Rainer Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 Wow, I'm living that moment when you realise that you have to move on and get on with your life...but you dont know what to do. I get out of bed everyday, I got to work, I do stuff I'm interested in, yet there is this dull ache of the loss that was my life before we broke up a couple of months ago. I dont know what ther future holds, I'm hopeful...I just have no idea what direction I'm heading in. I fell like my life reverted back to my old life before him, but it hasnt changed in any way. I hope it will pass soon. Anyone know what this feels like?
RocketMan2 Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 Most definately! Im in exactly the same situation No advice I'm afraid, but if you have any ideas for what I can do with my life, shout up lol Rocket
ratingsguy Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 We all know what it's like and we're all there with you. It will pass, but for now it will hurt and consume the majority of your thoughts. But like most people say, it will get better. For me, this may sound shallow, but one of the things I'm having a hard time getting past is that fact that my ex had money. She's worth a few million dollars and promised me trips all over the world, we'd go out all the time, etc. I treated her as much as I could, but she felt the need to spend money on me more often than not. Now that we're no longer together, I'm back to my tiny one bedroom apartment and living on a budget. For me, that's tough... to be exposed to one lifestyle then to be thrown back into your old one. Again, call me shallow if you must. Of course that's not the reason I miss her... I do love her very deeply for much more important reasons. I'm working as hard as I can to maintain NC so I can move on. Currently on day 13. Today I woke up wondering if we'll ever get back together or if I just don't fit in her world. I know I'll get over this eventually. We all will... then we'll probably disappear from this forum.
FallenTree Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 Yeah I've been there, too. One day, you'll realize you haven't thought about this ex person until something random reminds you of him. The other day, after one of the classes I teach, I saw a student that reminded me of my ex, but it didn't bother me at all. That is always a great turning point.
DyingHeart Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 Yep, I know how you feel. I've only been seperated from my ex for about 3 months. I can go on doing what I want to do, but still, there is this empty part of me. When he left, it's almost like he took a bit of my soul with him. Now, whenever I accomplish something, my first instinct is to call him up and let him know the great news, as he has been apart of my life for a very long time, and he was always supportive of what I would do. So, I know exactly how you feel. In time, you will start to feel better, and that hole in your heart will mend itself. Keep yourself strong, and give yourself some time and you'll be much better in the long run. Hang in there, Chrissi
aaaaaiiiiieeeee Posted February 17, 2007 Posted February 17, 2007 The pain is just beneath the surface oppressing your heart. It feels as though you'll never be able to open up again. I haven't gotten passed this stage, but I've heard somewhere that people actually have gotten passed it It takes time so don't rush yourself and you'll see the future opening up.
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