why would you want a gift from a guy that's a user and justs wants a piece? Just because it's VD? Kinda shallow of you! By the way, the saying is kicked to the "CURB" not "CURVE"!! I still don't think you show your age in your posts. So what if he "just got back in town". You let him come over at 1 am! So, shame on him for disrespecting you and shame on you for letting him disrespect you, being so shallow and using him for a "gift"! By the way, believe it or not, we're on your side (including me) and trying to help you see reality and drop this guy like a hot rock so you can find a worthwhile guy!
Author NIKI 28 Posted February 22, 2007 Author Posted February 22, 2007 Okay look, I am so done with this situation okay. He is the one that is still calling me. I'm not answering the phone, so he is the one kicking his self in the nuts right about now because whether or not this chat make me seem like I'm childish and don't have a clue of what's going on. I really do and he realizes that I was a dime piece, so now life goes on and I'm done. I may have to call the cops on him because he told me that I'm not going anywhere and if I do he will hurt me.... Anymore comments??
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