candykisses Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 A couple of weeks ago, I asked the guy I'm interested in out to dinner and a movie with another couple, and he was going to go but was too tired from work to go out. I thought things were going to be wierd between us (don't know why, just did) but they haven't. In fact our friendship as become a lot stronger, which is great. When he has a bad day or something he will call to vent or just to talk. Last week I left he a message but he didn't get a chance to read it, so he called me to see what I had said and he asked me if it was something nasty. A little flirting going on between us then. So I decided to resend him the message and I also asked him if he wanted to catch a movie, if he wasn't busy. He didn't reply or call, so I felt like I have been reading the signs wrong. I saw him a few days after that and he waited till I was by myself and came over to me and just kind of lingered for a few minutes, saying a word here and there and then all of a sudden he goes "I got your message late or else I would have gone". Does it sound like he was shy about telling me that? He always returns my calls pretty quick. If I don't answer his calls and I call him back, he is like where are you? what are you doing? To me this is more than just friendship, am I wrong? Does it sound like he is interested? My next question is...should I ask him out again or wait for him? The past two times I have asked he was tired or he already had plans.
the_total_package Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 you're already making it (overly) obvious you're interested. don't ask him out anymore and don't call him. if he's interested, he'll come around. I don't think he's interested in anything serious with you, personally, casual dating or fwbs at the most or he'd be more enthusiastic about doing things with you and he'd be initiating going out with you. I can't stress enough, don't pursue anymore.
WaterPolo Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 It sounds like there is some chemistry between both of you, but I would wait until he makes a move... it seems like he's sending you mixed messages. My guess is he likes you by the way he acts around you, but I find it strange he hasn't made a greater effort to spend time with you when you've invited him out. I'd give him some space, and see what happens.
Violet_Sky Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 you have to pull back, no texts, emails, nada. He has to be a man and ask you out for real. Personally I think he's just leading you on, he likes the attention from a woman, but he doesn't intend on following through with dating you or anything. I'm not seeing him seeing you as anything more than a friends with benefits.
clueless24 Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 i agree with the other posts, i dont think that you should be making all the efforts. you have already asked him twice, the least he could do is to take you out and make up for the past two times he brushed you off. i dont read signals from guys very well either, but you seem to be into him more than he's into you. he needs to learn to appreciate you or else there is no use in wasting more time on him. good luck:)
Sand&Water Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 RE: Candykisses, STOP contacting him. STOP letting out unnecessary information. STOP calling him. STOP asking him out. STOP making a fool out of yourself. Just live your life -and make the most of it -happy and smiling your way through. WHEN he does call -keep it brief, to the point, and make it clear to him that you have a life. Otherwise: Find someone else. Sand&Water
confucious Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 You may want to consider the idea he might be nervous/anxiety ridden. Perhaps it is easy for him to communicate with you at work, via email etc., but when it comes to a formal "date" he gets stressed and pleads too tired. Then again - perhaps the above posters are right... Good luck!
Author candykisses Posted February 18, 2007 Author Posted February 18, 2007 The thing with him being tired was that he works a really crappy schedule, he works past midnight on Friday nights and then has to be back by 8 Saturday morning and has to work at least 10 hours on Saturday, so I believe him when he told me he was tired. He called me when he left work and as soon as he got home and only then did he decide not to go out. The drive to my place is at least half hour and by the time he would have gotten to my place, he would have only be able to maybe go get dinner, since he has to be up at 4 the next morning. Plus we usually talk on the phone Saturday evenings and he is always tired and yawning...so I don't believe he used it as a way to get out of going out. I guess I didn't explain the reason as to why he said he was tired in my orignal post. Don't know if this changes anything but just thought I would give a little more info. If I thought for one minute that he used it as an excuse, then I wouldn't even be thinking about trying to go out with him again.
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